Y do men always try to get with a woman with low selfesteem?

Answer 1

Men may do this subconsciously, i have noticed on reflection that I could be one of those men, but have never made the conscious choice to find a woman with low self-eesteem.

Answer 2

Who says they do? Some of us men happen to actually _like_ intelligent, decisive women who know what they want and feel good about themselves. Wishy-washy or clingy women is not every man's ideal of the perfect mate.

No doubt there are some men who prefer low self-esteemed women, but in my experience they are definitely in the minority. Such men often seem to have masculinity issues, so pairing up with a low self-esteemed woman would be a way to feel more empowered and/or "manly".

So ironically, you could say that the men who prefer low self-esteemed women are themselves probably lacking in self-esteem. That being the case, you might also ask why women with low self-esteem also try to get with a man with low self-esteem.

Answer 3

I don't think they do. The men who do that may do so because it raises their self esteem but otherwise it could be that they find someone who is shy, attractive. There are a multitude of reasons so generalization is not and would not be helpful except to produce an incorrect, and usually offensive, stereotype.

Answer 4

Not all men for sure... and It could happen that you are meeting one kind of men doing this to only you... it looks like it is a matching occurence.
Try to change yourself and the men you usually attract.

Answer 5

it is very easy to control a person with low selfesteem, and it doesnt matter if it is male or female. a person with low selfesteem doesnt really know wat they want. so it is easy to get them to do wat it is that you wanna do.

Answer 6

because they're easy, you learn that on day 1 of man school

Answer 7

because then they can walk all over her and she will continue to stay with the scuzz because she feels she can't do any better

Answer 8

power over them

Answer 9

because it is easier to make them feel better when you show them how much they are, or could be, making them more open to sex

Answer 10

These type of men have low self esteem and always go after women that have low self esteem so he can make himself feel better; however, this never works. We improve our self esteem and self worth from within and through being humble, kind and charitable.

Let thy abowels also be full of charity towards all men, and to the household of faith, and let bvirtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly; then shall thy cconfidence wax strong in the dpresence of God; and the doctrine of the priesthood shall distil upon thy soul as the edews from heaven.

The Women in Our Lives
President Gordon B. Hinckley



How thankful I am, how thankful we all must be, for the women in our lives.

Gordon B. Hinckley, “The Women in Our Lives,” Ensign, Nov. 2004, 82
My brethren and sisters, at the outset, if you will bear with me, I wish to exercise a personal privilege. Six months ago, at the close of our conference, I stated that my beloved companion of 67 years was seriously ill. She passed away two days later. It was April 6, a significant day to all of us of this Church. I wish to thank publicly the dedicated doctors and wonderful nurses who attended her during her final illness.

My children and I were at her bedside as she slipped peacefully into eternity. As I held her hand and saw mortal life drain from her fingers, I confess I was overcome. Before I married her, she had been the girl of my dreams, to use the words of a song then popular. She was my dear companion for more than two-thirds of a century, my equal before the Lord, really my superior. And now in my old age, she has again become the girl of my dreams.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

“And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman” (Gen. 2:20–23).

And so Eve became God’s final creation, the grand summation of all of the marvelous work that had gone before.

Notwithstanding this preeminence given the creation of woman, she has so frequently through the ages been relegated to a secondary position. She has been put down. She has been denigrated. She has been enslaved. She has been abused. And yet some few of the greatest characters of scripture have been women of integrity, accomplishment, and faith.

We have Esther, Naomi, and Ruth of the Old Testament. We have Sariah of the Book of Mormon. We have Mary, the very mother of the Redeemer of the world. We have her as the chosen of God, described by Nephi as “a virgin, most beautiful and fair above all other virgins” (1 Ne. 11:15).

She it was who carried the child Jesus into Egypt to save His life from the wrath of Herod. She it was who nurtured Him in His boyhood and young manhood. She stood before Him when His pain-wracked body hung upon the cross on Calvary’s hill. In His suffering He said to her, “Woman, behold thy son!” And to His disciple in a plea that he care for her, He said, “Behold thy mother!” (John 19:26–27).

Crossing through His life we have Mary and Martha, and Mary of Magdala. She it was who came to the tomb that first Easter morning. And to her, a woman, He first appeared as the resurrected Lord. Why is it that even though Jesus placed woman in a position of preeminence, so many men who profess His name fail to do so?

In His grand design, when God first created man, He created a duality of the sexes. The ennobling expression of that duality is found in marriage. One individual is complementary to the other. As Paul stated, “Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Cor. 11:11).

There are some men who, in a spirit of arrogance, think they are superior to women. They do not seem to realize that they would not exist but for the mother who gave them birth. When they assert their superiority they demean her. It has been said, “Man can not degrade woman without himself falling into degradation; he can not elevate her without at the same time elevating himself” (Alexander Walker, in Elbert Hubbard’s Scrap Book [1923], 204).

How very true that is. We see the bitter fruit of that degradation all about us. Divorce is one of its results. This evil runs rampant through our society. It is the outcome of disrespect for one’s marriage partner. It manifests itself in neglect, in criticism, in abuse, in abandonment.

Jesus declared, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matt. 19:6).

Every woman is a daughter of God. You cannot offend her without offending Him.

Gordon B. Hinckley is the President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints of which I am proud to be a member of.

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The above words come from a true and living prophet on the earth today. I testify to you that our Heavenly Father did not intend for any of his daughters to be abused.

Find a man that inspires you to be the best you can be and one that gives you wings to fly. One who adores you and respects you. You are a daughter of God.