me and my partner heve been trying for a baby for almost a year now. i am due to be referred to the hospital next month for tests to find out what the problem is. i am so depressed. i would like children so so much. is there anybody else going through the same problem who would like to get in touch to chat and help each other out?
2006-08-20 09:41:02 · 14 answers · asked by angel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know EXACTLY how you feel hun, We have just finished our tests and we are now in the category of sub fertility which means theres no physical problems. Its been 2 and a half years now. I am depressed also but have been seeing a counsellor who is fantastic. If you click my little duck you can E Mail me and i will tell you what advice she has given me, it would be nice to talk to others going through the same. I got all choked up reading your Q cos i sympathise with you. xx
2006-08-20 22:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are certainly lots of other people going through the same - 1 couple in 7 has difficulty conceiving a child. The good news is, most of them end up successful with the right treatment (or sometimes, even after a long time trying, with no treatment at all!)
Good people to talk to are Fertility Friends and Infertility Network UK - see links below. FF has a bulletin board where you can talk to people online; INUK are the national charity for infertility and sub-fertility. Both can help you find a local group in your area if you want to meet face to face.
Good luck - I really hope you succeed.
2006-08-21 04:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by gvih2g2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing for 4 years and now I have 3 kids. It takes time and patience. It is the hardest time for women these days who have trouble conceiving. With all the glamorizing of celebrities and the trash magazines about babies. It seems like it is all we see these days. Which celebrity is pregnant now? I do feel for you especially during this time. Keep your stress down and realize that you will have a baby one day. I had 4 miscarriages but never gave up. You may not find anything in the tests so don't get discouraged. A year seems long to you but it is an average time span to get pregnant. Keep busy with something you enjoy. It will happen for you! God bless!
2006-08-20 17:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Angel,
I can understand how you feel. I am still TTC #1, 4 1/2 year now. I am going to the Dr's this month as well. I'd love to k.i.t and chat sometime.
It can be depressing at times, but me personally I cling to the scriptures, and that really helps me alot...especially on the days when I really feel like just giving up.
Let me know if you'd like a list of the scriptures.
P.S: I also have a very nasty habit of purchasing baby things! Full stocked nursery all ready, just waiting for the baby(s)!:)
Blessings To You & Yours
2006-08-20 16:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Pastors Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out last year that I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It is the leading cause of infertility in women. My husband and I tried for about a year and I started seeing a reproductive endocrinologist. After a couple of failed treatments, I moved on to self injections and got pregnant on my first cycle. Basically what I'm saying is that there will most likely be a "magic" combo that works for you. What works for some people doesn't always work for someone else. As far as male factor, there are lots of things a man can do to "fix" his count - especially certain vitamin/mineral suppliments.
2006-08-21 00:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by im_shady77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I now have two beautiful children, but the path to their conceptions and births was rough. It took 2 1/2 years to conceive my first child, then had 5 miscarriages, spent 30,000 dollars for fertility treatments and had no luck. Miraculously, we gave birth 8 months ago after 11 1/2 years. Have hope-infertility specialists are wonderful and can find out the problem and help you conceive. Good luck and if you have any fertility questions, feel free to contact me.
2006-08-20 20:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not got this problem,but my heart goes out to you and your man.hopefully everything will turn out fine but if it doesn`t you can always consider addoption. i know it might not be the same as having your own wee one but you can love it like your own and it will love you back just as much!!!! i get really angry when people like you would do anything to have kiddies and can`t and there are so many wasters who have kids and they end up in care etc cos they cant or wont look after them or abuse them!!! i wish you all the best luck in the world. if you are feeling this bad,you should maybe go to your gp and ask to speak to a councellor. don`t let it take over your life though. you know what they say,"it happens when you least expect it" just enjoy trying!!.xx
2006-08-20 16:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by nicola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel, to conceive you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.
2006-08-20 19:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by donp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me!
Hubby and I have been trying for over a year and I find it very difficult! I have just started my first round of clomid and am keeping my fingers crossed!
Good luck to you. Never feel alone, there are a lot of us out there ( I read that one in 7 couples need help conceiving) and if you want to get in touch for a chat please do.
2006-08-21 13:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax honey just relax, Stress over infertility can be the cause of infertility.
Have you tried all the possibilities? Ie increasing folic acid for one. Elevating your bottom for about 20 minutes after sex aides in conception. IT helps the sperm cells get to the right place.
But the best adivce is to relax.
2006-08-20 16:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋