Is He cheating?

Question

I just found a few things inside of his medicine cabinet at his house which I found very strange. He had self-tanning lotion that was half-way used up and he had a box of Ponds face-strips as well. He lives with two guys, both co-workers (one is 40 years old and the other is mid-20s and my boyfriend is 23) and no girls ever come over that house. He also has a collection of DVD's and I found the movie The Wedding Planner and i can't recall if that movie has been in his room before. (all of these items seem very girlie to me) Also, just today I noticed he had a couple bruises on his arm and I asked him where he got that from and he said a girl named, Angi at work pinched him because he told her he had a very high pain tolerance. These bruises look about 3 days old and it looks like a girls thumb print on his upper arm (like as if somebody grabbed him).

We have been together just over a 1 1/2, we just had a baby girl, she is 3 months old now. yahoo is not letting me write more!

Answer 1

You guys have a baby and you DON'T Live Together?????????

WTF? Are you Still in High School and living with your parents?

Do yourself a favor and discover Birth control!

Answer 2

The products you found could be used by a male. Does the 40 yr old have any daughters that come visit? I am sure his kids come and visit if he had any. A guy could like that movie too, my husband wanted to watch it just to see Jennifer Lopez.As far as the friend at work -that could have happened too. Does he ever smell like other women-like womens perfume? Is he with you every weekend night? Has he been dressing different or wearing his hair in a new style? Has he been just "out of pocket" lately. You have to have some trust. Just don't worry about it -even if he is there are more fish in the sea.

Answer 3

i hate the feeling of 'is he cheating' every one always says 'maybe u shouldnt b together if u dont trust him' but thats the no the case. u can love some 1 wiv out the trust, even if it is hard.

And what is harder is telling him u dont trust him coz then all of a sudden it looks bad on u which makes u more suspicious.

Whay not make a job of the tan stuff and the ponds? say summit like 'ok, so which gay uses to ladies stuff?' u never knwo, maybe one of them is gay?? but some guys do use that stuff too.

About the DVD, guys always watch dvd's, they always get bored, too and the other may have said, 'here, watch this'...

And to be honest, do u reackon ur guy would leave that stuff out if he was cheatin on u? would he not try to hide it?

i know how ur feeling though and it sucks big time. xx

Answer 4

Gently strike up the conversation one item at a time. Say, "Hey I was wondering what you had a need for selftanning lotion, you look great..." Leave it open ended. Watch facial expressions and body language as he answers. If you all have been together for a year and a half, you know what he does or doesnt do when he lies. And if you dont get anywhere bring up the next item in question, and so on and so forth. Good luck

Answer 5

i dont think these things sound very incriminating- my bf used ponds pore strips and face wash...he just likes to be clean i guess as for the tanning lotion.....guys often have very white legs cuz there always wearing pants....if this is all your worried about its not a big deal...but if you are becoming distanced and he has been ignoring you or going out with "friends" a lot more than usual then you might be alarmed and even then if you is cheating its his loss right? wish you the best

Answer 6

You've been together for 1 1/2...years?
He lives with two male roomates?
You have a baby together and don't live together?
Strange situation, first of all.

About the cheating... it seems like your evidence is pretty thin. Why are you looking for evidence of him cheating? There must be another reason besides the ones you mentioned.

Why don't you live together, if you've started a family together?
That's what I can't figure out.

Answer 7

Talk to him. There is nothing worse than keep wondering about something that may not be real. Let him know how you are feeling but at the moment you are telling this...don't get angry just be strong and look him straight to his eyes. If you have been for such a long time together he may be decent to answer with the truth.

Answer 8

this is the problem with people having children out of wedlock.
you should have married the guy and make your kid legitimate.

OF COURSE he is probably playing around. Why the Hell not, he lives in a swinging bachelor pad.
But with the ponds face cream and The Wedding Planner, if he's not got a girlfriend then I am afraid he might be gay

Answer 9

i dont think the things you found mean any thing, if your curious about them ask him whats he gonna do bite your head off. relationships should be straight forward, up front, and honest . if you want to know something just ask you will know by his answer if hes lieing or not. and if hes lying then go from there. some woman think all the time the man is cheating on them and they accually do run them off by always accusing them , i hope you are not one of them . i am married and have been for 27 years and ive seen alot of women run off thier man because of thing like accusing them when they have no proof or the guy isnt even acting wierd. and if you find out he is cheating then kick him to the curb..

Answer 10

I certainly hope ur guy's not cheating. I'm not sure what to say about the items u found, but maybe they belong to one of his roommates? Perhaps u should confront him, but be casual about it. Say jokingly, "Honey...I didn't know u were so into chick flicks and facial hygiene?! What's up w/ that?" Watch his reaction and see what he says. I hope things work out. Use ur judgment but don't overreact. There's prob a reasonable explanation, but have ur guard up just in case. Good blessings! Let me know the outcome :)

Answer 11

I wouldn't think too much about the medicine cabinet or the movies maybe one of the guys is more concerned about his appearance than most and they may like movies....about the bruises I wouldn't think much more than that just playful....but I wouldn't rule anything out. I think most women have a sixth sense about things and I think you need to talk to him about it.