I have a good friend who is lesbian. About a year and a half ago she was openly gay and started to dress more guy like. Like all strict church going mothers...she flipped out! Her mom found out about her openly gay myspace and ordered her to cancel it. She also made her go to counceling at her local church about her being gay. Her mom figured that she needed to talk to someone because its "just a phase". Not only did her mom make her go to counseling but she is no longer going to my school because of the large population of gay teens there. Instead her mom made the retarded and completely stupid idea of putting her in an ALL GIRLS school!! Personally i think that was a really stupid thing to do if you want to "heal" your daughter from being gay. As a lesbian myself i think that this is horrible and stupid! I just want to know what you think of this situation. Was it smart or dumb? Be honest.!
2006-08-20 11:23:35 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's a very stupid move!
First off you cannot CURE someone of being gay/les. That is the way they are born, and always will be.
Counceling will not help, because it's not 'just a phase'. The mother should obviously see that the girl is honest and trully this way and she should at least not persicute her for it.
She can't really do anything about the MySpace thing since she's living with her mother right now. But it's still isn't right.
She shouldn't withdraw her from her friends and school atmosphere just because there are lots of gay/les. people attending. And how stupid is it to put her in an all girls school OMG. That is like putting a kid in a room full of candy lOl.
I just hope this doens't hurt your friend.. or discourage her from being who she really is. And also I hope that her mother learns that she CANNOT change her daughter.
Hope this helps some!
-JASMINE
2006-08-20 11:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by allyouwishfour 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want your daughter to stop being Lesbian, it's not a good idea to put her in an all girls school. That's just common sense. And for her mother to not be there for her daughter is cruel. No matter what religion, ethnicity, sexual preference, or gender, parents should be there for their kids. "Just a phase" is a cop-out, denial-like phrase, and someone should get her to realize that being Gay or Lesbian, more often than not, isn't a phase. Good luck!
2006-08-20 20:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that this was destructive to the mother-daughter relationship on the long term. In the all-girls school, they may keep such a sharp eye on her that she hasn't a chance, or maybe she'll just meet more girls and have twice the chance of meeting another lesbian or bi girl, with no boys for competition.
But parents act out of what the believe is right. At least they didn't try to have her de-programmed at one of those camps or hospitals that specialize in such things.
2006-08-20 18:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally DUMB move on her mom's part.....especially sending her to "church counseling".
What a joke!
If anyone needs counceling in that family, it's definitely the mother!
Hopefully your friend will be 18 soon and be able to get out of the family trap she's in.
Hopefully your friend's mother will someday realize that it's not her fault that her daughter is gay.
Parents tend to do that to themselves....blaming themself for their child being gay. It's so sad.
But....this is what religion does to people....what can I say?
2006-08-20 18:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pardon my laughter, but that was pretty darned dumb! I don't mean to imply any looseness of morals, but putting your lesbian daughter in an all girl school to "cure" her is about as smart as forcing your obese child to work at a buffet restaurant that offers a substantial employee discount. Better yet, it's as smart as making your gay son join the priesthood!
2006-08-20 23:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well now her daughter gets to really find out if she's a lesbian and make sure it's not a phase lol. No seriously though, on the mother's behalf this was a mistake...i mean come on, that'd be like my parents sending me to an all boys school.....yum!
2006-08-20 22:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this girls mother is ignorant... and her move will only make her daughter hate her. Tell your friend to look on the brightside because there is bound to be a few cute lesbian girls in her new school.
2006-08-20 19:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by junkee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so badly for my friends. My parents accept me for being gay but don't like the fact that I am. I just don't flaunt my relationship in front of them and then everything is ok.
I think it was dumb for her parents to send her to an all girls school also. Do the never watch tv? I hope that your friends someone that she deserves.
2006-08-20 18:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if it was "just a phase", your friend's mom is making it worse by assuming that she can force her daughter to conform to her views. Whether your friend is genuinely gay, or she was just experimenting, she is not likely to change her behavior in response to such tactics. Or worse (for the mom) if it really was "just a phase", and her mom forced her to repress her feelings and urges, they could resurface later in life, and she may not be able to deal with them.
I always think it is a bad idea to try to force your child to change. It never worked on me when I was a kid. I still went out and drank, stayed out all night, etc...all the things my parents didn't want me to do. I think I turned out OK in the end. You need to let your kids be who they are.
2006-08-20 18:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Danzarth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And what stops your friend from finding another lesbian like her who is in the same situation?
Mom is making a big mistake, as if being a lesbian is the latest fad.
2006-08-20 18:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋