i knew my husband for ten years before we got married.
we have now been maried for 21 years. but has now started to cheat.HE HAS DONE IT ON NUMEROUS OCCASION. i moved out but i am still hang up on him often times think about him still.
what can i do to stop thinking about him.?
2006-08-20 09:50:10 · 20 answers · asked by Broadie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First i didnt hear you mentioning anything about divorce. what are you waiting for. Start the proceedings right away please.
i know it will be difficult at first seen as you have given so much of your life to this evil brute bastard.
you now need to start loving your self.
Go shopping
meet new friends
find new activities(fun stuff)
ITS ALL ABOUT SELF NOW SISTER AND I MEAN YOUR SELF
KEEPING HOLDING THE FAITH SISTER
GOOOD LUCK
2006-08-20 10:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Rat Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has become a habit.
Learn to love yourself and stop punishing yourself. Once you start thinking about you and not him you will realise you have what it takes and can move on. It is hard after such a long time of devoting your life to one man but you don't deserve that treatment. The moment you can look him in the eye and tell him you don't love him is the moment you set yourself free. That moment will come as soon as you realise you are special and won't take the abuse any more. Live your life for you for a change and you will be able to survive without him. You have the advantage, You are a WOMAN and we are survivors, never forget that.
2006-08-20 17:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by slipper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's apparent to me that you have not moved on in your life, and that is a necessary step in order to stop thinking about your husband so much. Meet a new person, and go out....if only as friends at first, until more develops. Don't sit at home and dwell on him. Once a cheat, always a cheat! Start divorce proceedings in the morning, and get on with what's left of your life. Make the future the best part!
2006-08-20 17:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Broadie! First let me just say I am so sorry for what you're going through. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain that you must be feeling. I suppose that it's only natural to still have some feelings for him (even after all that he's put you through) after devoting so much of your life to him.
Now... for a bit of advice. I once had a friend tell me that there is no better cure for a broken heart than a new lover. And I've always found it to be true. You have to get back out there. Focus on yourself. Get your own hobbies, friends, interests... and then SOMEONE NEW. Just like he did to you.
It probably won't be easy at first. You'll have to get out of your comfort zone and push yourself... but there IS someone out there who will enchant you and help you to keep your mind off of your unfaithful ex.
Best wishes!!
2006-08-20 17:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You devoted a whole lot of years of your life to this man so it's not going to be that easy to just stop thinking about him,
What you do now is build a great life for yourself - start a new hobby, make new friends, join a gym, take piano lessons, volunteer for a group that means something to you - whatever it takes.
Before you know it your life will be so busy and so much fun that you'll realize one day that he's taken a back seat in your thoughts.
You go girl!
2006-08-20 16:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to stop thinking about him and missing him, then imagine him thrusting it in her and playing with parts of her body while getting off, while you were home doing the dishes. If thats not enough to make you sick of the thought of him, then I dont know what is. But I know you have to realize he is no good and this is a sick mental problem and addiction of many men. You know there are better men out there. I see my brother and the way he treats women and I know there must be more men like him.
2006-08-20 17:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because each time he cheated on you ...you forgave him...it has become a routine affair for him....moving out of that situation was a good thing, but you must learn to love yourself and do things that make you happy and quit wondering about him...I 'm sure he is not all that hung up on you at this point.
2006-08-20 16:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like giving up a bad habit, you've lived with him for so
long he's like any habit you're trying to break. When you start to think about him, think about all the crap he's done to you. Find another man, eventually he'll fade from your thoughts.
2006-08-20 18:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant focus on why because he is the only one that knows why he cheated on you. you need tjo focus on you and you alone your hapiness should be number one. pamper your self put on something sexy and step out to a nice club let the men see whats available to them. Even if you dont meet any one spectacular. it feels good for men to oogle you. replace the thought of him with the thought of another man or even a fantasy man!
2006-08-20 17:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by purpleartof5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go have a girl's night out with friends.
get them to set you up with someone new.
have a good time- enjoy your freedom.
go buy yourself some new clothes, make-up, and jewelry.
you've invested 3 decades in this one guy. sure, there were good times. but apparently, he decided that you weren't worth it. which was stupid. so forget him- it's time to move on.
2006-08-20 17:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋