Even though he is not divorced and total free of her, is seperation good enough, while being in the process of divorce, or would that throw up a red flag?
2006-08-20 10:02:27 · 17 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would tell me either he isn't interested in getting a divorce or to cheap to get one. Cheap may not be the right way to put it but not afford it right now. I would think though if he really wanted one he would find a way.
2006-08-20 10:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your not divorced it is still called infidelity. After you file for divorce your have a 6 week waiting period so in case you decide to get back together they can just throw out the paper work and it's like it never happened. After the 6 weeks you go in front of the judge and sign the divorce papers. Then I think it's OK to date after the papers are signed. Some people say that it's not OK until the divorce is final 6 months after you sign the papers. A separation is the time to decide if you still want to be married not a time to date.
2006-08-20 10:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably depends on the guy and the situation. I would check out some of the following just to have a little peace of mind.
Are things really progressing with this divorce or are they just 'talking' about it?
Are things messy between the two of them or are they both working to make this a good reasonable divorce?
Are there kids involved?-- make sure to be sensitive to how they may feel
Do you honestly feel that he is emotionally ready to be moving on?-- only you can answer this one.
I guess from a moral standpoint if papers have been filed, I see that as the same thing as being divorced. It shouldn't be their fault that it takes months for the papers to go through the system.
2006-08-20 10:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is morally wrong because in the eyes of God and the law that person is still married until he is divorced. I mean why would you want to date someone who is not even loosed yet from his wife. That is baggage you don't need. And even after the divorce you know there will be legal hassles...give the person some time to get over that after all you don't want to be a rebound. (if you are the person wanting to date him that is...if you are person same advise goes to you as well)
2006-08-20 10:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♫piano_player♫ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just becuase he is getting a divorce doesn't mean he isn't still having a sexual relationship with his wife!! He could be trying to see someone on the side and still trying to make up with his wife and you never know! Sometimes they have a girl on the side incase they can't get their wife back !! I wouldn't dat someone like that until they are completely DIVORCED!! That way you;ll know for sure!!!! Watch the red flag!
2006-08-20 10:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by sports_runner_racing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You bet, divorce, seperated...etc...means there are issues there and those issues should be investigated separately and personally in privacy, and spare those who are dating a huge headache. Additionally, each side has their own story...each side has to heal and be honest with thyself. Counselling doesn't hurt, it helps. Again, this is a private issue and should be respected. It is easy to cop out and take the easy street into the fast fix lust lane or call it dating if you must. Why not run from the issue, and mess up someone else"s life, there's no harm done right. Who would know, after all, we all have secrets! How mature...how responsible...cool...NOT! Myself, I can do without the excess baggage, thank-you very much! I have my own issues to deal with I don't need any one else's sore cop out attitude for having a date, and/or boyfriend or girlfriend whatever be the case. Anyway, that's my opinion, that's my story, and I'm sticking to it, thanks for asking.
2006-08-20 10:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think its ok to date if seperated. Best I can remember its customary to be seperated for one year before a divorce can be filed. If a divorce is to be done.. then I see nothing wrong with dating.
2006-08-20 10:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't date anyone who wasn't divorced. Nor would I date if I were only seperated. Makes things to complicated.
2006-08-20 10:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Morally, ethically and emotionally wrong. He's not totally free of her until he signs on the dotted line and the judge declares them divorced. Perhaps that level of disrespect for his partner is why he now has a failed marriage under his belt. You know what they say, "buyer beware!".
2006-08-20 10:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not totally free just by being separated from some one....the other spouse is still legally bind to the other if something tragic would happen ...there must be a reason why he would not file for a divorce
2006-08-20 10:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋