how can you tell it is a phase or it is meant to be? or rather is it like if you have to ask yourself whether you truely like girls to have sex and a relationship with them or jus admire their bodies and fantasize abt them, den you are jus in a phase? or do you have to have a relationship with one to like test the waters whether you are one?
2006-08-20 04:59:36 · 22 answers · asked by Ze 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Which sex do you fantasize about when there is no one around to judge you?
2006-08-20 05:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by bikerchickjill 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bein lesbian or not.. it doesnt matter...
it's not just physical but emotional as well..
If you are physically and emotionally attracted to the same gender.. most probably.. you're a homosexual..
Likewise... to the opposite gender.. If you're attracted both ways..
den let it be..
No one can direct your sexual orientation. It how and what you feel towards an individual. Sometimes, the world tend to put label on people.. so that each and everyone can find their so-called groups.
However, think abt tis another way. Isnt findin your true soulmate more important than labelin yourself? As long as you truly love someone, I dun see any wrong in that.
cheers,
rae
2006-08-26 12:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Rae T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you fall in love with or who you're attracted to. In general, I think people worry too much about labels...if you spend your time trying to fit yourself in a box, you won't have any left to experience everything you can. If you label yourself, others will do the same, which opens you up to stereotyping and everything that comes along with it. When you find the right person - be that a man or a woman - you will have the option to make your life as you choose. Until then, it's best to keep an open mind and heart and love will guide your course.
2006-08-20 12:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by tsdeck5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether or not it is just sex, or if you can fall in love with a woman. If you just like women sexually, then you are straight (most straight women fantasize about being with other women). If you can fall in love with another woman and hold a meaningful relationship, then you are probably bisexual (or maybe gay--I personally hold to the Kinsey scale on that one).
2006-08-20 12:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lesbian, but my undestanding of lesbianism is that it's not just about how you feel sexually, but who are you most comfortable being intimate with. I'm not speaking of only sexual intimacy, but emotional intimacy. It's normal to be curious, but I'd be careful and give it a lot more thought before I'd act on my curiosity. Knowing your age on this one would have helped.
Peace.
2006-08-20 12:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with a girl and a guy, then choose, if you start liking girls theres a chance your a lesbian
2006-08-28 04:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by madness1599 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a woman who knows she is'nt, that if you fancy another woman, other than simple admiration, then you definately are a lesbian. One way to find out.
2006-08-26 11:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Calamity Jane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably already know inside how you feel. if not, look into your feelings without trying to push yourself in any direction. imagine you wake up in your own place, your lover is cooking you breakfast, you walk into the kitchen and give your lover a hug... so which feels right? a girl? a guy? either one?
2006-08-28 11:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by krys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget all labels. We are all so hung up on labels: gay, straight, bi, lesbian... Just love the PERSON you are with. If it's the opposite sex, cool. If it's the same sex, groovy.
2006-08-24 21:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by sumadremari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of all people go through temptations of homosexual tendencies, and only 10%-20% carry out the tempptation. I ALWAYS hated being in the minority!!
2006-08-27 15:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by thewordofgodisjesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋