In the past my husband and I have looked at porn together, I don't have any problem with porn OR any problem with him looking at it without me. My problem is that I discovered he has been looking at it and hiding it from me. Getting up from bed late at night or doing it when he says he is doing something else...even when I ask, "what were you looking at.." he lies. We have a good sex life. We do it 4-5 times a week, I love giving BJ's and I even do anal. I have NEVER turned down a single request from him. So why is he looking and hiding it from me?
2006-08-20 10:09:07 · 17 answers · asked by Heather L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, he is looking when I am home (just sleeping or occupied with something else for awhile, like a shower) SO it isn't because I am not at home - and could give him real sex OR look with him....thought this might help.
2006-08-20 10:26:11 · update #1
I would definitely talk to him in a non-confrontational manner. From what you've explained it sounds as though you seem to have a pretty active sex life (by most people's standards) and that you're open-minded and willing to experiment ... so it's only natural to wonder why he feels the need to HIDE things from you.
Perhaps he is becoming addicted (a common problem nowadays with the ever-accessible Internet porn) and realizes that there is a problem and therefore feels ashamed and the need to hide his extra-curricular activities from you.
An open and non-judgmental discussion sounds like it's in order.
Best of luck!
2006-08-20 10:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-29 11:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, if he has a wife more than willing to satisfy any sexual desire, and averages 4-5 a week, he NEEDS porn, Viagra, a penile implant, and steroids. Believe me, most women wouldn't care where the inspiration came from, they'd love a man who was interested in sex twice a week, much less 4-5. You guys are fine, unless he asks you to dress as a sheep, or pretend to be a nun. LOL
2006-08-20 11:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because men are pigs at heart. If he isn't hiding it from you then he isnt getting away with anything and apparently thats the part of it that he enjoys most because there is no other reason since you have no problem with him looking at it. Its got to be the sneaky, secret part of it that he likes. They don't understand that even if we don't mind what they are doing lying about it is offensive to us. Doesn't it make you feel like you are being treated like the enemy? Like someone he has to hide things from instead of a friend and a partner? I don't know why that happens but I'm right there with you in the hating it part.
2006-08-20 10:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question. Is his looking at it interfering with his normal life? That is, does HE feel it is? It may be he feels guilty about it for some reason. If you kinda like men, there is only one thing worse than living with them. That's living without them. Maybe we'll never know why he's hiding it. From my own experience, many men are very very vulnerable to anything that even remotely sounds like judgment of their actions. Could that be involved?
2006-08-20 10:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say you have a good relationship,best idea is find the best time to talk with him,asking him about what he is hiding from you.Can be good idea ask him when you give BJ's or even do anal.You are a smart woman,you know what will be the best time to ask him about,I believe.Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-20 10:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him? I looked at our bank account online and found out that my hubby rented a 30 dollar porn at a hotel when he was out of town. Yeaa, when I asked him what kind of movie costs 30 dollars? It was a good laugh. He is not allowed to have that stuff in our house so I guess it was ok since he was out of town. I just got to go and spend double that amount on myself though.
2006-08-20 10:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it 's not hurting you, then why is it a problem. Mariage is built on acceptance of our faults as well as trust - give the guy a break and don't loose any sleep over it. Besides, as long as he ends up beside you in bed yo really have little to worry about.
2006-08-20 16:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking a guy if he looks at porn is like asking a guy if he Jacks off!
If he says ANYTHING but "yes", he is a LIAR!!!!
FYI- Just because a guy looks at porn, OR notices other girls OR jacks his "wick" when you're not there DOES NOT mean he is being unfaithfull to You nor is it cheating!
The "Thought Police" have NO jurisdiction over Men!!!!!!!
2006-08-20 10:20:46 · answer #9 · answered by thart090 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the hell knows why I'm down with all the things that you said I enjoy it all with my man but maybe his addicted a little to much, and it's not even like he has to hide from you you get down with it too, maybe he enjoys it more by himself and dosent want to hurt you? That's a tough one to crack I'm sorry I couldnt be more helpful.
2006-08-20 10:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋