should my mom be allowed 2 read my diary??????

Question

i m 14 yrs old and all my secrets r in there

Answer 1

Just an FYI, if you don't let her read it and you hide it, she will find it and read it, but you will never know she did this until you are 18.

My mother did this to me and she told me on my 18th birthday that she had read it. The best thing to do is to write in code, she will never figure out what it means.

Answer 2

Okay. I remember when I was 14, no one respected my privacy, and everyone treated me like a child. Truth is, I was a lot wiser than my friends, so I felt the need for privacy. The best thing to do is to sit down and let her know how you feel about her reading your diary. Be sure to keep an open mind about what she will say to you. What I did was the day I turned 15 I told my mom I needed more privacy, and she respected me more for coming and telling her this, in return she redid my room, gave me my own bathroom, and bought me a computer with a finger print scanner so that only I could get in. So talking really is the best way. Whatever you do keep calm, and don't yell. Be persuasive, and you'll most likely get what you want. Hope it works out!

Answer 3

No... but I feel your pain... my mom's nosy. She's paranoid all the time that I'm doing something I shouldn't be, but really some of us need that little space to vent and show our emotions on paper, things we don't want anyone else to know about. Now, you're fortunate, you've probably got more space to hide it from her in your room. When I had a good sized room, I found that the absolute best hiding place was behind my mirror, which was so close to the wall it didn't look like you'd be able to fit it in there-- but I could, and she NEVER found it. Another good idea is to put a decoy somewhere in a more obvious place, and put innocent little things in there, nothing serious, nothing you wouldn't mind her finding out about. Then you've got your real one in a less likely to be found place, and your mom will never know. And a little more... I've learned that if you pre-enter your diary entry into a translation site and make it a foreign language, that works pretty well, also. Most of my entries are combinations of French and Finnish.

Answer 4

You have no secrets from your parents at 14 because you have no life beyond their care and provision.

If your mother trusted you she wouldnt have a reason to read your private entries, but if you have provided cause for doubt then she might very well read your diary.

Being 14 feels like being an adult, but your parents owe you the service of continuing to monitor and train you until you turn 18.

Be glad your mom actually cares about you and your activities. A lot of moms dont, and those kids turn out miserable and troubled.

I thought my life was over when i was 15 and my mom read all my secret letters to and from friends. I got in a ton of trouble for the stuff we talked about. But she only did it because I was sneaking around and she knew i was into something bad. Iam glad she cared enough. I only THOUGHT i knew everything, now as an adult having my first baby, i know i didnt know anything.

You will survive.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, its not a law that your parents can't read your diary. In fact many do that just to find out what you've been up to. You can however, keep it in a secret hiding place. Everyone should be able to write what they feel without fear of it being found but usually what is written or published will likely be discovered by someone at sometime.

Answer 6

no because they r ur' secrets, she should have a diary of her own, and if she does, does she let u read hers, or does she say no when u ask? because my momma doesn't ready my diary, she respects my privacy i have, and plus she cant find, because i hide it in a goooooood spot, where nobody in my family will find it, and u shouldn't even have 2 hide it that good, but the people in my house is very nosy, but i don't think ur' momma should because that is probably the only privacy u have against ur' momma and everybody else in your house hold...... but everybody in my house hold respects my privacy, but they still try 2 find it, sometimes they do it 4 fun and sometimes they do it 2 get on my nerves, but as many times as they try they haven't found it yet and i don't think they ever will...... so 2 answer your question, NO SHE SHOULDN'T, and plus ur' momma should trust u, 4 real and like i said over and over again she should not because those r your secrets, not yours and hers and your brothers and sisters 2..... and y she all up in YOUR business, because that's some crazy stuff....... well anyways holla back at ya gurl, and don't 4get me etha, holla!!!!!!! and the answer is NO

Answer 7

A parent should be able to give their children that amount of privacy. However, if the kid is screwing up and communication is breaking down. Then a parent should be "a parent" and use all tools to source a problem and resolve it.

Keep in mind that if have nothing to hide it isn't a problem, but I know that you don't want "anyone" reading what your heart has spilled in secret.

Answer 8

No she shouldn't be allowed to read it. Parent's just worry and want to make sure things are going ok in their child's life. It's not an excuse to read a diary, though.

Answer 9

i know that all the other people said no that your mom is not allowed to read your diary, but if you are under the age of 18 than a legal parent has every right to read you things even if they are personal. i know that you dont want her to but she can if she wants. try talking to her about it and tell her that you dont want her to read it and if she tell you that you should have nothing to hide then tell her that those are your feeling written down in you diary and if you wanted to tell her than you would but you just want to wite them down because it helps sometimes. and if she doesnt understand still then tell her that you are just going to stop writting in a diary since you cant keep your mothers trust to stay out of it.

Answer 10

A mom wouldn't read it just for fun or to embarrass you, but - for example - if there was some suspicion that you were drinking, doing drugs or being sexual, I would try to find a diary and read it to. Along with your e-mails, IMs, etc. We parents have our ways, and have smart friends who can help us dig into all sorts of places!!! SO, BE GOOD and you have nothing to worry about!