Ok my Dad hit's me he just hitted me on the side of the head today.And I used to like this guy we were like best friends and I loved him then just 1 day he got angry for no reason and slap me and threw objects at me??????.Why do two guys who are suppose to love me hit me.I hate my Dad but the guy who I like who hitted me I have spoken to him but he pops up unexpectly at my house every now and then.Dose this mean I'm meant to be alone and single forever and every realtionship lll get in is doomed???!
2006-08-20 06:07:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my mom knows my dad hits me she makes excuses for him.But the guy who slapped me for no reason i love him.I know it sounds stupid but were so much alike and I can't forget about all are good mermories!
2006-08-20 06:18:50 · update #1
but i can't just leave the house i'm not even a legal adult and when the cops came my dad just acted like all cool and collected!!.
2006-08-20 06:20:34 · update #2
Whether your dad or boyfriend does it, it is abuse. Call the police, or quit your crying.....DO SOMETHING!!!!!
2006-08-23 23:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by ncbeachman28403 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want your dad to stop hitting you call the police... and press charges! If you get a bruise or cut or if there is a mark! Take a picture, and keep it and call the police. And If this other guy hit you, just leave him alone. Its a early sign of abuse. You might love him but he know that and he will use it against you to hurt you. You are not going to be alone and single forever! You just need to stand up and tell them your not going to take it and do something about it. If you under 18 you can get a divorce from your parent. I did it when I was 15. But I don't suggest you do that unless you think it is best for you and you wanna get out of the abuse house hold.
2006-08-20 08:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously need to get help from someone other than your mother - and that is a sad thing. Talk to a counselor at school or another trusted adult who will help you.
True, your dad probably came from an abusive household, but that is NO excuse and does not give him any right to abuse you. Your mother may think it is normal, or o.k., but it is not and there is no excuse. She just chooses not to take care of you or protect you.
This kid hitting you - stay as far away from him as you can. Refuse to let him into your home. Refuse to be alone with him. Maybe he lives in an abusive home, but his behavior is simply not acceptable and you do not deserve it. If he gets away with it, it will continue. You deserve better.
Above all, get help. As a minor, it will be difficult unless you have an adult to help you through it. This has nothing to do with whether you will be alone and single forever - it has everything to do with self-preservation.
2006-08-20 09:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ack. No, every relationship is not doomed. But these two are.
The problem is not you. The cause is not you. They are the root of the problem. They hit you, you didn't make them hit you. (Unless you have mind control powers, but I would think you'd be using them better. To sneak out at night, or something. Not get the lights beat out of you.)
I'm going to pass on some advice from a pop culture icon- Medea.
When he hits you, tell him you'll call the police. If he backs off, grab something and beat him stupid. If he calls the police for you, run while he's busy with the phone. RUN LIKE HELL.
2006-08-20 06:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by pixel_seamstress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father is hitting you often, you have to say it to your mom, or to someone, especially if he's hitting you for no reason. That's called abuse.
Second, if that guy hitted you once and never did it again, that doesn't mean he won't repeat it. You said it yourself, he hitted you without a real reason; he just got mad and slapped you. You should stop seeing him, and try to forget about him.
And NO, if your father and that boy are hitting you, that doesn't mean that you're meant to be alone or that every guy is like that. There are some nice and decent guys out there in the world, you just have to find them.
And really, you should say to someone that your father is hitting you... Him doing it is not right, and as I said, it's called abuse.
Good luck
2006-08-20 06:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by miraob86 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly the reason your dad prolly hits you is because he was hit as a kid himself. the reason your mom would 1)allow it and 2)be married to him in the first place is probably because her father was like that too. it's all imbeded in one's subconcious. the reason you are attracted to that guy is because he is like your father (A LOT of people, if not the majority, wind up marrying people who remind them of the parent that is the opposite sex). what you need to do in order to have a successful relationship would be really hard... basically just forget all the guys you're attracted to, those are the bad ones that remind you in some way, whether you realize it or not, of your father...basically pick someone you aren't attracted to and get to know them and see what happens.
2006-08-20 06:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by beneaththemangotree12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let any guy hit you not even one time because if you let it happen once then he will do it again and again and it will get worse and worse. as for your dad tell your mother one mare time if she still makes up an excuse then talk to a counselor at school and they will help you or, talk to the cops and tell them whats going on and that your moms is not doing anything about it then the cops will do something about it
2006-08-20 06:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by a newbi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you're purely 16, so that you at the prompt are not particularly in love with both of them. imagine of it this way, might want to you die to shop them? because in case you even evaluate protecting your existence, then you at the prompt are not particularly in love. So, what you do is make a itemizing of pros and cons about all and varied. Make a separate record about the feasibility of being with them interior the destiny, alongside with in many years time once you all flow to varsity or everywhere. in case you won't be able to imagine 1 in each and every of them on your destiny, then %. the different. effortless.
2016-11-05 05:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with it, don't do anything stupid or rash. Child Services in the country suck, and you'll end up back with your dad and he'll want to hit you even more. Stick it out until you are 18, then move far far away.
As to your boyfriend. Well. Slapping and throwing things is a bit much, but my boyfriend has and does spank me when I get out of line. It's not that odd of a thing, but slapping and throwing things is a bit much. Sit down and talk to him, tell him that when he is upset with you to spank you, but not hit you, because one hurts you emotionally.
2006-08-20 08:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Tyla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st......If you are saying your dad hits you all the time, you need to tell a teacher or call someone to help you....
2nd.....As for dating you seem really young, when you look for a guy to date date for a long time before you do anything with him.....BUT....I think you should grow up first finish school....go to college... get a job .....you have you whole life to worry about dating.
2006-08-20 06:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by sane_nut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt let yourself be treated like this. This is abuse from your dad and i would phone childline(does your mum know he hits you? if not tell her)as for your boyfriend chuck him you will find someone special in time who will love you and respect you.
2006-08-20 06:15:47 · answer #11 · answered by Joanne L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋