I'm in my mid 20s and have always had a healthy happy sex life. I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years now.
Recently (last 2 months), whenever we go to have intercourse, I find that I just don't enjoy it. I can get aroused and ready for sex, but once we start having intercourse, I just find myself wishing it could be done faster. I'm just so frustrated with my body and don't get why things just don't feel good anymore.
I love my boyfriend and don't really think it's anything he's doing (?) Like I said, we always have quite a bit of foreplay and I do get initially aroused. I just don't know how to talk with him about this issue either. I just feel so trapped and pressured when he wants to have sex, as I know I'm not going to enjoy it once we start.
The only med I'm on is Ortho-TriCyclen. Could that be doing this?
Anyone else dealt with this? What should I do? I would really prefer not to see a psychologist as I don't have the time nor money.
2006-08-20 06:55:23 · 9 answers · asked by J D 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
We do explore and do lots of different things still. We're both into a kinky lifestyle and we keep things interesting. It's not getting up to the sex part that's difficult, it's once we actually start intercourse. I don't get dry, it doesn't hurt, I just don't enjoy it.
Our relationship is long distance, so we only see each other 2-3x a month, so it's not like this has been happening so long.
2006-08-20 09:57:04 · update #1
call me and u will start again
2006-08-20 07:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by nirvami 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
birth control pills do shrink sexual arousal..imagine about it--they end women persons from Ovulating. And its throughout Ovulation that sex hormones are released into the bloodstream, after the egg is released from the ovary..Any endocrinoligist or OB-GYN physician might want to inform you that sexual urge for nutrition is instantly on the problem of the quantity of hormones on your bloodstream...per chance you may search for suggestion from along with your physician about switching to a decrease dopse birth control--or per chance an IUD. and women persons's sexuality is likewise tied to thoughts. you've been along with your boyfriend for 2 entire years--thats a lengthy time period. per chance you're basically undeniable drained of him..See, thats between the the rationalization why we ought to continuously no longer have sex previously marriage: once you've sex along with your guy for 2 years in each poistions lower than the sunlight 2 situations an afternoon--what do you imagine is gonna take position when you get married? you imagine you're going to magically have this tremendous and exciting new sex existence? NO. you've been there and carried out that a million situations over--and it really is noted as being bored. seem, take a spoil from sex. supply your body a probability to recooperate from 2 years of non end premarital sex, non end sex..He has no precise to get pissed--he's no longer married to you and he's no longer your husband--your body belongs to you. Its like happening a nutrition routine..After a lengthy time period, you'd be hungry back..yet i might want to propose you waiting till when you both get married besides--you dont want to have those issues come decrease back after your wedding ceremony--and which will be a real bummer. Take Care.
2016-11-26 19:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by devers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could be worrying more and making this worse. You probably should bring this up with your partner, as dealing with this honestly will probably help. Hiding it from him will not work too well in the long term and it could drive you apart. A good open sex life is important in any relationship. If he loves you, I'm sure you should be able to work it out.
Good luck.
2006-08-20 07:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by thinkofasong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm might be the med.. or else u could try another partner...dont think about it too much as this is also a factor that prevents u from enjoying... also try having a little alcohol before as u will be more relaxed... or u could try different positions...
2006-08-20 07:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A number of things could be causing this.
Your OCP
Depression
Underactive thyroid
...
You might do well to see your doctor in the first instance so they (s)he can make a start on untangling the multiplicity of causes.
2006-08-20 07:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you need to see a psychologist-its probably more to do with routine.
I know i dont feel as excited as when we first met cause i know whats coming. perhaps you need to try new things(Toys, DVDs)even new positions and places could spice things up.
Well now ive given you advice i might try it myself!
2006-08-20 07:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be the med.....also try and spice it up! write him sexy little emails or letters, or maybe you are just bored and need to try new things, maybe new positions or maybe fantisize about maybe a hot celebrity or maybe a guy you saw on the street. Just try new things and see if that helps
2006-08-20 07:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Brittney R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy 66
I say see your gynecologist.
You may have physical problems like polyps.
2 months and your here ???? no discussions with your man??
Not cool. your health and well being must be shared with him.
2006-08-20 07:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks for your boyfriend.
2006-08-20 07:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by Isles1015 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋