I am separated from my husband. I have been talking to an old friend online. We both used to be into each other back in high school but i met my husband and fell for him. Long story short i am feeling those thing for him again. Does it mean something or should i let it go i am not going to date any one for along time after my husband and i divorce but should i tell the guy what i am feeling.
2006-08-20 08:16:37 · 34 answers · asked by SiberianHusky_8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He kissed another girl and then had a year realtionship online with a women i thought was my friend. i have no intention of this guy and i seriously dating right now. i just thought i should tell him i am feeling this. he knows all my problems right now. and is very supportive . I kinda feel like i am lying in not telling him i am a very honeslt probably to honest person and snother thing shoudl i tell my husband he knows i talk to this guy has even sat and watch what i type he knows it is harmless.
2006-08-20 08:54:09 · update #1
why not, you are getting divorced so you may feel some residual guilt like feelings because you are still in married mode, but go for it
2006-08-20 08:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont tell the guy how you feel, you could only be feeling these feeling because you going through a hard time right and you feel like you need some one to hold you and comfort you right now. The biggest mistake you can make is jumping into something you might regret it in the long run. The best thing to do is wait till everything is over and done with you and your husband, and then see where you still stand as far as your feelings go for this guy, but for now stay friends because thats the best thing you'll need right now.
2006-08-20 08:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through a separation is very stress full and it's good to have a friend to talk with; but you should be careful with your "old friend". It is sometimes very easy to forget the bad stuff in a past relationship when in a situation like this because your vulnerable at this stage. I'd be very careful with the words I choose if you do tell the "old friend" how your feeling. Because it sounds to me like you want to keep chatting on-line. Keep it light because if he doesn't feel the same as you do you don't want to loose an "old friend".
2006-08-20 08:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tatorbug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your husband and you divorce. Divorcing is a big thing so be sure to talk about it. After you divorced r thought about when your free you can start dating new guys or the one online. Tell him your divorced and how you feel about him Nobody's holding you back so have some fun, enjoy yourself.
2006-08-20 08:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by candiexkiss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell the man on-line the truth and stop playing with the man online. He's seems like the one who u love. But u really need to email him and tell him the truth. The feelings u have probably came from the man on line. If he was there u wouldn't have feeling for your husband. Write back tonight Amanda abra3144@yahoo.com
2006-08-21 11:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by ansel b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!! Don't talk about old feelings. It's fine to chat with the guy. But, for now, just keep it friendly, and light weight. Give yourself time to get your relationship with hubby straightened out, before you worry much about anybody else. But, if this guy is not a factor in your marital problems, a relationship with an old friend is fine. Heck, more than just friendship is fine, but should wait a little while.
2006-08-20 08:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until after your divorce,you might just be more sensitive to your old friend simply because you are going through a tough time now and if you start seeing someone it looks as though that was the true reason behind the divorce. it doesn't hurt to get together with someone to talk or spend some time but be careful your more vulnerable now under the stress.
2006-08-20 08:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know this guy from your past to be a rebound relationship. Just take it slow and tell him that you won't be dating for a while after your divorce is finalized.
I've done the same and it is always much easier to divorce when someone is waiting in the wings, but it is not always appropriate.
Good Luck!
2006-08-20 08:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. When we experience drastic changes in our lives we want to return to something familiar and safe. This is when we revisit old places and old friends. It's because we feel insecure and afraid. It natural and there's nothing wrong with it however it is when we are the most venerable and do foolish things. Don't expose yourself to this emotional trap. High school is also great in memory but if you had to go back and relive it in reality you'd suddenly remember are the nasty, downright dorky things that went on. Old High School romances seldom live up to your dreams. Move on.
2006-08-20 08:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him right away. Just take it slowly. If your old flame really still cares for you, he will understand that you are going through a difficult time and just be willing to be there for you as a friend. If something else develops at some later point, you will have a stronger, closer bond. That's just my opinion. It's not based on personal experience.
2006-08-20 08:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Amanda,
The worse thing to do is get involved with someone while you are still married. You need time to heal and decide what you want to do with your life. Besides this is a separation. Things may work out. Divorce is like death and very hard to get over. I know.
2006-08-20 08:40:40 · answer #11 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋