Wat age should 20 yo go for?

Question

I jus turned 20, im gay, i like all guys around my age. I admite im well immature.
But I do see lads approaching the 16 mark attractive- should I still be doin this?

I know this guy older than me who goes for girls year 9/10's in their school uniform and I no way think that's right.

Who should curb these thoughts, me, the str8 guy or both?

And by the way im from England where u can have sex at 16 or with a 16 yo legally if u choose to

Answer 1

As long as it's legal, there isn't anything wrong with dating men younger than yourself. If you are attracted to a minor, I suggest not engaging in sex until they're of age... but if the minor consents, a relationship wouldn't be objectionable. Just no sex until it is no longer considered statutory.

The older guy though... that's a different story. Young girls that are pre-pubescent should not be dating at all yet. And if they do, those girls probably have something PG-13 rated at most on their minds, whereas the older male probably is thinking thoughts that are definitely impure.

Your thoughts I find acceptable... but his, not so much.

It's almost pedophilia to be over 20 and attracted to 10 year olds.

Hope this helps a bit.

Answer 2

Difficult questions.
First, if the straight guy is just fantasizing about the little girls in their school uniforms, he is not alone. If he is lusting after them, it is not right. There are lots of clubs for people like that on the internet and in the cities; adult girls who are petite and vulnerable-looking, dressed in school uniforms etc. Leave the children alone!
In your case, I don't think of a 16 year old as a child, it is an age of great sexual energy and experimentation. I feel from your words that you would never force yourself on anyone, or seduce an innocent. If you find that you are drawn to a 16 year old boy, simply befriend him and wait. If he is into you, he will probably make the first move on you ... means he already knows he's gay or wants to find out!
A 16 year old virgin - well that's not very common is it? People who say it is are just naive.
In some cultures, 16 year olds are already parents (which I think is a bit too young; sex is fine but it should be for fun.) In other cultures, boys that age would be getting private lessons from a tutor, to make them good lovers. Some girls are married off at the age of 12.
And it has nothing to do with this day and age either - look at Romeo and Juliet.
The problem is there are 16 year olds who still have 12 year old minds, and 16 year olds who have the minds of a 20 year old. You need to focus on the mature ones. You also have to take the responsibility of safe precautions against S.T.Ds. etc.
As you're only 20 yourself, it is a reasonable age difference and nothing kinky about it.
So you are not the one who should be curbing "these thoughts".
And, by the way, and excuse me for being personal, but what were you doing when you were 16? What sexual experiences? What fantasies?
No, I don't need answers to these questions, but if you think back, you might find the right answer by yourself.

Answer 3

Someone once told me a long time ago that if you take your age divide it by 2 and add 10, thats the age group you should look for. So like for you, take 20 divide it by 2 (equals 10) and add 10 (equals 20). As you get older it gets more interesting. Remember a woman for family and a boy for pleasure. (old Greek saying).

Answer 4

I think the straight guy is a little sick and needs some help...he is one of the reasons why I do not want to have children...PREDATOR.

Because 16 is not that much younger than you I don't think it makes you a bad person. I do however believe that when you are 16 you are not necessarily sure of your sexuality so I would not encourage you to act on your urges...in the end it is all up to you though,,,

Answer 5

if the lads are under the age of consent, no, dont sleep with them.

the guy who goes for kids in uniform should be avoided, especially if you are immature, as he will exploit you. he is a paedophile.

you should both curb your thoughts and the paedophile needs to curb his behaviour, and preferably seek psychiatric treatment.

yak.

Answer 6

Go for anyone who's legal and consenting. Eventually, although they can be extremely attractive, you'll find 16 yearolds to be just too young and fresh-faced in outlook. However, while you're still immature (by your own admission) enough to relate to them - I say have fun.

Answer 7

My partner is younger than me, so if you like younger then it is good...but remember that they should be able to say NO to you. Sex must be enjoyable to both, not forced. How old is difficult to say but I think by 16, most boys and girls know what they want or will allow.

Answer 8

16 will get you 20 years.

Go for an older guy 55+ he'll pay you college costs and living expenses just for a little nookie.

Answer 9

Okay, you are 20 years old but you wish to have relations with 15 year olds. ermm, i think that you should either wait until these guys reach the legal age and/or sleep with guys your own age. do be careful though.

Answer 10

I personally try to go fot girls older than 18, but that is because i genrally like more mature ladies. Also i like the idea of being to take girls to clubs and stuch!