he belongs to someone else yet i can´t stop loving him........?

Question

he is married and i´m too. what should i do ?
he is into me as i´m into him but none of us can break our marriage ´cause of our kids.....
what am i suppose to do, just forget about him?........ is it fair?

Answer 1

Stop cheating. Work on your marriage.

Answer 2

Try being mature about it.

You love him and he loves you because you can't be together. As soon as you were, real life would take over and it would be just like any other relationship.

Why not try to build something in the relationship that you have? You have kids....and technically you could build love again if you put the effort you put into your newest love. It is sharing things together that brings what you want in a relationship.

You can love someone else and in a little while (maybe a year, maybe less)...you will move on or he will. Why not stay with something that gives you the security to be able to complain about it. There is something valuable in long term love and committment.

Discover what you first loved in your mate. Just get rid of the number one reason you find to distract yourself.

Answer 3

well, you're both married! That should have stopped you in the first place - but now you're in love with someone else - you have to ask yourself, is it worth ruining two marriages over? Also, you have to consider whether you're both going to be miserable for the next 10-15 years until the kids are gone (or how ever old they may be!) cause you don't want to wake up 15 years from now realizing you've been miserable and wasted all that time.

But you married you husband for a reason - you owe it to him and to your kids and to yourself to try and work this out.

Good Luck!

Aloha!

Answer 4

Married men never have plans on leaving a marriage. Men just like a variety of women and fooling around on the side. With that in mind, think about what would happen if you were divorced, single and on your own. Think about all the nights and weekends that you are going to be spending alone. He is just using you and does not feel that same about you although he will tell you he does and keep telling you what he thinks you want to hear. That is so you keep coming around. Married men = dead end!!!!!

Answer 5

Here is something most don't understand. If you were married to the man your having an affair with there would be an excellent chance you would have an affair with your real husband.

It is not Love that brings on an affair it is Lust and the adventure. Your not living in the real world. If you would be as much effort into getting into your husband as you are getting into the affair your marriage would be great.

Answer 6

Yes you should forget about him and he should forget about you. When you both married you said vows, did you forget that? Not only would you cause a divorce x 2 but you said there are kids involved as well. If you can't foget about him and if he can't forget about you then neither one of you is able to give yourself completly to your marriage and your spouses, how fair is THAT?

Answer 7

if you stay with the other man,you will never trust each other. and it is not fair to your partner that you are living a lie. how can you look this person in the eye everyday and live such a lie. not to mention the possibility of passing diseases.if that is the way that you treat someone that you are suppose to love,i would hate to see how you treat your enemies.your children can sense that something is not right-trust me, i knew that my mom had someone before my father ever did. if you want your children to be good honest people you have to start by being a good example.they are taking mental notes !

Answer 8

You have a problem...you're marraige is destined to fail. You are a sinner. You obviously have no respect for your husband or yourself. It is wrong for you to aknowledge these feelings for another man. These feellings are coming from your head. Before they get to your heart you must first think them up. You are bad and you should ask your husband for forgiveness and most certainly never see this other man again. What is wrong with people today? These feelings for anyone other then your husband should not be employed. You should seek couseling because I think you have an addiction problem with lustfull feelings. I hope you find peace. Atleast for your husband's sake.

Answer 9

Are confusing love with lust?

At any rate, you have moral obligations, as does he. Why would you want a man who would cheat on his wife? Why would/should he want a woman that would willingly cheat on her husband? That is what it would be, regardless of how you feel about each other.

Don't, absolutely don't, get involved. There are too many totally innocent people that WILL be hurt in this. Think of them and not just your own self.

Answer 10

I am really worried about everyone here.. You, your lover, your and his family. You have to take mature and fast decision.

Ask yourself and also ask him to ask himself these questions:
What I am doing is it good for my children ?
Would to be good for my husband ? ..my family
What will happen if your husband finds it out someday ?
How far can you carry your illegal relationship ?
And infact do you really love that man ?
..And if the answer for the last Question is "Yes"...then you have to explain this to yourself that you have to sacrifice you love.
This is the right way ..the Gods way. By loving him now you are just drawing yourself and him to the doors of hell.

Please. if not for your husband and Kids for his family and him..you have to give this sacrifice..if you really love him.
History have shown real love needs sacrifice.
And you both can always be friends and have healthy relation.


Start believing in GOD. and ask him to show ya the right way.
If your lover..really loves and respects you he will understand this.
I have to..because this is the right way..the Gods way.
Please come back ..before its too late.
Feel free to msg me for further suggestions.
God bless.

Answer 11

be real with yourself if the dick is good and you enjoy being sneaky keep it real.don't put feelings into it.if you could really have him would you want him.its the thrill of being sneaky and having your own secret. is he a good provider, is he responsible,would you guys kids get used to the transition if you came together could you be a step mamma.will you be 85 still sleeping with him and die on top of him and your husband have to come get you out of the next mans house.stop being a whore if you are unhappy save your money and leave. dont put yourself at risk getting two ***** at the same time.reinvent yourself.....