My ex of 2 years broke up with me 6 months ago. I met up with her 2 months ago for closure but she was mean to me the whole night, telling me how she has slept with other guys, and wud prefer to have lots of little relationships until she is about 25, baring in mind she is 19. She basically enjoys having flings, no commitment. I totally disagree with this and always have and couldn't believe her morals after knowing her for 2 years. Anyway, all the girls I've met since her think just a like. AM I DOING THE WRONG THING? Should I be sleeping with friends or sharing it with someone I love? Part of me wants to have my ex as a friend but all my mates say I am better with out her. It's like she was a different person with me. I am just so confused. I respect a girl, and want to share that experience with someone I care about. Anyone got any feedback on this?
2006-08-20 09:00:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so happy that there are guys out there who still got morals. Sad to say that young girls nowadays seem to have none. Never ever drop your standards to suit anyone. You will find someone compatible one of these days and you will be happier in that relationship because it is likely that you both will have the same values. YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING. KEEP ON DOING IT. Clearly, your parents raised you well. By the way, there are still good girls around but they are not easy to find simply because they do not take their clothes off readily. Like you they want to share that experience with someone they care about. Good luck!
2006-08-20 09:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Coleen W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are. There is no need to change yourself. You have good morals. That is so hard to find in a guy. Some people are like this and there is nothing wrong with either. You have different outlooks on life. It is better to know that now rather then to find it out later in your life with someone. You are still young the right girl will come along. One who you can agree on certain life styles. Respect yourself and the lady you are with.
2006-08-20 16:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dr.Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her from a distance right now. She is young and she wants to be out here and you have to learn to respect that. I don't know about the "little flings" but she is smart to see what else is out there. Just pray that she is a decent judge of character and protects herself during these "little flings". You can't be her friend right now because you are too emotionally tied to her right now, you need to take some time to heal from the heartache and to get to know some new people yourself. It sounds like you really care for her so just know in your heart that if she needs you, you will be there for her and let her know that but don't pursue anything more, if you do that she'll just start to resent you. You know what they say, if you love something you have to let it go, if it comes back it...you know the rest. Good luck dear.
2006-08-20 16:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and forget about her. This is what she wants to do so there's nothing you can do to stop that. If the girls you meet all act like this then perhaps you're looking in all the wrong places. Don't change who you are. You will someday meet a girl who hold the same values about relationships as you do. You just have to look for her in the right places.
2006-08-20 16:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bravo for you! She sounds like a real loser arent you glad you found out now? what if you had married the little slut. You stick to your morals, I know alot of women are sleeping around these days,but there still are some good ones out there. remember you are sleeping with everyone they sleep with. Youll find the right one,someone who is worthy of a man like you. why would you wantnsomeone like her as a friend anyway? Dont be confused,she was playing you. Stay just like you are,its her loss.
2006-08-20 16:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea for some odd reason alot of people are like this you get the info month then the heated month the the get dumped month. Been on the recieving end twice and third time was a charm just keep looking.
2006-08-20 16:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Titanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll never get a new girl until you stop talking about the old one
stop feeling sorry for yourself and pay attention to the new girls your going out with, they dont give a damb about your ex and neither should you (she's over you dude, move on)
2006-08-20 16:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could handle just friendship it would be OK but its obviously hurting you to see her give it to someone else cuz you may love her. Why torture yourself with her stupid time limits? She hasnt grown up yet. Find someone more mature is my advice.
2006-08-20 16:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, move on, Try and make better choices, Say to yourself, thank God for getting rid of bad rubbish.
2006-08-20 16:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you were not" Mr. Nice Guy". Beside that, how did you treated? Maybe your' still need to grow up.
2006-08-20 16:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋