I'm in a relationship have been for almost 2 yrs now. I really like the guy, and he treats me well does everything in his power to make me happy. I'm 21 and he's older. So I wont to go to school. Was thinking of Job Corp to get my GED. Than the military. But he doesn't wont me to. If I dont I'll never have nothing for my self. I have a son from my husband. And I wont to be able to provide for him. Don't know if it would be mean, harsh, being a ***** to leave him.... Some advice would be nice so I can explore what I should do. Ty for all ur help!!
2006-08-20 08:29:42 · 10 answers · asked by Kimberly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do whats gonna provide you and your child the greatest benefit in the long run. At 21 your doing good to want to improve yourself and not settle for nothing. if he doesn't get it and hes older that just shows how really immature he is. Getting your GED and all is great go for it. and NO just cause you want something outta life doesnt make you a *****.
2006-08-20 08:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Titanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is difficult to answer. You don't say if the relationship your in is heading to marriage or not. If he is a good provider or not. I think you really must sit down and discuss where it is going. Once you've done that, you'll know where you stand with him. Now, about your son. Is this son from this relationship or another. In the beginning you said you were in a relationship but then you say you have a son by your husband. I am confused on that part. Does your husband provide for your son ?
Its true you need to complete your education to get any place in this world today. I'm proud to see that you would like to try. But you don't want to do it at the expense of your child. What I'm saying is he or she needs a mom. You could attend night school and then try for your GED. That way you would still be home with your child. I
don't think the service would be a good idea. As I read this again, I get the feeling you may be looking for an escape route. One where you will feel your helping to futher your education and getting away too. These are just a few things to think about. Good luck with with what you decide.
2006-08-20 16:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships, as you probably have guessed from having an ex-husband, can change. Education lasts forever and gives you the ability to make choices for your son and for yourself. It is not wrong or harsh for you to put a child before everything. What if this relationship doesn't work out? It would be much harder to finish school and provide for both of you if you don't start as soon as possible. It will be difficult to move on, but at 21 you owe yourself the means to provide your own independence.
2006-08-20 15:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by losteph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to him, tell him you would like to be able to set a good example for your son. You would like to start by going to school and getting some sort of education. Military can be hard when you have a child, I looked into it and decided it wasn't for me. There are many educational programs you can get into without having to leave your home, and allow you to stay in the family. Go over with him, that if something ever were to happen and you could not be together (i.e. he gets hurt, or can't be there) you still want to be able to provide for your family. Not sure this helps, but goodluck
2006-08-20 15:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a son with this guy, so for the sake of your child you should try and find a solution that makes everyone happy. You definitely should go to school, but leaving him to do it is not the answer. You will both need to compromise and be understanding so that your son gets to be with both his parents in a loving home while you get a better education.
2006-08-20 15:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by joandi_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to leave him? Anyway, I did want to jump in here to let you know that I am an aunt to someone in the service and a mom to three kids in the service. They all joined because they were led to believe that they would all have these wonderful opportunities in there and it sounded easy and good to them. DO NOT go to the military unless you really want to fight for your country and want to be a soldier first, do not do it to get the *perks*, you can get the same ones even better on the outside. I get tired of listening to my kids saying they have to give most of their time to being a soldier, that is what the military wants, they don't want you so that they can set you up and give you free schooling. Just go into it with your eyes wide open, please. My daughter has a baby and one on the way and they will probably send her to Iraq once it is here. Can you leave your child for long periods of time? Please, go to college, you will make it and all will work out. I am wishing you luck hun.
2006-08-20 15:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kimberly,
If this guy cares for you, he will want what's best for you and your son. You don't really say what he is offering as an alternative. Really think this through and make an adult decision. At 21 it's time for you to be responsible for your life.
2006-08-20 15:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Robin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should follow your heart and do what you really want to. its true you may really love him, but if he loves you too, he'll let you be happy and be in the military. plus, everyone should be able to have something for themselves once and a while. if you dont try this, you'll live your life wondering what if would've been like.
2006-08-20 15:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by cutie_pie53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's a man at all, he'll want you to be successful in what you want to do. you need to provide for your child, heaven knows you cant rely on anyone else to do it. I learned long time ago the only person that I can count on to help me was myself as far as providing for my child. if he dont like it, he's really not worth it. a real man would want you to do what you can to be self reliant!
2006-08-20 15:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should follow what your heart tells you to do. if you want to go to school and further your education so you can have a career to support you and your son then thats great, if he can't accept that then you might want to consider leaving him. some things are just more important. he should support you in wanting to better yourself and not bring you down about it.
2006-08-20 19:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋