my bestfriend slept with my ex-boyfriend and now she is madly in love with him should i stop being her friend cause she is gryme and wrong or should i stay her friend and not let a boy come between us?? even though he was my first love and who i lost my virginity to i need real advice please male or female doesnt matter
2006-08-20 05:22:42 · 18 answers · asked by ki-ki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't be her friend if she really loved you as your best friend she wouldn't have done that.
2006-08-20 05:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought that choosing to be with your best friends ex as something that's just not done. In my group of friends it was always considered disloyal when i was growing up. We still look at it that way.
Times have changed and you see this all the time. My view on it has changed a little as well. I would still never do it, but the fact that he's your ex leaves you with no claim on him.
If they get along well and really care about each other then I think they should be together.
If you want to be supportive you might find they would appreciate you more for being a friend and forgiving them for the socail faux pas.
Whether you forgive and stay friends or don't forgive and end the friendship is up to you. You have to do what you feel comfortable with. If ending the friendship is better for you then end it.
Explain to them that it's uncomfortable for you to remain friends, but still wish them well for the future. Keep that small apice of friendship there, you never know, you may need their support for something in the future.
If possible never burn your bridges unless necessary.
2006-08-20 12:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key things here - she is best friend and he is your EX boyfriend. (ex, ex, ex)
He does not belong to you, nor does she. If they are happy together, be happy for them. It doesn't concern you and maybe they are a better match.
As for being the guy you lost your virginity to - that was your choice and does not/should not have anything to do with what is going on now. That is a totally separate matter and you need to get over it.
2006-08-20 12:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Gift of A Friend
There are days when
bubbling from us comes
the innocent child within,
who giggles at the little things
and wears a silly grin.
There are days when
depression comes to visit for a while.
The mind feels tired, the body weak,
we have no strength for a simple smile.
There are days when joy abundant,
grabs a hold of you and me.
Wraps us up in all it’s splendor,
lifts us up and sets us free.
There are days when sorrow wraps us,
in it’s cloak of grief and fear.
Till our hearts ache to the breaking,
until our eyes can’t shed a tear.
There are days when love bestows us,
with its wonderment and light.
The beauty of its mystery,
its power and its mite.
And there are days when life rewards us,
and seems to make amends.
By granting us a marvelous gift,
the precious gift of you. ! My friend. !
2006-08-20 12:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your ex probably broke up because you werent right for eachother.. he has moved on and so should you.. i know it would be hard to be in that situation, but you have to realize that there is someone for you, and if it didnt work out between you and him, its probably not him.. theres someone better.. but i do think you need to talk to your friend about it.. just lay it on the table and tell her why youre upset and see what she has to say about it.. if shes compassionate and what she says makes sense to you, maybe the friendship is worth saving... if she doesnt even care how it makes you feel, then she's not a real friend because friends support eachother...
2006-08-20 12:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he was you EX boyfriend when she slept with him, right? That means he was free and available and on the market. Although it hurts you right now, you will eventually get over it.
Boys may come and go - but friendships are forever.
2006-08-20 12:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by Trishy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, do not let this boy come between you and your friend, if you are really good friends. she will most likely be done with him soon enough. and even if they stay together it doesn't matter your friendship should be more important. and your friend should have stayed away from him after you two broke up, but maybe she really likes him maybe they are meant to be.
2006-08-20 12:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by purplecookies68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...you didnt say how old your were or how long ago it was. BUT i do know that i would never think to do that to my best friend. there are too many guys out there... she didnt have to pick one you were with ..or if their feelings are real..maybe she should have come to you first and asked you how you felt about it. hopefully it doesnt come between you to. wish you the best...
2006-08-20 12:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't think that your friendship with her should end unless she really hurt you that bad then i would let her go for that matter of her being wrong in doing something like that.
2006-08-20 12:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by pink girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave both of them alone, coz you know you'll never forget what she did and you'll just be more uncomfortable around her with some new guy. Leave them both alone. Good Luck
2006-08-20 12:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Wood77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Olse both of them!!! The bfriend can't be trusted. The gfiend-- lose her. If she was a friend she would not have slept with your bfriend.
2006-08-20 12:30:26 · answer #11 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋