My black men with white women...?

Question

I don't see anything wrong with it personally. At fourteen, my English teacher has a black hubby and one of my best girlfriends have a white boyfriend.

But I cannot lie to you and tell you I would not be jealous when I see a successful black man marry a white woman. I suppose the question that I am asking is why?

Maybe I should ask myself the same thing. Why do I get angry? I would probably date a white woman myself if I was a black man. But why? I feel as if Ive been brainwashed to believe white is beautiful.

Why is it that the black women considered beautiful on TV are said to be mixed with some other race? "Where did you get that long hair? Black women dont have a long hair?" I use to claim I was mixed with latino, because then there was a reason why I was so pretty. Just black is not good enough.

I feel as if when I see the couple, I feel that the black man has forgotten his roots. Or else is too cocky for his own good. But maybe not. Just dont forget about us.

Answer 1

Live and learn< just be.... Never let it get you down .i thought i loved blacks , and for a while thats all that was a speaking to me was black women then just like it started it stopped so it was back to white . im white and right now im getting old and i have neither .So whoever you get love them show them you love them.Be you, i dont think folks should put on a big show an pretending to have things they really dont own ,acting like they are rich and are wearing underware with holes in them .they are both beautiful and sexy. .just dopnt ffind out you have what men want and over express your self sexually . it will be there in time . and im just shareing this with you .please keep yourself clean and neat and always smell like a rose not to much .But nice for your freinds .

Answer 2

The attitude of this matter is just this, when it comes to black men and white women, its either political, racial, or love. I will tell you this much, its more racial than anything. For this to happen, its all about having "trophies". The truth of the matter is, these black men do this outta spite to piss of the white men, and the white women do it for the same reason. It all has to do with the white women, being passive toward this, thinking that the white race "owes" something to the black race for all the inequities, that have happened to the race in the past. We as a white race are paying for all this even though we had nothing to do with all that stuff. Im 46 years old and i deal with this on a daily basis, i see what the deal is, believe me. Personally, I could care less, it doesnt affect my life one way or the other, i dont have to go home to it, However you know it and i know this, all it does is cause problems with the families, (black and white), there are just as many black racist as there are white, thats a fact! If you believe anything else then you need to take another look at the situation, see how a the white women are treated around the black families when they have, well, example, family gatherings, that kinda thing, it aint pretty, but these white women just stand there and take the abuse from the families. For what reason, ill never know. Call me what you like, but if you take a close look, you'll see that at least some of what Ive said is true.

Answer 3

I know a lot of black women feel this way about their men marrying/dating out of their race. I guess we should be happy that boundaries are coming down, and people of different races know that there is nothing wrong with loving someone regardless of color or ethnicity. But, then I know there is still a lot of hatred and ignorance on this topic. What happened to you is you've been brainwashed by the media into believing that you are not beautiful, because you aren't white, and this simply isn't true! Even white women are put down in the media everyday if they aren't thin enough, stupid enough, rich enough, or slutty enough to meet beauty by today's standards. Just keep your eyes open for a man that you can love--regardless of his race or color.

Answer 4

Some black men marry a white woman because it is an accomplishment, I don't limit myself to black men. I am in my 20's and the black men of generation are in Jail. do not want to marry, have a career, use and abuse women. I have less than a 30% chance of find a "black man" to marry that meets my standards. No, my standards are not to high, But I refuse to settle for less than I severe I am a leader not a follower.

Answer 5

Well, from what i hear from my african-american friends, the black man has been waiting since the end of slavery for this opportunity: going out and having a sexual relationship with a white woman right in front of a white man, because now, they cannot do anything to us. but in another part, i think love is love. i'll take an example. i'm a 19 year old african girl born in paris. i came here at the age of 14. i met my first and only boyfriend so far. he's WHITE. we've been together for five years. i don't consider myself beautiful per say, but my education, my behavior, my attitude are beautiful. (i come from a wealthy family). but i give him the hardest time to see if he's ever going to call me the N word, or just get physical with me. he never has. i haven't really love him. i guess for me, it's sort of a fun time for now. he's 28 turning 29 next month, and he wants to get married already. seeing that 89% of interracial marriages fail within the first year, i'm really hesitating, plus i'm not ready to marry (a white man).
do not fee; jealous when you see interracial couples. White men want to date Black women, but they're afraid of the society turning their back on them because of that. for the 5 years i've dated my bf, i know this because i've talked to lots of white people who tell me how i've been able to keep a white guy for 5 years?! i don't really know myself.
just be yourself. if you like a white man, then go with him and be happy. and if you like a black man, be with him and be very happy.
anyone who comes up to you and make remarks, wants what you do not have and is ignorant.

Answer 6

There is beauty in everyone. Please don't for get that. Sounds like you are falling in to one of our society's traps--letting the media tell you what is beauty and desirable.Yes some black women have long hair. Don't fall for the stereotypes.

As far as interracial couples, people object for a lot of reasons. You mentioned some of them in your question. Hopefully the decision to have a relationship with someone is based on what they are like inside and not what they look like outside. Some people are open to relationships (not only romantic) outside their ethnic background, some are not.

Remember that you are beautiful and do what is right for you.

Answer 7

Black woman here. Black has always been beautiful, let no one tell you different. We as a people need to stop feeding into these stereo types of us and learn that we come in all shapes and sizes. We have the beauty of the rainbow in our genes, people spend billions trying to get our God made beauty. I have long hair and I'm all black. God gave us the freedom to chose who we want to be with, its not a black or white thing, its a life thing.

Answer 8

i am a white woman with a black man for the past 11 years. I asked him once why black men prefered white women his comment was that black women have attitudes do the neck thing or really loud and irratating and all they want is material things.dont get mad at me im just a messenger.

Answer 9

Open your mind up and start dating men from other races. It may be hard initially, but once you see that there are good and bad in every race, you will give up your anger and start seeing people as just people.

(plus the adventure could give you some really exciting experiences :-)

Answer 10

Just wanted to point out that the question itself is pointed. "My" black men? What makes them yours?

The more you hold onto race (roots as you call it), the more it holds onto you. The more racism will affect you. I have friends based on their merits, not their race, so why not choose lovers the same way? The fact that many more couples aren't mixed shows a level a racism that still abounds.

I personally don't ever imagine marrying or dating a black girl, but not because of her race at large. Rather cause one of the merits of dating is physical attraction and generally (not always) I'm not attracted to darker skin and black features.