Me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago and it's been hard. The thing now that is really bothering me and hurting me alot is that I know for a fact that he has a girlfriend, but he has not personally told me. The thing is that he has stopped calling me and has only called me to really just hook up. I want to tell him that I don't want to just be the one on the side and have sex with him because it's only hurting me and will only make it harder for me to move on. But he insists that maybe we will get back together in the future and that he rather have sex with me than anyone else because I am his first and that he still feels something for me. WHAT CAN I DO??????
2006-08-20 08:30:44 · 23 answers · asked by Lessons_in_life10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweet, hate to break the bad news to ya dear, but you were nothing more than a booty call to him. He's playing you. Move on with you're life and be done with the fool.
2006-08-20 08:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The honest to god hard truth is...
Get over it move on and completely stop communication with the person, It will hurt at first but otherwise you will be hanging on forever and that wont be fair to you or your future relationships.
Look at the glass half full not half empty. Take the relationship as a learning experience and go have a good time.
Hope you feel better and it works out for you.
2006-08-20 15:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Steveooooooooooooooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... if you aren't comfortable with being the second, then why are allowing it to happen? As hard as split ups are.... swallow it... dont settle. Although the sex might be great....."dick comes a dime a dozen" and you can get what you want else where.
Secondly, you have to make your choices.... what is more important. Having him a lil or not having him at all. If you cant deal with being second, again then tell him to take a hike.
I can tell you when you dont want him anymore then it will more than likely make him want you worse. And in that case dont even give him a taste of what he wants.... Dont answer his phone calls, dont call him, dont email him, ect ect ect. Be a woman and stand up for yourself.... if second isnt something you can deal with. When you have that mentality then most men wont deny you.... they love it and who knows you will probably meet someone alot better!!!
Good luck....
2006-08-20 15:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jonna F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on the guy is using you for sex.The best thing you can do is no contact with him whatsoever. It is hard but that is the only way you can be sure to get over him. You are his fallback girl when he can't get it anywhere else, the last resort. Some of us guys will tell a woman anything to keep her hanging on. That is his way of having some control over you. You are no ones puppet and you should not have to wait on anyone. If he really wants to be with you, he will make a effort. If not then he is just using you.
2006-08-20 15:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Allen the Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all honey if you broke up 5 months ago what are you still doing having sex with him? He's using you. I'll bet his new girlfriend doesn't know that he's doing this!
You're hurting over this and rightfully so. Don't sell yourself short; gather your self respect and tell him you're done! Get away from you and stay away from you. Now you have to stick to this no more phone calls either because it sounds to me like he's just playing you girl.
You can bet if the situation was turned around he wouldn't want to play either.
2006-08-20 15:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tatorbug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should move on and stop giving him sex. He is only using you. If you get back together then you will get back together ,but for now tell him if he has a girlfriend to have sex with her, you are not just a piece of a**.
2006-08-20 15:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something that you have to decide for yourself.
If you want him and his sex, then go ahead and call him but it should be under your terms... you cannot expect anything from him in return. So you have to be strong internally.
however, i am a guy. And if a girl wants to give it to me unconditionally, the tendency is to take advantage. No commitment.
You end up with no real relationship... just sex.
No meaning. No value. Just emptiness. So where do you go from here?
Will this make you happy?
You have to answer this question.
Nobody else can give you the right answer.
Your experience will give you your answer.
2006-08-20 16:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by melvynpatrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one , move on
two , grow up and go have some fun guy's ain't everything
three , you should have keep your pants on from the start
four , go have fun he not worth your time and heart acke
five , stop looking back your neck will start hurting
six ,go tell your mother that you have been having six with this guy just to have a friend see what hurts more then
2006-08-20 15:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by del b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Ex-boyfriend is bisexual and he wants his cake and eat it to. He is taking you for granted and you are letting him. He is using the fact that you still care for him to his advantage. You need to just cut him off and tell him you are sick of being his boy-toy. NO, it will not be easy to do and it will hurt like hell but for your sake you must do it so that you can start to heal from the lose. It may take some time to get over him but you will love yourself better for it. Good Luck !! Big Hugs
2006-08-20 16:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by brian55780 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are suppose to be sitting on the sides answering booty calls and waiting on him? Girl, come on, don't degrade yourself like that. Move on. You don't have to go get a new boyfriend, but stop seeing him. When he sees youa re serious he will leave you alone. But as long as you keep giving him the booty, he is going to keep calling. Don't call him for anything and avoid his calls at whatever cost.
Did you expect him to call and say, wait for me, I am screwing someone else for a while, but don't worry, I will get tired of her too eventually and be back to call on you.
And lastly, from my parents way back when..."why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
2006-08-20 15:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart it's best to let it go now. If you know he has a girlfriend and he's not coming back to you. The longer you let yourself be involed w/ this man the longer your going to hurt from it. In time you will heal better to start the process sooner than later right..... Keep your chin up it'll all get better...
2006-08-20 16:01:21 · answer #11 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋