Today my best friend for 7 years, dumped me completely out of the blue. She said she felt neglected because I hadn't phoned her for two weeks and now she never wants to speak to me again. I hardly felt this was a reason for such a heartbreaking dismissal, but I know she's apparently had other problems during this time and I haven't helped.
On Thursday we got our final A level results, so I phoned her to make sure she did ok and got into uni, but she wouldnt pick up. i tried again and again, for the next 3 days but nothing. Today she IMed me telling me she wants nothing to do with me and it broke my heart. I know i've been busy and haven't spoken to her for a while, but do you think this is fair? All our 7 years, just broken like that? Or did I deserve what I got? It's not like I betrayed her or did anything to purposely hurt her. I didn't realise our friendship was so fragile.
I think its a tragic waste. But maybe I should just get over it... What do you think?
2006-08-20 11:24:03 · 16 answers · asked by bOb 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
but don't you think she could have called me?
and im a girl...
2006-08-20 11:42:58 · update #1
she'll be going off to university this year anyway so maybe we were bound to drift apart, but like this? I think if i don't make up with her now, I'll never be able to. And I think thats such a shame.
But on the other hand, she'd made her feelings perfectly clear. Should I bother? Why try be friends with someone who doesn't want you?
2006-08-20 12:01:07 · update #2
thanks for all your advice, you've all helped me a lot. i doubt she'll ever talk to me again though, and if she does, i doubt i can forgive her for the pain she's caused me. I'm a hopeless romantic so things like this always cut deeply. She also owes me money...
2006-08-21 11:52:07 · update #3
When someone makes it that clear, you just have to move on.
I've had people do similar things to me, and I decided that it was not my job to keep trying to be friends with someone who didn't want me for a friend. It's always nicer to have a reason, but life is not perfect.
2006-08-20 11:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using that excuse to dump you,after 7 years,what kind of idiot will dump a best friend just because of that,felt neglected?you are her best friend,not boyfriend.Sometimes,from time to time,we may hurt our best friends feeling without even noticing it,but a true friend would never blame as you will do the same if she treated you the same,you should be heart broken for spending 7 years with someone that is not worth it,I not trying to make your friend look bad so you feel better,but that the truth.
Why you want feel hurt for someone like that.get over it,and get to know new friends,she wasted 7 years of your time,should you let her waste more if your time?You might have sweet memories together,but it seems she already forget it since she just dumped you like that,so dump that everything that is about her!EVERYTHING!!
2006-08-20 19:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now young man! If you both have been friends for 7 years why would you let 24 hours go buy with out calling her or seeing her!!!!!!! You can't let good friends go just that easy! Make the special effort and buy her some really nice flowers or do something really really special to make her feel like she is very special and that you would never let that much time go buy with out communicating with her again!
Communication is the master key to keeping a woman happy! You have got to convince her that she is important to you and so is your friendship together!
2006-08-20 18:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sensualbracelet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was hurt that you didn't bother with her for so long and now that you are finally trying to talk to her she is letting you know she is upset by being angry and ignoring you. If she was your best friend for 7 years she will get over it and you will be friends again I'm sure.
Wait a few days and just tell her you're sorry you haven't talked to her for awhile but you still want to be friends with her. I'm sure she will come around.
2006-08-20 18:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jenniphur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend seems to be going though some difficult times right now. Be patient and give her some time she may come around.7 years is a long time. Don't dismiss your friendship just like that. I wish you and your friend the best.
2006-08-20 18:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly there is something else going on with your friend. If I were you I would let things cool down for a while and then try talking to her again. A frienship of 7 years doesnt just break like that for no real good reason.
Best of luck
2006-08-20 18:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by lala g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it some time she may come around. I have had this happen and when we did give each other the space we always ended up back together as best friends.You not calling her just made her feel that you weren't there for her anymore. If the friendship is worth it she will come back.
2006-08-20 18:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by cutegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you got what you deserve,,, if she was your best friend then you would make the time no matter what to phone her and talk to her even if its 2 mintues. she probally thought that you should have been there and helped her through her problems.. i would not wanna talk to you becasue she probally is hurt,,, hello now you are alone and it does not feel very good huh. just like she felt when you did not call her
2006-08-20 18:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's her loss. She was just looking for an excuse to hurt you. I have friends that I haven't communicated with in months and we're still friends. We just pick up where we left off. Make a new best friend; one that you can trust.
2006-08-20 18:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the mature one out of the deal. Text her and let her know that no matter what happen, you'll be there. That is what a true friend would do....she will realize the significance and will bury thre hatchet sooner or later....
2006-08-20 18:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋