Okay, my hubby currently has a job, but he has been wanting this other job for like a year. So I had this friend who's hubby works there, so I asked her to help him get a job. So her hubby kinda pulled some strings and my hubby got an interview and got a job offer. now he is saying maybe he doesn't want the job. So, should I tell him to take it or else? It pays better and has better benefits, but suckier hours.
2006-08-20 11:17:47 · 16 answers · asked by messijessi 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
DEFINATELY TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL; NEVER HOLD BACK THERE; THEN ADRESS THE PRO'S AND CON'S OF THE JOB; I WOULD THEN REMIND HIM OF THE PEOPLE WHO WENT OUT OF THEIR WAY TO HELP HIM OUT; THEN I WOULD THROW THIS KICKER IN; PEOPLE STRUGGLE EVERYDAY LOOKING FOR A JOB JUST TO FEED THEIR FAMILY; AND NOW HE HAS NOT JUST ONE BUT TWO;; FORGIVE ME FOR NOT HAVING A WHOLE LOT OF PITTY FOR THE FELLA; BUT IN THE LONG RUN IT IS HIS CHOICE; AND HE IS THE ONE WHO WILL HAVE TO GO TO THIS JOB DAY AFTER DAY;
P.S. YOU KNOW THAT THE OR ELSE NEVER WORKS; YOU TRUSTED HIM ENOUGH TO MARRY HIM I THINK YOU CAN TRUST HIM IN THIS AS WELL;
2006-08-20 11:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by acelalagagoober 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your hubby should work where he will be the happiest. How would you feel if he told you that you have to change jobs or better yet go to work. If he's been at the other company for a long time he has vacation and possibly retirement built up with the other company. If he really wanted this new job he would've jumped all over it. Maybe he wants better hours so he can spend the time with you! :)
However, it was very nice of you to go out of your way to get him the interview. It is always nice to have options.
2006-08-20 18:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Deanna C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he feels negative about the position, then he will probably not like working there. There will be tension about him going to work, and he may blame you for urging him to take the job. What happens if he dislikes it enough to quit? Then he is unemployed, and you are back at square one. There probably is a job he would like to do which pays better if he continues looking.
Another reason may be he feels insecure about changing jobs. He has talked about doing this job for awhile, and maybe now that it is within reach, he has doubts about his capabilities to do the job. I have seen situations where people unconsciously sabotage their chances to succeed in a position simply due to self-doubt. I would discuss this job change further with your husband, whatever you do, do not deliver an ultimatum.
2006-08-20 19:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Freddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him, and explain to him how you feel. More than likely, what is going on is he is afraid to step out of this sure thing for an unknown (a bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush...). It is a natural fear, and something we all feel when trying something new. Don't get angry about this, don't throw a guilt trip on him -- put yourself in his shoes, and see how it would feel to you. What you should be doing is being a loving and supporting wife, encouraging him, and telling him no matter what you will be there for him. That will do wonders for his ego - and he may surprise you by going for the unknown (and it is an unknown for HIM, no matter how many friends you have working there - he has still never worked there, and with those people...).
2006-08-20 18:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-20 21:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ranjita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like an "or else" situation. He must have reasons for not wanting to take the job. Or, he might be afraid to change jobs. Discuss it with him. Give him your opinion. Then let him be an adult and make his own decision.
2006-08-20 18:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by joker_32605 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other person -you have done all you can do. It is his decision to make. If you make him take the job and he does not like it you would never hear the end of it. He would be saying "Well, you made me take this job i hate" and all that. Just let him decide.
2006-08-20 18:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him to take the job while he still can because the other job might be worst and also he might not get the other job either...so he should take the opportunity that is right in front of him instead of waiting for something that he might not even get.
2006-08-20 18:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Fashion Divah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money is not everything, unless you are almost living on the street, And a job you are happy with is important,
perhaps you should discuss why he does not want it, and consider what the new hours would do to the family
2006-08-20 18:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he take it if he's been wanting it. If he's not going to be happy with the new job he shouldn't have to take it.
2006-08-20 18:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋