im insecure about the way i look?

Question

I hav a clear face thats all great and all im slim and fit but i feel like im not that pretty when compared to others. There r boys who hav crushes on me but i'm not sure if tats enough to prove to myself i am. especially one boy who's crazy over me... but sometimes i look in the mirror and i feel and look so pretty but sometimes i look horrible. so i never know am i pretty or ugly... like i hav lowered self esteem cuz of this. wat should i do to be more confident about myself. thx for ppl who giv great answers and those who dont hehehe thank you!!

Answer 1

Hey JaszSweet,

You are feeling like everyone else on the planet does sometimes. You sound like you are good looking, and no worries there. You really have no choice with what you are given, use it.

Try to remember the times you had the positive immage, and when you do, try to remember how that made you feel. Always think back to those times.

It is not important that the boys like you! It is important that you like you! Be yourself, have that and confidence is at your disposal. Here is a web site about Self Esteem. There are several out there. They all seem to say, be comfortable in your own skin. I suggest you read these sources, their advice is way better than you will get from me.

Answer 2

Haven't you ever heard the saying beauty is only skin deep? Well I believe that people should accept a person for who they are on the inside not what they look like on the outside. But then again the media has put so much emphasis on looks. That young girls have actually killed themselves to achieve "perfection". Now I 'm not suggesting that you should do this because It's not worth it and from the way you sound it seems like you have too much to live for. All I'm saying is that you shouldn't put so much emphasis into looks that you let it control your life. Because it's your life and you should be the one living it.

Answer 3

What exactly do you think is wrong with you? Could you be more specific? I mean, if you were ugly, guys would not have crushes on you. So you'll need to clarify what it is you don't like about the way you look in order to get a real answer for this question.

Answer 4

how old are you?
Teens never feel secure about their looks because they compare themselves to everyone else.
Everyone dose it, even the girls who are super popular and gorgous. Most of the time they are worse off than the girls who are total outcasts, becasuse they have to give off this image of utter perfection and miserable because of it.

You have to accept the fact that you're you and you cant be anyone else. And that everyone is different. I know how cliched it sounds, but its true. I'm sure you're a gorgous girl. Everyone has thier off days where they dont look as good as they did the day before, youre hair doesnt lay right, you're makeup doesnt look the same.

Answer 5

As a girl or woman, we all go through this. We are human. Do you think supermodels always look perfect and flawless?Cindy Crawfor once said "Even I don't look like Cindy Crawford in the morning." We see ads and magazines everyday that portray unrealistic woman. Don't for get they have all been airbrushed and we don't see their flaws. No boy can prove how you beautiful you are, only you can. And you are.

Answer 6

Well if other people can accept your looks then I think it is time that you realise you are liked and cant possibly be "ugly" to have people have crushes on you!

I believe there are websites where you put a photo on the Internet and then people rate it! Maybe that would work for you?

Answer 7

You need to stop worrying about what you may look like to others or compared to others. You need to become confident in your own looks first and foremost.

I'm not sure we can help you on here. If you are the way you describe though, you sound very attractive.

Answer 8

I understand what ur going through bc I also consider someone w/ relatively low self-esteem. The important thing to realize though is that all ppl r beautiful in their own way and therefore precious. Don't listen 2 what society tells us is "in" bc its standards r constantly changing and the truth is that u can't please anyone. Just be urself and love it!!

Answer 9

i get the same feeling all the time. Listen there's no reason to be insecure be proud at what you are & remember don't judge a book by it's cover all right. looks hardly matter ur heart shud be as clean as ur face tats it
cya

Answer 10

i know this sounds totally stupid and not original but it really is what is on the inside that counts. OK, so instead of thinking, am i ugly or pretty? think, wow! i really like my eyebrows! or something like that. focus on your best features. and remember stars aren't good people to look up to if you are counting on looks because they don't get up out of bed each morning looking like they do on the cover of Vogue....