Married, but think about sex with someone I used to screw around with.?

Question

I have been married fo six years now and I am genuinely happy in my realationship but I find myself thinking about the sex I used to have with a guy before my marriage. The guy was awsome in bed and I seem to be stuck on that. My husband is also good in bed but is obsessed with sex. We have sex almost every day. Please dont tell me that I am comparing my husband to this guy I know that their styles are different. How do I get thuis guy out of my head?? Do I tell my husband about it?? PS I wouldnt cheat with this guy either, he only lives 10 miles from me and My husband is a truck driver owner/operator.,

Answer 1

i personally wouldn't tell my husband about my thoughts of another man, I think your husband would just get upset that you are thinking about another man, However you should talk to your husband about him wanting sex everyday. Tell your husband that to you it is a turn off and that he needs to calm it down a little. Communication about what makes you happy in and out of the bed room is important. As for getting the other guy out of your mind.......think about your husband every time you start to think about the other man. Good Luck and remember communication!

Answer 2

Try transferring your feelings to your husband when you are thinking about the old boyfriend. When you are feeling warm and fuzzy and catch yourself thinking about the ex, try to keep the warm and fuzzy feeling and think about your husband instead. You should also try to guide your husband to do things that please you. He won't know unless you tell him know. If you are not comfortable talking about it, you can use non verbal clues - take his hand in yours and guide him - give a little sigh of delight when he is making you feel nice.

If the everyday routine is getting boring - try to spice it up. Move to a different location - the shower, the kitchen table, the pool table, the park under a blanket (when there aren't a lot of people around).

Play games - one day ask if you can experiment with touching only parts of the body that are not actual sex organs. Make a deal that you will not have sex that day. Just experiment with what feels good - a foot rub, running fingers lightly down his side, etc. By the next day you may find you are thinking of him and only him - at least for that day!

Answer 3

Are you having to see this guy more than nessessary? Out of sight out of mind. Start romancing your husband. Remind yourself of the things you loved about him in the beginning and help it grow from there.
What good could come from you telling your husband that you are thinking of another man? This will only hurt him and make him suspicious as well. You should, however, tell him that you are not really wanting to have sex every single night. Tell him that you wouldn't mind just cuddling every once in a while.
You may also want to seek couseling for yourself. Get down to why you are thinking of this other guy. Maybe there wasn't good closure in your past relationship. Good luck.

Answer 4

My way of thinking would be, why would you even WANT to think of someone else ex or not if you are married, especially in that way? I would think there is a problem in the marriage. I don't know any body that is in a marriage and everything is fine and one of the two even thinks that way.My ex was good in bed too, but I have no desire to EVEN think about him since I have the one I have now. The man you have now should be good enough for you that you would not want to be thinking of another person AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Sahme on you. What did you get married for. My husband is a truck driever gone for 8 days, only home for a day or two and leaves. You need to get over yourself, and the poor me stuff. And Love the man you married

Answer 6

As long as you don't intend to act on it I don't think a little remembering will hurt anything. No need to tell your husband, that would only hurt him. Just try to think about something else when you start thinking about it. But I wouldn't worry too much about it, as long as you are happy with your husband and things are going good then not everything thing you think about needs to be discussed.

Answer 7

While in a relationship my partner and I had a very healthy sex life. I would sometimes fantasize about other men, while we were......you know.... At 37 I feel completely natural to think of other men..to fantasize about them..Makes the O's even better!! Sometimes, however I pretend that it is my partner and mines first encounter together and the excitement is just thrilling. PS>>do not tell your man, it stays inside your head!!

Answer 8

This is so normal.... dont freak out about it. If you arent gonna cheat on your husband then it shouldnt be a problem.. No I wouldnt tell your husband..... (bad idea) And as far as getting the thoughts out of your head..... good luck with that one. Lemme know if you can actually do that.

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Answer 9

I wouldnt think of telling yourhusband that. To get it out of your head i would suggest thinking about how much you love your husband and that guy will never be as caring and loving your husband is. That guy isnt worth your sacred marriage.

Answer 10

Thoughts of others are fine... just don't act on them. I would suggest NOT to tell your husband unless you want to start a fight. Maybe when you start having thoughts of the other man, stop yourself and remember all the wonderful things YOUR husband does for you. I don't think there is anything wrong with you... if you don't want to think about the other guy... stop yourself and start thinking of your husband.