forsake all others. Would that mean ALL others including moms, dads, sisters, brothers etc... and if so I would like to know what the opinion of men is on that topic, and if your a married male does your wife come before your mother and sister and etc......?
2006-08-20 10:06:00 · 11 answers · asked by Ariali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd also like to know the views of you other married women out there.
Thanx
2006-08-20 10:21:00 · update #1
That means no one comes before your spouse. There needs are met first. He is your family now
2006-08-20 10:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as it say's, forsake ALL OTHERS, I'm sure most
married women would say that includes his Mother. I was
NOT blessed with a wonderful Mother-in-Law, but my husband was. His Mother has always strived to come first
in my husband life and is very resentful of me because I
am his wife, it has created alot of trouble, we'll be married 15 years in a couple of months and it hasn't changed one
bit in those 15 years.
2006-08-20 18:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just had another argument today about his stinking mother. She wants to visit the week of our one year anniversary and he said ok!! With out talking to me. SO I asked him "who did you marry, your mom or me????" I was so pissed off! But the wife is always to come first! It even says that a man leaves his mom and dad to start a family with his wife. Who does he think is going to be around when his parents are gone and his sister is married? Tell him to grow up and be a husband!
2006-08-20 17:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is a verse in the bible that tells of marriage. It is in the book of Mark Chapter 10 verses 6-9.
It says that from the beginning of creation God made male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they 2 shall be one flesh: so then there are no more 2, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together let no man put asunder...
This means that your husband is suppost to put you before everyone. Because you 2 are one and he should take care of things at home before he takes care of things for others.
You have to realize though that he grew up with all of them and he feels obligated to them too. We don't stop loving our fathers or mothers or sisters or brothers. And we or they have known them and loved them longer then they have known us. And sometimes I don't think they realize what they are doing.
He has his obligations messed up.
Now that you 2 are married you should come before any of them in more than one way.
You need to explain to him that you don't have a problem with him helping them or seeing them. As long as he isn't neglecting your needs.
Tell him that your needs around the house should be met before his parents or siblings especially if he has already promised you to fix something.
Also tell him that if you have made plans to go out for the night that he doesn't break your plans for them. He can always help them or see them the next day.
He needs to learn to comprimise.
Make it clear that you understand his love and dedication to them. Because you feel the same about your family. Tell him you would do the same but only if you had things with you and him taken care of first.
Tell him that if he keeps putting them before you or your kids that you can do it without him.
Because really you have been doing it without him already. A marriage is 50/50.
2006-08-20 22:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means to not allow yourself to be tempted by others of the opposite sex. It has nothing to do with family. A husband (or wife) is an addition to the family you already have. You definately shouldn't abandon them, although they do play a secondary role compared to your husband(or wife) and children.
2006-08-20 18:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we should forsake all others but that doesn't mean we don't love them. We shouldn't allow other to come between our marriage per say. I hear alot of wives say their husbands still listen to Moms and Dads and that is wrong. A wife should come first in all aspects of the marriage. Maybe that is why so many marriages end in divorce because we listen to others.
2006-08-20 17:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
good question, tough call, the forsake all others really just meant "no cheating" but still an interesting question
2006-08-20 17:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse comes first.
2006-08-20 17:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spouse comes first, before all others. They have their own lives and you have yours
2006-08-20 17:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It snot supposed to be that technical- It mean its your only spouces and lover
2006-08-20 17:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋