How does losing your virginity affect your emotions?

Question

The down-sides of sexual activity is mostly thought of as pregnancy and STD's (When the topic is directed at young adults).
However, teens are not informed as much about the emotional side effects.

So here is my question:
How did you react (emotionally) after having sex for the first time? About yourself, about your partner, and anything else?

What emotional effects would you warn a young adult about before they have sex for the first time?

I would appreciate male and female input please. Thank you. =)

Answer 1

The memory can be a terrible burden. So often, we think about how great the 'first' time will be, and so many people want to get the 'first' time over and done with so that they can claim to be 'experienced'. This is throwing the baby out with the bath water.

Even if the first time is a good experience, later on in life, when one finds the one to marry and settle down with, the memory of the first time can come back to haunt you. It is a natural human tendency to want to remember the good times and look back on them. It is also a natural human tendency to remember bad times. So if the pre-marital sex experiences were better than the marital ones, it leads a person to compare and regret the marriage, wishing that things could be as good as they were before.

Oddly enough, if the pre-marital sex experiences were bad, they can also 'taint' the marriage, leading to a loss of sexual pleasure, intimacy and happiness. It is difficult to separate the early experiences from the later ones. This also happens to married women who are forcibly raped. It is such a terrible violation that it can cause a permanent fear or reluctance for sex within marriage.

Finally, there is 'the thrill of the forbidden'. For too many people, this is the largest and most important part of their early sex experiences. When something that is a stolen thrill turns into a responsibility, to satisfy the spouse (and every married person will acknowledge that there are times when one wants to satisfy the spouse even if one does not want sex for oneself at the moment; that is just love for the spouse) some of the pleasure is robbed.

It may sound trite, but it is better for a couple to feel that what they have together is unique, something that no other couple has ever known, than to have shared the same thing with others and know that there is nothing special about it. Our sexual experience and knowledge of varieties, even those we have not tried, works against us. We have a more difficulty becoming aroused and satisfied when we are overexposed to sexual stimulation through several partners, magazines, movies, newspapers, jokes, hints and innuendos.

Just as it was a mistake to think that the atmosphere and the ocean were infinite and that we could go on polluting them without ever having to suffer for it, it is a mistake to think that our wellspring of sexuality can forever be used to excess without a corresponding loss of sensitivity and enjoyment.

I hope this helps. I hope that this may help some young person to decide to save themselves for marriage and not try to show themselves of as being all experienced and risk losing what they are capable of enjoying.

Answer 2

I think your emotions will be effected in different ways depending on what type of religion you in, or if your not religious at all, etc. Some feel the same after loosing virginity, only more enlightened about the feeling of sex. Some feel the enitre world changes after doing it.

Answer 3

It Makes Guys Girl CRAZY For Years,My Advice To Remain Abstinent

Answer 4

I really cried...I thought it lasted too long, I would have preferred maybe not more than 2 minutes, it was just too much... :)
I was in a bit of a shock, even though it was enjoyable. I thought something just changed (it certainly did). It took some time for me to get over it and get used to the situation.

Answer 5

well as a guy i felt bad after my first time....i enjoyed the sex a lot! It felt great while i was doing it, but after i wasn't so happy about it. And on top of that she gave me the clap and i had to take anitbiotics for it! That was my first experience and it was scary to wait in a state clinic to see if i was infected with something esp after they told me about a rare white blood cell count, but it was treatable than kgod....i got this becuase i didn't use protection...so please be more careful then i was!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

having sex for a first time for a girl, means that you leave behind the innocence of childhood (or youth) and move on to the "grown ups " world

First time is important cause if it causes emotional injuries - it is said - that they follow you for a long time and giving you hard times.

it is important for girls to have sex when they really want to - when they are ready for this- and not under any kind of pressure (friends, boyfriend ..)

Answer 7

My first time was with a great big fat chick...I was hoping it would have been a nice pretty thin lady the first time...I didn't last that long the first time either...so I had some adjusting to do and some experience yet to get...it all turned out fine.

Answer 8

only do it when you are ready, and not your partner
don;'t expect that because this is YOUR FIRST, that it will be the best... you have NOTHING to compare it to, and the person might end up being A JERK!!
use protection ~~ because there are too many diseases out there!
you are who you are, PERIOD ~~ REGARDLESS of your virginity.
stick to your own morals and beliefs!!

Answer 9

It actually made me think sex is way overrated.
Make sure you use condoms and birthcontrol and don't be drunk when you do it. And know who you are having sex with.

Answer 10

it brought me and my g/f closer... but that was a long time ago... i didnt really change emotionally that i know of though..