In my first year in highschool I had a teacher who I hated very much at first because he always made fun of me and made me feel bad!But with the passing of time I got to like him more and more and I think I fel in love with him .. He is 46 years old and he is divorced I think .. and I am 16 :-|. Our paths crossed not just once and I can say that we had some nice moments togheter (I don't mean romantic or other stuff .. just laughs). And another strange thing: when he made me feel bad he called me on my cell-phone and made me feel better (a teacher calling me .. ) and we even talk through sms. Even during classes he lookes at me in a different way and even touches my face .. my hair (like beeing friends :P) this is very complicated .. and I am afraid of getting in bed with this guy (not that I don't want to do it .. cause I DO) I can't get him out of my head .. HELP!!
2006-08-20 03:57:35 · 17 answers · asked by SOMEONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOU ARE GETTING OFF ON THIS GUY'S ATTENTION .......
PROBABLY BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T GET ENOUGH ATTENTION FROM YOUR FATHER AND YOU CRAVE THE ADULT MALE ATTENTION.
YOU ARE 16, SO YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT LOVE IS YET. YOU KNOW WHAT INFATUATION IS, BECUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU FEEL.
HIS ATTENTION VALIDATES YOU AND GIVES YOU A FEELING OF POWER. WHAT YOU THINK IS "LOVE" IS JUST YOUR EGO GROWING.
HE HAS NO BUSINESS CALLING YOU ON YOUR CELL. HOW DID HE GET YOUR NUMBER ANYWAY? YOU PROBABLY HAVE GIVEN HIM THE MESSAGE THAT YOU ARE YOUNG AND GULLIBLE, AND WILLING TO DO ANYTHING TO GAIN HIS APPROVAL.
HE IS SICK. HE SHARES THE SAME PATHOLOGY AS A PEDOPHILE. YOU ARE "TOO OLD" FOR HIM TO BE CALLED ONE, BUT THEY SHARE THE SAME PATHOLOGY, NONETHELESS......
YOUR ATTENTION VALIDATES HIM, AND WHAT 46 YEAR OLD DIVORCED GUY WOULDN'T BE FLATTERED? DUH. BUT NOT ALL 46 YEAR OLD DIVORCED GUYS WOULD ACTUALLY CONSIDER GOING THERE.....HAVING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A 16 YEAR OLD.
AND YES, YOU HAVE AN INNAPROPRIATE RELATIONSHIP. YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS MAINTAINING A SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH A 46 UEAR OLD MAN. YOU PROBABLY COULDN'T TELL YOUR MOM ABOUT THIS.....SO DEEP DOWN YOU KNOW IT'S WRONG. DUH.
DO YOU WANT TO GET THIS GUY ARRESTED? RUIN HIS CAREER AND HIS LIFE? IF YOU CARE ABOUT HIM, THEN BACK OFF AND DON'T RETURN HIS CALLS. I KNOW THAT IT FEELS GOOD, BUT YOU SHOULD NOT BE AFRAID TO SAY NO TO ANY FURTHER ADVANCES.
MAYBE IT'S TOO SCARY.....FACING POSSIBLE REJECTION FROM GUYS YOUR OWN AGE. THAT'S OK, WE ALL FEEL THAT WAY. BUT THIS GUY HAS BEEN ALIVE NEARLY 3 TIMES AS LONG AS YOU HAVE BEEN ALIVE. HE KNOWS BETTER.
WHAT DO YOU THINK HE WOULD FEEL IF HE HAD A 16 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THAT WAS HAVING AN INNAPROPRIATE RELATIONSHIP WITH A 46 YEAR OLD DIVORCED GUY? WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE IN YOUR MOTHER'S SHOES?
HE IS SO MUCH OLDER AND PROBABLY HAS SOME ISSUES WITH NEEDING TO DOMINATE SOMEONE. HE MUST HAVE, BECAUSE HE IS OLDER AND SMARTER THAN YOU, AND HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT TO SAY AND DO THAT YOU WANT TO HEAR, AND HE KNOWS WHAT TO SAY TO MAKE YOU THINK YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH HIM AND THAT HE IS WITH YOU. HE IS SMART. LOOK AT WHAT HE HAS DONE SO FAR.....
HE "MADE FUN OF YOU" AT FIRST. HE WAS PROBABLY TESTING THE WATERS TO SEE IF YOU WERE ONE OF THOSE GIRLS THAT WILL DO ANYTHING TO GAIN THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS. HE THEN PROBABOY PLAYED "HARD TO GET" TO SEE IF YOU WERE THE TYPE TO RISE TO THE CHALLENGE OF TRYING TO MAKE HIM LIKE YOU. HE "CALLED YOU ON YOUR CELL TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER" WHICH MEANS THAT HE WAS ATTEMPTING TO SEE HOW FAR YOU WOULD GO TO SEEK HIS APPROVAL....TESTING WHETHER YOU WOULD ACCEPT THIS ADVANCE OR NOT.
THIS GUY IS SMART. YOU HAVE NOT BEEN ALIVE LONG ENOUGH TO SPOT THE GUYS LIKE THIS. HE IS ATTRACTED TO YOUR NAIIVITY AND YOUR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE WITH GUYS. YOU WOULD BE EASY FOR THIS GUY TO MANIPULATE AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF. YOU WOULD BE EASY TO DOMINATE.......PERFECT FOR A GUY WHO CAN'T CUT IT WITH OTHER 46 YEAR OLDS.....AND PERFECT WITH SOMEONE WHO IS INTIMIDATED BY 16 YEAR OLD GUYS.....
2006-08-20 04:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IThis happened at my high school before. However it didn't end well. Trust me I have seen it first hand it won't end well. I know it may feel like something, but you will think different later. You should talk to ur mom about this or go to another teacher at school whom you trust. Trust me you don't want to be with a 46 year old man. You, have so much yet to do! Don't let this teacher...make you miss it! Feelings will pass...and you will have stronger ones for someone else....later in life and it will mean more to you then ever....I have been there...He is ur teacher he is breaking the law too. You need to tell someone...Please you be the adult here...and tell someone about this....
2006-08-20 04:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol! its the same what other peoples answered u. dont go in a wrong way. thats the answer u got here from most. so plz dont do that. He is not the right man for u. U arent matured enough to think abt this and the world. Be away from that. Just look him as a teacher alone. No more commitments other than that.
No more comments. good luck and take care of urself.
2006-08-20 04:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by surya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it sick for you two to be communicating like you are, it is also ILLEGAL! And you aren't even sure if he's divorced?? I have a family member who is going through a messy divorce right now because the person they married started a relationship with a student. That teacher is now facing CRIMINAL charges. And don't think just because you haven't been physical, neither of you can get in trouble...you can. As far as touching your face in class...someone else can file sexual harassment on him just by seeing him do that to you. Think long and hard about what you and this teacher are doing and will do to yourselves, his career, possibly his marriage, and everyone who cares about you if you continue.
2006-08-20 05:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by KMSMT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite normal, dear. A girl friend of mine, 20, is in love with the teacher of 42. But the relationship will not enjoy fo ever. Is only good experience I think, usefull for yur future life. By.
Fausto, from Rome, Italy
2006-08-20 04:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you love him then you'd stay away from him. He'd lose his job, possibly jail and be on the sex registry for the rest of his life. You're only 16, you're not in love, but infatuated. It's not like this man will be able to take you out and show you off. You'll be good for one thing and one thing only!! Believe me I know from experience. A relationship like that will only tear you down!!!
On the other hand, go ahead and do it!! That way he will go to jail and won't be a threat to society anymore!!
2006-08-20 04:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by harley grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun I wouldn't do it at all. I mean that's ridiculous. He's 46 and your 16. Get out of this situation and quick. It's just a trap. That's what it sounds like to me. Just ignore him don't show any affection at all and find someone else that's your age!!!!!
2006-08-20 04:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jeter Girl Enough Said 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run don't walk in the other direction.
He is way too old for you. He is probably married. He is your teacher so this would most likely be illegal.
You are too young to have sex with a 46 year old man.
2006-08-20 04:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok , so you want him to go to prison for the next 4 to 5 years ???
Get it out of your head and jump someone your own age if you must !!!
2006-08-20 04:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what this guy could be your father
your crazy i mean i would understand if the guy is 24-35
but 46 hes old girl your just confuse, your to young and plus this guy is just trying to get you into bed dont do it . your to young.
2006-08-20 04:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by SMILEY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋