Okay, here it goes: Ths guy has been stalking me for since i was 17. he was 14. Im 25 now and hes 22. I went to court cause of him 3 times. he used to ride around my house, sleep in my car..things like that. I was his friend when we were younger cause his parents died and i was there for him. So i didnt really feel like he was a threat then, just lonely. Now we're older and im creeped. The thing is, he left me alone after 3 months (in jail cause he was in my room at 3am while my hubby was away 4 work & I called the police), but he left me alone for a YEAR after that. Now, I moved away.(not cause of him) But last night i saw his car out in front of my house! Howd he know where i was?? I called the cops and they said since i didnt see him get out of the car, they cant do anything. (i know i shouldve lied and said i saw him but it was too late) Now hes 'smarter' about his f***ing stalker ways. What can i do to get him? My husband is a total wuss about it! He just sits there. (nothing new)
2006-08-20 06:22:52 · 28 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
When i call the police on him, he always leaves in time before they get there.
2006-08-20 06:23:20 · update #1
(As you can see, I have asked about this before)
2006-08-20 06:23:57 · update #2
Get a protection order against him. Tell them about previous incidents and let them know that you are scared.
2006-08-20 09:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple really get a restraining order and he can't come near you. If he does come near you call the cops and tell them what he is wearing etc., just in case he gets away and they can go after him and catch him. If you have an idea of where he lives, tell the cops that too and they can look for him there and around the area he lives. He won't get away forever. It sounds like he needs some professional help. He has been holding on to you because you gave him attention and support when his parents died and I guess he has mistaken that for something else. Another thing you can try is, get him to come over when your husband is home. If your husband has a car, tell him to hide the car somewhere so that he doesn't see it. Have a conversation with the stalker, don't let him see your husband. Have your husband call the cops and make sure you can keep the stalker talking long enough till they get there and get him. If you feel threatened by him, have something sharp with you but don't let him see it. So if he tries to hurt you, you can defend yourself. Keep your door unlocked so that the cops can get in there quick. If he tries to get away, have your husband tackle him and keep him on the ground. If your husband isn't gonna do anything about it, then go to someone else who could help you and do all I said there. If you have friends who know the police that is even better. By the way, get some handcuffs if you can, so whoever tackles him can put them on him and cuff him up to something so he won't get away. Good luck!
2006-08-20 06:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to get the old video cam out.
and bug your place of residence.
also online save all transcripts.
sooner or later you'll have enough to get this guy a few days in jail.
there are places online that can help you.
just type in google.com
stalker, i have a stalker, help with stalking problems, stalking issues, issues with a stalker, i think i may have a stalker... so on, i think you're getting the gist of what i'm trying to say.
tell your hubby if he loves you and his life... (seriously now) time to take action.
nothing proves nothing more than video and paperwork.
it may not be completely reliable (in the courts that is) but it sure helps.
also if you have friends who can help you without getting completely involved will help. they can watch using their cams, they can take notes, call the police when they see it happening (so you can have a change in hell to have the cops there when your stalker is still there with you) so on.
get his information! take pictures.. so on.
the more the merrier. and get some witnesses who are logical and can handle the effort of taking in information also and doing the pictures thing and the video thing.
good luck.
patience is also a virtue and try not to be as emotional during this something about a dead response sure makes an impact.
along with that and the police.
2006-08-20 06:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This case is pretty good in your favor since it appears that you have actually done things in the past to keep him away. What you could do is get a restraining order on him. they only cost a small court fee. Be sure to say that you feel that your life and/or personal safety are being threatened when he is around.Then if he is sitting outside of your house he will be in violation of a court order and could be arrested.
In the mean time do not acknowledge his existance at all. Do not talk to him do not look at him out the window, Any attention from you, negative or positive, is going to encourage his actions.
DO NOT DO WHAT TBL SAID TO DO AT ALL!!! HE MAY BE A HUMAN BEING BUT SO WERETHE PEOPLE THAT CAUSED 9-11. IF YOU START TO BE HIS FRIEND HE IS GOING TO THINK THAT YOU LIKE HIM AND THAT WILL ONLY ENCOURAGE HIS ACTIONS
2006-08-20 06:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by nightfall7979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, he probably has a police scanner, and can tell when you call the police on him. If your husband don't grow some balls, then find a friend that will, or maybe the next time that you see him, go confront him and start beating on his car with something, and just go crazy on him.make sure that you call the cops first though so that they will be ont he way, and tell them that he was at your window and that you chased him back into the car or something like that... Good luck to you
2006-08-20 06:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first advice to you would be to get a good security system so he can't sneak into your house. Secondly, I would buy and gun and keep it loaded. If you have children, put a lock on it, but keep it loaded because what good is a gun in your hand if the bullets are downstairs? And, why doesn't your husband take care of him? Have him or another man put the fear of God in him and maybe he will leave you alone. Get a camera. Take pictures every time you see his car or see him near you. Keep all the evidence you can. Record your calls in case he calls. Do everything you can to get enough evidence to turn him in to the police and maybe they will put him away for a long time. My prayers are with you. Please be very careful.
2006-08-20 06:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You may need to have a friend help you. Have your
friend that knows about this issue outside to be a witness
and that you have support to contact the police.
Sometimes the best way to deal with it is to avoid
it completely. If the stalker doesn't get a reaction
he'll get the hint you've carried on with your life and
soon leave. Get on with your life. Don't let this person
ruin it.
2006-08-20 06:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by tychi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining Order
2006-08-20 06:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by r0bErT4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a camera and take pictures of him in his car in front of your house. Zoom in on his tag # if possible. Take full pictures -- car, area. Document, document, document ...... times, dates, Call the cops each and every time. Make sure you have deadbolts on all your doors and always lock your car. Look in it before you get in. Take your history with you -- and your current documentation. Get a new restraining order for your new location.
It's easy to find people and information about them -- maybe he asked people you both know or found out on the internet. Is your phone number listed?
Good luck ......
2006-08-20 06:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Wisdomwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop avoiding him and be his friend.
sit him down and talk to him about his life and how he needs to find what he wants to do in life. how he might need some counseling.
no matter how odd or out of it he may appear now, somewhere deep inside him is that normal, yet traumatized and hurt person you knew years ago.
He probably just wants guidence above all. Security and comfort too. That's being expressed in his stalking and clinging to you.
Don't fear him, that's silly--he's still a human being.
Cheerfully confront him and talk to him. Help him get some counseling, find a job, heck, even set up an online dating profile for him if ya want. You did a good thing, befriending him in his time of need, now please, have a heart and help him again!
I would imagine he doesn't like the way he is inside.
later
2006-08-20 06:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by N/A 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to get his license plate number and call the police. I would then file a complaint with the sheriffs department that way if he is at your house, then they will take him in. Tell your husband to man up and go outside and kick this guys ***. Video tape his ***.
2006-08-20 06:30:14 · answer #11 · answered by Professor Gearhead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋