it is not a personal question as i am n't in love but around me i see many love stories end quickly!
even married couples make affairs or be loyal just because of duty!
is this against human nature?!... do we get bored from each other easily?!
please i want an explaination!... a psychological real one!
2006-08-20 08:48:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What is love ?
What makes a person love another person ?
Reasons differ according to people ....
I have always tried to imagine how would it be when someone is in the "perfect love ".
Iove is when all what u want from ur love one is "talk" just talk , when the process of talking itself becomes the puriest manifestation of love .
Sometimes u don't even ask them to talk , you just want to know that by any means they are thinking of you , that you are there occupying a part of their minds , no matter how small that part is.
Love is when a smile from your love one is enough , when eyes can meet together and say what the lips can't express.
It's when u love all the good things and the "bad things "in ur love one , when u actually look at the one u love and believe that what people consider as defects are actually the things that make your love one more perfect in ur eyes.
Love is when u think in the same way , want the same things , hate the same things , be happy for the same reason and have the same dreams .
Love is when the two of you are united by a higher and more supreme goal that you live for.
a goal that gives you energy to move and continue your way because you know inside that your aim is bigger and better than what you are .
and when the days pass by , and when age imprints its marks on ur beloved , u actually feel happy because you know that u have been there when each of these marks took place , you know the loaction of each of them and you cherish them as you cherish all the good memories that you had with your loved one .
and when it is time to die , you know that you will die together , because your love is a symphony that is played by two instruments , you and the one you love , and as you start it togther you will end it together
If this , My lady , is your defintion of love , then love is eternal and as everlasting as the existence itself ,
2006-08-20 17:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible to have some kind of love for the same person forever, but love evolves and is therefore not the same as when it begins. What started as passionate love in the beginning can change into a safe, comfortable love later. I think it is impossible to have the exact same feelings about a person forever, unless neither you nor the other person changes at all, which is unlikely.
2006-08-20 13:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Pretty Tough Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely not impossible! If you feel like you've fallen out of love with someone or you have become bored of them then it can't have been real love to begin with. Of course there's some kind of feeling there but not real love.
I believe that once you have had feelings for someone they never go away. Never. They can't because they're locked away in your heart and your brain. If your brain has registered that love for someone then it's the kind of thought that can't be lost, even if it is in your subconscience. Obviously you can love again but love is just too strong a feeling to forget, and if you only experience it once and it does work out, it will last forever.
2006-08-20 09:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by LOL COL =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are a "real" psychologist would not be able to answer you.... if you really want a complete answer.
The core of this problem lies in understanding what we mean by "love"? If we are talking about sexual attraction, then yes, one becomes used to another rather quickly. But that is simply sexual attraction, that is not love... and is certainly not Love. The reason one quickly looks for another stimulus is just that. When sex is used as a way to make the other person "responsible" for ones experience of joy, excitement, etc., one is doing so because one is unable to own these experiences as coming from and residing from within oneself. This is unreal, dishonest, and cannot be sustained.
So, what you observe of others is others with a lack of self-love, or the ability to intensely love themselves. We we use another to arose those intense feelings within ourselves, and do not make the other responsible... then using the same person... assuming a willingness on the others part... can be sustained for a long time, if not indefinitely.
Love as an absolute is of God, and only resides within ones Soul. We error when we think that what we experience in the midst of sex is Love. It is many things, but rarely is it Love.... as in losing oneself entirely within the experience. This is what all seek, and few find.
The key to seeking this level of experience lies within each one of us. One must develop a great Love of the Soul within oneself, knowing that is is an aspect of God... so that ones Love is of God, and not anyone else. On the face of it, this appears as selfish, or impossible. But, it is neither. Unless you Love yourself a great deal, what do you have to share with another?
2006-08-20 09:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by docjp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to love the same person forever because nobody remains the same forever. In fact, a lot of relationships end BECAUSE one or both of the people involved still love the same person they knew at the start of the relationship, and this person no longer exists...
All of us are in a constant state of change as we mature and acquire more experience. The relationship cannot remain static, because the two people in it are not in a static state of being.
The relationship must change and renew itself constantly, adapting to the new reality of both partners. When it can no longer do this, it ends.
Now, can we love the same partner forever? Of course we can! But it takes far more time and effort than many people are willing to put forth.
2006-08-20 09:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by InquiringMinds 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's is not impossible....Love is not a feeling but a decision. If you make the commitment to someone then it will work out. People think that when the "in love" feeling is gone...then Love is gone..but doesn't work that way.
Nowadays we are living in a society that wants it all fast and easy...that's why when something doesn't workout the easiest way is to get out of there are soon as possible....they don't want to work hard for it.
2006-08-20 08:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by There! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are two stages to a relationship, and many people never get past the first one. The initial attraction is more intense but never lasts. The key to a lasting relationship is a different kind of love, and I believe it is a choice you make to commit yourself to the relationship. It's not exciting like the initial attraction, but it's a deeper love. The more you share together, the more love grows.
2006-08-20 08:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Elle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just the word LOVE in its simplest form as always represented by the heart,yes it is possible to love your .sister,brother,mother,friend or who ever forever.That means true love when you love unconditionally not expecting ,which unfortunately is losing meaning.
Conventional marital vows is for 'better or worse' meaning yes one loves the same person forever going by that axiom.
The real situation depends on whether there was love in the first place.Let take typical example of one of the worlds largest democracy-India. There are principally two forms of marriage or loving one person forever in Indian;arranged marriage and love marriage. Arranged marriage is when the love is based on certain influences(money,wealth,fame, or class). Love marriage revolves more on the individuals concern. It gives an individual the opportunity to assess better what is before him or her. While it is less likely to live to the expectations of family or fame that goes with external interference with the love process.
2006-08-20 10:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.. this is not like that what you think.. a true love never ends.. its all about the sour rounding u grew up and having on..but in true love even a small misunderstanding can also break up each other .. Better be care full and loyal to your true love
2006-08-22 11:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant imagine not being anything else than in love with my husband, and we have been together for 18 years.
we both lived life to the full before meeting each other and fell in love the moment we met which i never believed in before.
So Iam not doing this out of duty, we never become board of each other, if anything we miss each other when we are apart even for one night.
2006-08-20 09:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by ANMAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋