Am I truly growing up too fast?

Question

I'm 13 and others have said that I'm growing too quickly for my age. While most other girls my age are staring at boys and gushing over boy bands, I'm writing a song or a story that will terrify them. While most others are concerned about touching up their makeup during lunch, I am thinking of questions that no one but God could truly answer. While others are out hanging out with eachother after school, I am at home searching the Internet for the few of my questions that can be answered. But the ones that can't that are based on beliefs (such as "Where did we come from?") continue to haunt me. Don't get me wrong... I have my outbursts where I just want to be a normal teenager, but they never truly last. Do others think of this, or am I the only one my age?

Answer 1

Each person marches to his/her own drummer. You are just marching at a different beat than most.

Answer 2

Do you feel depressed? Depression can often lead to one asking oneself unanswerable questions about life. Other than that possibility, I think you just seem a little deeper, more intelligent and more mature than other girls your age might be. Perhaps you have a slightly obsessive nature. I know how it feels to be haunted by questions and thoughts that can't be solved, and have put it down to myself being a deep thinker. I definitely have an obsessive personality and can think about the same thing for weeks or months on end, even if I don't want to. I wasn't your typical 13 year old either, and didn't really fall hopelessly in love with someone (it was Johnny Depp) until I was about 15. I still spend a lot of my time obsessing over things, fantasising about different lives, the meaning behind what happens, and loads of other stuff that there isn't enough space to go into. If you feel the same way, I wouldn't worry. You're not an abnormal person, and not growing up too fast. You just have a more mature mind than most, and sound like a really intelligent girl. All will come right in the end.

Answer 3

No, i was the same way. Be glad, but just keep in mind that while you have more maturity and wisdom than most kids your age, you still dont have the knowledge or experience of an adult.

I was very advanced in my reasoning and maturity my whole life, and by 16 I thought i knew everything. I worked my butt off to graduate at 16... and i did. But i wish to God i didnt. I missed out on a lot of the growing up process that just requires time.

not to mention the social skills that interacting with people my age provided.

Its frustraiting i know. Just wait until you're college age... everyone your age will be running around like idiots, and you'll be trying to make something of yourself, and they'll all think your stupid.

Answer 4

everyone is different your just way more mature than the rest. I have never met any 13 year old that has the mental capacity to think like that and i am 21. wow i dont even think like that that. good for you. but i think you should still go out with your friends and things like that. dress your self up and do makeup and things like that people will be really impressed when you get to high school and you look good and have real intellegence thats amazing . Your gonna be great.

Answer 5

there is nothing wrong with you. As the previous writer have stated you are just more mature than your peers. You may take a lot of flack for it, but just stay true to yourself. Never stop searching for your answers. That's great that you are not influenced by superfical thoughts and ideas.

Sounds like you and I have something in common. I'm 27 and still searching!

Answer 6

I study interior the newspaper that if Atheism replaced right into a faith it would be the quickest growing to be interior the international. They have been polling teenagers, coming up at school and asked what faith replaced into their mum and dad and if that they had a call might they be that faith? very practically all stated no. that is composed of Islamic faith. so they may be having the main little ones, yet are those little ones accepting their mum and dad faith. while asked while they knew it does not be common what they stated they rejected their mum and dad faith. That blanketed Catholic, Baptist and all different religions. So the subsequent era would fool you. they are able to work out the out come of non secular ideals and that they are greater clever knowledgeable than their mum and dad and that they are recommended and rejecting faith. in case you doubt it look on the information of beginning administration. The Catholic church is against it, and yet ninety 8 % of Catholics stated they used beginning administration. So if the church homes having that plenty effect on peoples lives as they use to?

Answer 7

im am 15 now, but when i was 13 i was the same way. all my friends wondered why i didnt crush over boys the way they did. it is normal and no you are not growing up to fast. it will all catch up to eventually but for now you just have other things that you have to worry about. im sure you are having a lot of fun doing the things you do but try do do someother things like you friends because in the end you will be wishing you did. if you want to talk my e-mail address is [e-mail]. i have messenger to.

Answer 8

i am a 40 yr old mom it sounds pretty normal to me all kids wonder the same things you do i think its great your not boy crazy wearing make-up like christina agularia you have time for all that and now is not your time so you keep doing what your doing theres nothing wrong with it and that doesnt make u growup to fast all the other things you mentioned are making girls grow up too fast so keep up the good work

Answer 9

You are truely discovering yourself and it sounds great! Make sure you do things your heart desires and make sure you have time to be a kid. I am 23 and sometimes I wish I could be a kid again without the worries. But I know you can be a kid the rest of your life. Spend everyday doing things you want to do and not what people think you should do. Good uck you sound brillant.

Answer 10

Im sure others think that way too. As long as you are happy and well adjusted I don't see any problems in your thinking. You just seem to be more mature and less superficial than most teens.... thats not a bad thing especially these days.

Answer 11

I often find myself conjuring a very similar question, as I constantly am consumed with thoughts far beyond the capacity of my peers, and with that, further than a point of answering in general. While I do search for greater meaning and depth of understanding, I would actually consider myself to be the polar opposite of an existentialist. I feel as though my perception of life and the world which surrounds me is far more thorough and intuitive than that of most adults, or even distinguished members of society whom are well educated etc. My greatest conclusions and manifestations are those which I find rooted deep within my soul. I too am only 13, therefore my views are often underestimated and ineffectual, but I am content with that. As a very religious Catholic myself, I am satisfied with insights shared only with myself and the Lord, including those reflections over looked by most which I savor and analyze. While is it often disheartening to be ridiculed for my intellect, I bear in mind that it is those who instead of indulging in every particle of a thought or the diverse opinions of another which may help them grow as an individual, find it a hindrance and in turn disrespect it, who I feel will suffer. I am civil with those in my class who, though I do like them and respect them, I find it hard to connect with them on a more profound level, and aside from my one best friend, I am yet to come across any connection or level of compatibility. Instead of embracing my maturity, it is harassed, but I remain strong in the face of adversity. It is not you, nor I who should worry about our development, for if we compared ourselves to others in society, and made that regulation, we would never develop any further, and those thoughts which we now find far from attainable, will eternally remain so. Do not be discouraged. Always be yourself, even if that means sacrificing being an “ordinary” teenager who defines themselves with tangible things, or their physical appearance, for an extraordinary member of humanity. Good luck, and do contact me sometime!