OK me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 8 months and we have known each other over a year... We are madly in love with each other..and I want to get married so bad...but I think my mom will have a fit if I even get engaged at this age....What do u think?
2006-08-20 10:05:37 · 16 answers · asked by angela w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok what if i said ive already been engaged once before and learned from that mistake and know what im doing is good and the right thing for me...
2006-08-20 10:48:44 · update #1
I was married at 17. I met my husband then 2 months later he went to boot camp and a school and as soon as he got out we got married so all together we would have only known each other for 7 months before we got married. An 5 of those months he was away from me. I got married at 17 then moved to VA Beach (4 hours away from my parents) into military housing and now am living happily ever after with my sexy sailor. If you are in love with him. Dont let anyone stand in the way.
2006-08-20 10:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with each other?
I think you're more in love with the concept of love and marriage than you think.
Point: You've been together 8 months. Even if you were older, you wouldn't even be considering marriage. You are still in the honeymoon stage. Do you know what's going to happen in marriage when something goes terribly wrong?
You are so young. Why would you want to get married at such a young age? Marriage is tough work--if over 50% of the marriages in the US fail, what makes you think that yours won't? Because you love each other? That's not all you need.
Are you same person you were at the age of 15? No. You won't be the same person you will be in 3 years. You will change, grow and mature. Every 17 year old thinks that she is mature and able to handle life better than every other 17 year old.
If you really want to get married, then continue dating for 3 years. Go through the ups and downs of DATING. Mature together, and learn how to communicate. Learn that marriage isn't filled with just love. I bet you still think that having an argument means screaming, accusing, and then potentially breaking up.
Go to and finish college first. Experience life as an indepedent person. BECOME an indepedent person--don't be codependent. Learn about yourself and from your mistakes.
You both need to mature together before jumping into a commitment like this. Eight months is nothing compared to the rest of your lives--keep dating and go to college.
The fact that you've been engaged before shows nothing more than you are in love with the concept of marriage. The number of engagements doesn't make one ounce of difference in marriage. Marriage doesn't care how many times you've been engaged. If anything, being engaged so many times at such a young age shows your immaturity, not your maturity.
2006-08-20 10:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't thinks it's wrong first of all. If you too are truely in love i'm sure he can at least wait till you are of age to get married though before he does decide to pop the question. If it's true love it's not going away at this time and if it does then it wasn't meant to be.The two of you should probably set goals as a couple as to what's important to the two of you such as college, finances, and children. A proper gentleman asks the parent(s) first anyways.There are christian books out there for couples who are considering marriage to help with dealing with problems before they become problems. It's a grown up decision so be grown about it show your mother the two of you want to be responsible about this since divorce rates are so high and you don't want to be another statistic. Because when trouble arises it's real easy to just walk away but very difficult to continue to make it work.
2006-08-20 10:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just becuz you and him love each other doesn't mean u have to get married, you and him are probabl broke and wouldn't know what to do after you do get married. You're too young and if you and him love each other that much you too can wait a little longer and just grow together. Get each othe promise rings instead.
2006-08-20 10:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not "wrong" to be engaged, but its not wise to rush into marriage either. I have been married for 22 years. Believe me.. you need to give each other some time to get to know each other awhile more before you take those vows. Because marriage is suppose to be forever. Much harder to get out of it, than to get into it. Good Luck.
2006-08-20 10:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. I married when I was 17. I am speaking from experience. You have no business picking your life partner at such a young age. Trust me. I know what I am talking about.
2006-08-20 10:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You are a baby at 17. Trust me, if you get married now you will never be the person you could have been. Wait until your 22, then see if you feel the same.
2006-08-20 10:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has a point! 17 years old is really really a young age! don't rush girl! take it easy and give ur self more time! i'm not saying that being inlove is wrong, but such a serious commitment might remain serious problems.
Good Luck
2006-08-20 10:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Hendrix_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEPENDS WETHER YOU ARE 17 GOING ON 12 OR 17 GOING ON 30. MOTHERS ARE USUALLY RIGHT AND IF YOU DO NOT GO TO COLLEGE THEN YOU SHOULD NOT GET MARRIED. YOU NEED TO GROW AS A WOMEN BEFORE YOU MAKE A CHILDISH MISTAKE. HELL YOU SHOULD NOT GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU FINISH COLLEGE. IT A BIG WORLD WITH MANY MEN AND MANY EXPERIANCES YOU WILL MISS . YOUR CHOICE BUT BE SMART!!
2006-08-20 10:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by us veteran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a long engagement......wait and see .....im so glad i didnt marry at 18....im 27 now and my taste in men and what i want for my life have changed completely.....be careful....i almost got married at 18 after knowing him for 2 years...6 months later he was in prison and i found out that hed been cheating on me for a while...i was oblivious ...young , dumb, and in love....
2006-08-20 10:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by peyeratemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋