My cousin likes wearing diapers, she's 12... is this wrong?

Question

I walked in on her in her room in a diaper. She made me swear not to tell my parents, but I don't know if maybe I should. She told me she just wears them because they feel good, but she doesn't want anyone to know, and she rarely wears them outside of the house. I asked if she used them, she said sometimes but not often and only when she knows she will be able to change herself pretty soon without anyone knowing.

What should I do? Should I keep her secret? Support her? Or act like it never happened? Or tell her or my parents?

To answer a few of your questions:

Yes this is serious, and I don't find it funny.

I walked into her room because I didn't know she was home. If I knew she was in there, I wouldn't have walked in on her.

She gets them from her 3 year old sister who is almost done potty training.

I am close to her. I thought she told me everything until now.

No, I don't see how it is hurting anyone, but it's just so weird.

Answer 1

Why would you tell on her? Did she do something to you that you want to get even with her for?

What she is doing is hurting no one and it is much better than cigarettes or drugs or something worse.

Leave it alone and let her enjoy herself. Telling on her won't accomplish anything at all so why do it. If she gets caught it won't stop her desire to wear diapers, it will just make her life miserable and make her more determined to find a way to wear them when she wants.

She will have enough problems when her sister is potty trained and there aren't any more diapers around the house.

Maybe you should just support her in this and help her if she needs or wants. You don't know, you might like it yourself if you tried it.

Take care of her and help her by keeping her secret.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I dont know, she is only 12. I dont really think this is a healthy habit and i really dont think that a 12 year old has the ability to make a long term judgement about whether she should do it or not.

What if it continues and develops into something else? Or gets worse? There are people out there who have a serious fetish about peeing in public, etc etc. Im not saying thats a bad thing ( Personally i dont feel the same excitement over peeing, nor do i understand it) but what if it turns into some freaky thing when she is older?

And another thing, where is she getting the diapers from if she is 12? A younger sibling or something? I would propose to move them where she cant get ahold of them. I dont know why she would do this, its nothing ive ever heard of before. I dont think it will hurt her but i definately dont think its normal. I think you should tell her parents, but before you tell them, make them promise they wont flip out.

Then i would work with them so that they can limit her ability to get the diapers, for example, keeping the younger siblings diaperbag in a secret area, or somewhere she cant reach. (If that is the case and thats how she is getting the diapers)

I dont think its normal...i guess its up to you. Think about it though. There is something in her mind that would suggest her to do this. I think you should tell an adult. a 12 year old isnt old enough to know why she feels the need to wear a diaper.

Good question.

Answer 3

This is kind of odd, but I don't think it's all that serious. The fact that she uses them sometimes is disturbing, so I think because of that you should probably tell an adult. I mean, she shouldn't be using them. If she's wearing them for comfort?...umm- that's not really normal either. Maybe it could be something psychological- like she's afraid to let go of her childhood because she's becoming a teen? If this is the case, then an adult should be consulted. Try talking 2 her in depth. That way u can maybe solve the problem w/o breaking her secret. Good blessings!

Answer 4

I wouldn't tell anyone, some people get off on things like that, and its a private thing. I would tell her to be a bit more cautious, otherwise people will find out. Diaper fetish is a common thing, and there is nothing wrong with it. I think my telling your parents, you would be violating the her trust. Just try to forget about it, you don't need to talk about it really. I'm sure you have weird fetishes too.

Answer 5

You should probably keep her secret and not tell her parents. If she has developed this "Fetish" it will only cause her embarrassment to make it public. This is a harmless act that she is doing, and she may grow out of it, but the publication of it could result in long term mental trauma.

Just be her friend, you cannot ever have enough true friends that know your dark secrets.

Answer 6

It sounds like she is having some weird issues to me....Maybe you should have another long talk about it with her and see if u can help her. I would not tell her parents though because if she is close to you then she will probably never trust you again

Answer 7

She may be a bed wetter and is ashamed to tell anyone...Try and get her to tell her parents, because she may suffer from an overactive bladder, and may need medical attention....Be mature about it and don't make fun of the situation.

Answer 8

You should tell your parents becasue u never know when it might be something serious, but another thing to do before u tell ur parents is to talk to ur cousin and ask her to tell u why or u willl tell ur parents.

Answer 9

There is something wrong with this picture.

If you are serious, then I would talk to your parents about it.

Why are you walking into a 12 year old girls room without being sure the "coast is clear"?

Answer 10

Ah, the diaper fetish. Think of it this way: Telling your parents won't end the fetish, but it will definitely embarrass her. Just keep her secret.