Why are people so stupid?

Question

I'm 17 years old, I have a lot of friends but I can't connect with any
of them. I get ditched all the time, not because they want to make
me feel like s hit but because they just don't think about how it hurts. I can't get out of all the immaturity from everyone I meet at
school. I can't help but get the feeling that it's hopeless and I should just stop talking to everyone because all anyone does is make other people feel like s hit and leave them. Is everyone like this? Why can't I find real friends that CARE? Why aren't people sensitive to other's feelings? Why don't they understand where I'm coming from? Is it impossible? I've never in my life felt more alone than I feel now.

Answer 1

Your not alone. Alot of people are lonely. I'm twice your age and twice divorced. I dont get out much, but I have one friend that I know will stand by me through thick and thin. If you have one good friend, thats worth more than a whole bus full of aquaintances. Dont follow the crowd and try to be cool. Get involved with activities you enjoy and you'll meet others who enjoy the same things. Start slow and keep your head up.

Answer 2

I can't believe some of the jerks that answered here, must be some of your classmates. Anyway, don't let other people form how you feel about yourself. You know you are a good person, be happy with that. Just have patience, the right friends will come along. Don't try to 'make' someone your friend. Friendship is a natural thing. An earlier poster said get some outside activities, that's not a bad idea. What are you interested in? What do you want to learn about? What would you like to do? You'll find yourself surrounded by people with similar interests. That is a good start toward a natural friendship.

Answer 3

I felt like that in high school and for the most part I stayed bymyself. It was better than being around immature people who cared nothing about anyone elses feelings. I did a few select friends. Don't worry, it will all be over sooner than you know it. When you go off to college or just out into the working world there will still be stupid people but ou will have much more choice and freedom.

Answer 4

It's not hopeless at all. You obviously run deeper than the average 17 year old and you can't fault others for not having what you have. I have never related to my peers either but that doesn't mean that like-minded people don't exist.

As you get older your world will get bigger and you'll find those friends you now desire. Just know that there will be few who meet your qualifications. You'll be one of those, like me, who have many acquaintances who will desire your friendship because you ARE different but very few true friends you'll relate to.

BTW, some people never get over being stupid and stay that way all their lives. It's just a fact of life for some.

Answer 5

You must be more mature than the majority of people of your age. But some of them just act like this to follow the majority. Just talk about all this to your friends (without telling them that they're stupid--ask them if they realize that they hurt other people without realizing it). The other people who think like you will probably end up going toward you because they believed they were the only ones thinking like that too. But sometimes people are just really stupid and only time and experience can change them... Or sometimes they never change at all. Just wait and you'll finish high school and end up meeting people with whom you can truely connect. Or you can try right away to meet new people from other places than school.

Answer 6

I'm sorry about your situation. All I can say is that yes...it does seem unfair. But if EVERYONE at school doesn't care, then I'll eat my hat. Do you KNOW everyone at your school? Go and meet them. You may have to go through 100 people before you find a good friend. People may not be sensitive to others feelings for many reasons such as stress, trying to fit in, and etc..

Answer 7

People suck. There a some which are true friends. At your age it is all about games and who is who. Hang in there and you will find true friends with age, I promise. Maybe look for some older friends and family for support. Your feelings of being alone will go away if you learn to love and trust yourself. Just know there are lots of others who feel this way too, they just don't have the guts to let it out. Keep smilin and go on.

Answer 8

Why are people stupid? The short answer: It's a natural state of being. The long answer: don't rely on school to make your friends. I never had a single good friend in school- all my friends were much older than me. Sign up for an activity outside of school that would allow you to meet like-minded people. Be thankful that you're not the same kind of ****** they are.

Answer 9

If you are already 17 then you should not have that much longer to go in school, right? Put up with their bull sh*t until you graduate then I'm sure when you get to college or a job you will start meeting people who act in a more mature manner. Keep talking to the losers, though. Maybe somoe of YOUR maturity will rub off on them.

Answer 10

My whole school years were like that when I was in school. It is sad to see that nothing has changed. I did have one close friend through gr.1 to gr.8 and in our last school yr. together She was so mean to me. Times like this suck. I didn't do anything. I wanted to transfer schools, but my mom would never let me. Now I'm 25 yrs old with the best life I always wanted for myself.
I also had my sisters to lean on. We were all close in age, so we had a lot of the same friends in highschool.
It all comes down to, MEAN PEOPLE SUCK.