2006-08-20 10:35:49 · 38 answers · asked by jamapi2007 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you end up pregnant your parents are going to have him put in jail for stautory rape of a minor. I think you need to get rid of him, because if you are 16 and he is 21 and wants a baby, he doesn't have your best interest at heart.
2006-08-20 11:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes please get away form him! I was there when I was 16, actually I met the guy ewhen I was 15 and he was 20, same as you it sounds like. I was so in love, I stayed with himm for years!! And he tried to get me pregnant the whole time and I let him, I thank God that did not happen, I think back on it now and I am so thankful to be rid of him and so thankful that I did not have a baby with him. Because any 21 year old who thinks it is okay to have a baby with a 16yr old, there is something wrong with them. Which means they wont be responsible. And you will more then likely end up heartbroken and alone raising a baby. Please honey, leave him now. You are way too smart for this guy, I can tell and you are much smarter then I was at your age, at leats you are asking for advice. I just did what he wanted.
You are worth more then that, and you are better then that. You are 16 you have soo much to live for and experience, you dont want to be home raising a baby missing out on everything.
Think about your future, I think you know whats right, I think you are a smart girl. Just please think hard about it....adn then leave him! :-)
2006-08-20 12:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him girl! You are way to young to have a baby. I had my son at 15 and it was hard I love him to death but I lost my whole childhood. I missed all of high school no prom graduation or anything. I am a lucky one I got my GED and am in college but girl dont make the mistake I did. Live your life a little before you settle down you never know if hell even stick around. My sons father left when i was prego with number 2. I found a good man but alot of times thats not the deal. Be smart and just forget him i know easier said then done sometimes but also your relationship is illegal so once that baby is born he will end up in jail. Hes not worth it leave him thats my advice.
2006-08-20 10:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by squirrellchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's trying to get a baby pregnant with a baby? you should ask yourself if you need a kid at this time. practice the rare but ever so effective thing called common sense. he's not thinking about you. plus let's not let the guy rob the cradle here! you're 16! you're just begining life! why tie yourself up with some guy that wants a kid when you should be going out and being a kid? but if it's "love" he'd understand the answer "no". besides, stadgitory rape is a little law in this country that (whether you consent or not) it's still rape because you're a kid. 18's the magic number that makes you an adult. if you love him, you wouldn't want him in that kinda trouble. wait...you'll never regret this.
2006-08-20 10:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by sweetiethatcares 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 a Senior this year in high school. I'll be 18 soon. I am 7 months and 3 weeks pregnant. All I can tell you is that it sucks having to go to school pregnant with mornging sickness, being tired, and now swelling ankles. Then you have to look forward to labor ouch!
I'm just wondering how I am going to finish school? I need 3 more credits to graduate. What would you do? I'm sure you need more credits than i do. How are you going to pay for childcare? Mountain Heart don't pay it all!
But for my situation it will all work out i love him and we are engaged we have been together for 2 years and half and we have always been their for one another.
He's in his 20's too, just block out what people say about age.
But ask your self:
Do I want to wabble down the high school hallways with swollen ankles. Morning sickness, etc?
I forgot its not illegal to be dating that guy! 16 is the legal, but you might want to check it. Its different for every state but mostly its 16 is legal and it helps to have parents permission but at 16 you can get away with it if you dont.
2006-08-20 11:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At sixteen you can hardly take care of yourself, how can you take care of a baby. If your bf really cares for you, he would consider your well being and not his own needs.If he really wants to have a baby with you he should be willing to wait until you are ready and able to have his child. Taking of a baby is a lot of responsibility, seems to me that your bf has not considered this fact and he too is not ready for a baby!
So YES you should leave him and not look back!! Good for you for not jumping into this without thinking, there are a lot of decent guys out there so don`t rush into anything that you are not ready for. Good Luck!!
2006-08-20 10:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by 44ibis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! He is bad news. Pressuring you for a baby is a big red flag that he is selfish and immature. You don't want a baby at 16. Don't get pregnant. He sounds controlling and probably would leave you after you have a baby. Leave him.
2006-08-20 10:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cant wait at least until you are a high school graduate then he is beening selfish as hell-it would be better if u finished college then had a baby. Think about you raising a baby by yourself- can u handle that! men arent guarunteed to sick around just because youre pregnant by them-they can up and leave at any given time!
be smart sweetheart
2006-08-24 10:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by msbrandnew02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMMEDIATELY. AS SOON AS POSSIBLE AS FAST AS YOU CAN. any 21 yr old guy having sex with a 16 year old is suspect. It may be grounds for rape. And you may not realize it now but that is very bad to begin with. 2nd there is so much responsibility that neither of you will be able to handle on your own and i can almost guarentee a guy like that will not be around long. Stop having sex with him. you are worth so much more than that. You deserve to grow up, finish your education and enjoy your teenage years. You have the rest of your life to have chuldren. And when you do, do it with a man who loves and respects you mind body and soul.
2006-08-20 10:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by success 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...Well I dont know...Did you tell him you dont want to have a baby-Your 16 for goodness sake..If you have told him this time and time again then yes leave him...Do you really want to be tied down with this man forever and do you want a child when you're a kid yourself....I know that sounds harsh but seriously...
Get on birth control and just tell him how its going to be...
Good Luck
P.S even if you break up with this guy and you do have a child he will always be apart of your life :)
2006-08-20 10:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋