Why do women think it is ok, to let themselves go after they get married?

Answer 1

The same reason men feel like it's okay to let themselves go after they get married.

Answer 2

Obviously there are just as many men who "let themselves go" after marriage, as there are women. I don't think this is a "women" only thing. Of couse, women bare children and that effects every woman's body different.

It really has to do with self pride. I am married seven years with a 1 yr old daugther. I eat right, exercise and still weigh the same I did when I got married. I make sure when my husband comes home from work I have on a little makeup and I'm not in sweatpants. It isn't just for him, it because I care about myself and want to look good and feel good about myself. Some people take more pride in their overall health than others...it is as simple as that.

Answer 3

I can't speak for any other woman but I can for myself, I have been married for 20+ years and I can't think of enough ways to keep myself in top notch shape! I work out 5 times a week and invest a lot of time and money in things that will help me maintain my health and beauty. I eat right and get enough rest, not to much! The reason I am so committed is because of my spouse! I love the way he looks at me, touches me and the things he says to me, he doesn't even realize how much he motivates me to keep up the fight! I am 46yrs old, I am 5'7'', I weigh 116 lbs, my measurements 36 24 35, I have less than 3% body fat! Maybe the problem is a two fold issue!

Answer 4

It's not that they think it's okay to let themselves go. You have to remember that when you are married most women sacrafice a lot of their "alone time" for other things, children and cleaning the house etc. Where before all she had to take care of was herself, so so could go to the gym when she wanted to, buy more exspensive healthier foods, and take more time to to dress up. Believe it or not , it's all the little things that slowly eat her time away. Plus she may not get all dressed up and as much or hardly at all because she feels confident enough in you that you love no matter what she looks like. Where before when she was dating she "had" to make herself look more phsycally desirable because people will go for outside looks before they want to know the person on the inside.Marriage requires work from both people, so if you want her to be more fit, than you are going to have to pick up extra things she normally does so she has the time to do it.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Because of you men. You stop looking at us the way you use to when we first met. The loving has changed it has become less. We might have had a child or two. We might have a job, then come home and take care of the house. But it is up to you men to keep us women from letting ourselves go, by telling us we look good no matter what, spend more quality time. And always ask us questions.

Answer 7

It's not just a woman thing. Men do it all the time.

Once you get married your no longer in the market to look for another mate. You become relaxed and confident in the relationship. You start taking one another for "granted" (harsh but true). Where once you would not let them see you without make-up or your hair fixed or clean clothes...now you work side by side on chores, wake up in the same bed, shower together and let's say it...gain some weight.

Answer 8

Not all of us do. It's never safe to assume that once a man is "hooked" that we have to stop trying to look our best. I can't imagine what a man must go through to see the beautiful woman he married stop taking care of herself or gain a great deal of weight. How must HE feel if she doesn't think enough of the relationship to want to look great for him (and for herself)?

Men have a hard enough time resisting the temptation of other women without their wives losing interest in their appearance and making other women look that much better. The shape-shifting that occurs after childbirth is unavoidable, as is the onset of the aging process, but that is no excuse for women not to be the very best they can be, married or not.

Answer 9

I guess it is just one of those things that happen after someone gets too comfortable in a relationship. I have to say though that not all wives are this way. I like to keep my relationship "spicy" if you know what I mean. And always try to look my best for my husband and the same goes for him. Maybe if you are in this situation you should just say "Baby I would love to see you in something sexy, or lets get dressed up for eachother once in a while." Good luck.

Answer 10

As you can tell with all these answers, the issue seems to apply to both sexs. But society seems to be less critical of men who do it. It's called the "According to George Lopez, Everybody Loves the King of Queens" syndrome.

Either way, it can cause a lot of stress for the non-let-go spouse. Weight changes people. When they quit being social and won't do the things they used to, you think "What the heck happened?"