my husband would not have sex with me but would look an male porono It took 15 years to find out and 5 kids later. He had even joined a chuber chasres web site.
2006-08-20 06:10:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, you need to know..." IT"S NOT YOU "
I also feel that if it's not yours don't fight for it...Love is supposed to be easy...
2006-08-24 03:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder f I will ask the same question after a few years.I am married for 4 years,the initial three years were very painful for me b'coz my hubby was always wih his friendsI would not even know when he came home at night,It was sleeping with a dead person.He never showed interest in me.From the 3rd anniversary he changed a little,he did have sex with me and now I have a nine months baby,and I am again 3 months pregnant.My hubby has still not changed completely,his friends means all happiness to him,I sometimes wonder if he is a gay.moreover my mother in law is a typical lalitha pawar type and all this is making my life hell.but i wish that every thing gets alright wth u atleast.
2006-08-20 06:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by arshiya z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously with five kids he had to be having SOME sex with you. Or are you telling us that the kids are not his? Gay men are especially pressured into "conforming" to a normal life style. Their bosses (and their families) expect them to be married and have kids. If he's stayed with you for 15 years regardless, then stop worrying about it. He obviously is willing to subjugate his own desires and put them in the background. If you upset the apple cart, he just may decide to "come out" and leave you and the kids high and dry. Maybe you could try for a little slap and tickle on the side to make you happy at staying in your marriage, if you don't want to upset the status quo?
2006-08-20 06:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is gay or wants to be in a gay relationship. Odds are that he is having gay sex somewhere.
It may not mean that he doesn't love you. He does not have sexual feelings toward you. He is probably honoring the marriage to you and the family, but he will leave one day for someone else or at least for the sex. Gay men are like that.
It isn't your fault at all. It just happens. They tend to advertise it in the news like that Mayor in Massachesetts. But I don't think a man can change who he is even for you.
Try talking about it. You know each other well. Sometimes couples stay together even though one is gay. Do you want sex? You know alot about his sexual persuits. You don't need any more information to know he is gay. Stop thinking it is just a phase.
I speak with knowledge on this subject. I married someone who is gay and still doesn't admit it. But I left anyway. It can really make you feel awful about yourself. But it isn't you. Just think about what is best for your family and you.
Give yourself time to get use to the idea. Get ready to talk to your husband. If he is mature and ready to accept it, he will be mature about it. But he may not. Do what you need to do to stay sane.
I left because I didn't have a family with him. I left because I wanted to have a man love me. I left because I deserved more. Do what makes you happy.
Goodluck.
2006-08-20 06:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him look. He might be gay and having sex with other men. You would have to find a tactful way to talk to him about it and he might even feel betrayed that you were snooping. Think long about the process of how you are going to handle it and what your plan is going to be if you can get him to tell you the truth. It is all probably going to be up to you if he is gay and wants no intimacy with y ou.
2006-08-20 06:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go get tested come back pack all his things leave nothing behind pack the toothbrush 2 leave everything outside with a note that reads return to sender resident has moved call a good divorce lawyer explain to kids that dad wont be around as much anymore but still loves them and pour yourself a glass of your favorite wine i know you need it
2006-08-20 06:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he is gay and if he is, leave him b/c u wont have a good marriage and he hasnt been honest with u about the whole gay thing and u wont have a good sex life either. it isnt good for your kids to see that he isnt in love with u like he use to be.
2006-08-20 06:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably only a sexual fantasy, or maybe he really is gay and hid it and even got married. The best thing to do is ask him him about it, and do whatever you can so you're both happy.
2006-08-20 06:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should divorce him. you are putting your health and your childrens health at risk for aids. you had to have sex to have 5 children. if you get or have aids a child can be at risk as well. if he is looking at gay porn than i am sure he is involved in gay sex.your life and your childrens life will be much better if you are not living a lie.
2006-08-20 06:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by boxley4404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not change him, ever. You need to address it and part ways, remain friends, but don't take the chance of being the clueless wife, let alone your health if he is cheating on you
2006-08-20 06:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by flipit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you already divorced? If so drop it, divorcing him was what you did to solve the problem. If not you need to make some decisions I guess.
2006-08-20 06:17:57 · answer #11 · answered by Pumpkin Head 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋