I just come from my friends house. He's getting ready to move into his new home today and last night his wife had an affair with his best friend.
2006-08-20 10:18:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I expeceted the response as such, but seriously, I told him to seek counseling, because that is a blow to his face. Right now his wife is gone. It is really sad because they just bought a new home. That's why I am single right now utnil I find the rioght one for me. I don't even know what I would do unless it happens to me.
2006-08-20 10:36:02 · update #1
Serous replies only this really happen and he is hurt pretty bad.
2006-08-20 10:41:58 · update #2
Sounds like he has a lot on his plate right now, poor guy. Hopefully he'll take time to make a decision. He is probably in a great deal of pain right now and isn't thinking as clearly as he might if there were no emotions involved.
You do not mention whether or not his wife is remorseful and apologetic or not. It is difficult to give advice without all of the details but I would say that, first and foremost, he should decide whether or not he wants to try to forgive and get past this painful situation with his wife... or if he doesn't.
If he does not want to continue with the relationship then perhaps he should tell his wife to leave (since she is the one who opted to break their vows)... and they should work toward coming to an amicable arrangement with the house (which, sadly, might involve selling it right after purchasing it.)
If he decides to stay together and try to make things work, at least for the time being, then I would recommend he and his wife seek professional help, as soon as possible, so that they can begin to communicate effectively and try to determine why the affair happened in the first place (and start the healing).
2006-08-20 10:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think one night constitutes an affair really; it could have been just a lapse in judgement - by no means excusing it, but was there alot of strain on the relationship getting ready to move, buying the house, etc. They must have a fairly solid base to be buying a new home together, right? I would say he needs to find the strength to sit down with his wife and talk about where their marriage really is. Do they have enough love for each other to move past what could have been just a horrible mistake? Again, not excusing it, but sometimes the stress of a big venture like a move can cause people to lose touch with each other - maybe they just need to really reconnect and by the way, his best friend is not his best friend no matter what happens in his marriage.
2006-08-20 17:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by CHERYL E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there children involved in this marriage? AGood lawyer is needed and he needs to know if the marriage is worth saving. That is too bad. Maybe he can save it but it will be a long time for the trust to come back and his freindship with his best freind probably is done. I wouldnt put up with that. Sell the house and take her to court.
2006-08-20 17:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by yeppers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really simple. If theyhave no children that is. No children then he simply divorces her. He can then sell the hous or allow her to have it. There's no equity to divode up and the longer he stays with her the more $$$ he's gonna waste on her. Cut your loses now and choose wisely for the next one.
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But definately dump her.
Good luck
2006-08-20 17:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He need to decide: if he get a lawyer and get divorce and
finish with her and his"best friend."I do not know, if he knew something about his best friend and his wife relationship.He need to think good before decide his last word about this problem.Good luck.
2006-08-20 17:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs to get an attorney and file for divorce and talk to the realtor and see if there is any way to get out of the sale or what he can do to assit him. I feel bad for your friend.
2006-08-20 17:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to work out with her the causes and what her response to his needs will be. Marriages can survive this but both parties need to work it out.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-08-20 18:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and sell the home immediately.
2006-08-20 17:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her, once a cheater always a cheater. I hate when bad women make good men suffer.
2006-08-20 17:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to decide if the marriage is worth saving.
2006-08-20 17:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋