i have known him for some yrs,but i met him a few months ago after 5yrs and its been.... the thing is i feel used most times by him and its so sad.its even messing up dealings with young unmarried men, all i think of is how to stay faithful to him. its sick and i know its wrong dats y ik need ur help. i even met a really cute guy today. and by the way, am 26yrs old and honestly very pretty. a part of me tells me,he doesnt luv me. thanks guys, but i really need 2 walk away and i need practicable advise.
2006-08-20 08:07:40 · 17 answers · asked by pink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a win-lose relationship. He gets all the benefits, and you lose your opportunity to be involved with someone where there is a future. From my experience, even with separated married men, they don't commit to their "new love". This dog bites and will bite again—he is cheating on his wife and will cheat on you.
Some women really don't want to be involved with available men. I hope this is not your situation, if it sounds like it could be get conseling.
2006-08-20 08:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be a mistress to this married man. He is using you. Go fetch a nice man who will be loyal to you. This guy you are with is not Loyal. He is being dis-loyal to the one he made marriage vows with. Do you actually think he would be loyal to you ? You are commiting Adultery and so is he. You should feel used, because he is using you as a garbage can. If he had any respect for you, he wouldn't do this to you and mainly his wife. Don't be a part of his double life. Get out while you can. Do as you instinct tells you, walk away and don't look back. He is not a nice man. If he has kids it is even worse. Your life with him is known only to be the other woman. Good Luck
2006-08-20 08:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you need to come to the reality that no matter how great and wonderful this married guy treats you...he has already put a ring on some other womans hand and after he uses you, he goes home to her. no matter how attached you feel to him, you go home to an empty bed.
you havent met Mr. Right because Mr.Married has had you tied up as his booty call. Lose this guy, think of all the wrong he has done you and don't look back. You are the one who is allowing it all to happen. Get a grip and move on. If you need more encouraging let me know.
2006-08-20 08:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 25 & ur right, he doesnt love you! He doesnt even have respect for you. And if he did ever leave his wife, you could never be sure that he would be faithful. So tell him its over, if you cant just say it, write him a letter. Take his # out of your phone & if you have to change your phone number. But if he wont leave you alone, threaten to tell his wife...he definitely doesnt want that. If you start going out with friends or even just talking to other guys, you wont have time to think about him & you will easily move on! GOOD LUCK!
P.S. You never should have gotten involved with a married man to begin with! Shame on you! Because I have been cheated on before, I could never put another woman through that pain!
2006-08-20 08:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly you're a lost soul. the reason your guy has run away, has little to do which includes your different religions. He sees your desperation and he's fearful of you - no one needs to shelter someone who's so bothered. it truly is not someone you favor to improve your babies. you want to artwork on your self, be sturdy on your own beliefs - not change them only for a guy's love. you may want to not be waiting for a relationship, considering your existence isn't good today. I took a 12 months off from even as i became ill and after my mom died, because i became too emotional and depressed to percentage my existence with a guy. Relationships take artwork, and that i'd not be able of furnish a guy any time, if he became going to be the purely one waiting to provide. once you're content which includes your own existence, you'll meet somebody else. Its not likely to be this guy. it truly is going to be a guy that fairly adores you, inspite of religion - even if try to be with someone which includes your similar beliefs - in spite of you ultimately confirm. you want to go back to a decision what faith you're first earlier getting in touch back. it truly is going to count number interior the destiny. Be properly, and flow seek for a counselor, to get better out of your grief and melancholy, earlier getting yet another guy.
2016-11-05 06:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut yourself off from him. You deserve so much better than to share your relationship with another woman. Honestly, you're worrying so much about being faithful to him while he, himself, is being unfaithful to his wife. His actions are a preview of the future and you deserve to be the center of the universe for a man that wants only you.
Cut ties. Don't call him. Don't listen to his pleading and begging. Let his wife handle him.
2006-08-20 08:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make yourself matured to take the right decisions in your . Physical appearance is only one aspect of the individual personality. While choosing the right person for youself you have to judge overall persanality which includes inner self of the person.
2006-08-21 00:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sanobar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man have his cake and ice cream to, he's never going to leave his wife, then why should he when he can have the 2 of you. she gets the bills paid the home, and him to sleep with every night. you knows about her but i don't think shes knows about you. walk away from this NOW! i use to be this away to, you are a very pretty girl don't let him use you like this PLEASE. move on go to the book store get this book. the best kind of loving by Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant. this book helped me out alot. and get someone els in your life it will help you to get over this one, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone els.
2006-08-20 08:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO OUT and be social and meet other people. Try using your own will power to realize that he is NOT the right one for you. You may want to consider counseling, because it sounds to me you are more interested in being with someone you KNOW can not commit to you, than trying to be with someone who is available and might be committed to you and love you like you deserve to be loved.
2006-08-20 08:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being with someone married is wrong for either sex, you need to get a tougher skin and stick with single men.there have to be ZILLIONS out there who would probably drop their left nut to be with you! if you really don't want to be with this married guy tell him and stick to your guns. be ready to go to his wife and confess the affair if he won't leave you alone. use the phone records with him calling you for proof along with reciepts for expensive stuff he got you. good luck! oh yeah, be ready with a court order if he gets obessessed and abusive.
Vin
2006-08-20 08:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋