This is my first marriage and this is his third marriage. I have "turned into" the same description that he gave me about his second wife when me met. We are heading toward divorce now.
2006-08-20 03:48:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey if he is describing you and saying that was the first two wives then he is the problem. Some men and I say some have real problems with a woman. Respect is one of the biggest issues for them who have been married more than two times. Now it takes two to make a marriage and to break it but sometimes one person in the marriage can make it hard to make it work as they have more issues than you can work on. If they talk about all the ex's the same that is a sign something is wrong with them and not the ex. No two people are the same, just like no two marriages are the same. I would suspect it has nothing to do with you but with him. Some men and women are not good material for marriage because they refuse to fix themselves and want to blame someone else all the time. Allow yourself time to heal before getting into another relationship.
2006-08-20 04:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Gosh, I'm really sorry that you have to go through this. There are different opinions on whether subseqent remarriages are liable to end up in divorce. Don't know what the statistics are - but a good marriage is a good marriage, whether it's the first or the fourth. And a good marriage depends on the people in it. My second marriage was the best - we would be together still if he hadn't died. But your husband sounds like many - blame the woman - what a crock.
2006-08-20 03:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by theophilus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't get it right the first time, or never do, but some people have happier second and even third marriages. The following are couples who had, or have, happier subsequent marriages:
Prince Charles
Kirk Douglas
Michael Douglas
Ronald Reagan
Peter Ustinov, who said of his incredibly happy third marriage, 'If Helene had been my first wife I would have had only one'.
There are thousands of examples.
I am hoping that if you choose to marry again, you will simply pick a wonderful man.
2006-08-20 06:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with most of the responses above mine!! My boyfriend & I will be married one day soon. This will be a 3rd. for each of us. He was cheated on by wife 1 & 2, he left wife #1, wife #2 left him for another man. I was too young whan I married #1, I was 18 & he was 43, it ended in divorce because we were at 2 different stages in life & #2 comitted suicide, he was an alcohlic & bipolar. I feel that by the time most people have been married 3 times, they know what it takes to make a marriage work. One should know what he/she is willing to do to make it work. My boyfriend & I get along well, we are willing to discuss and work out any issue we may have. I am confident we will NOT end up in divorce!!
2006-08-20 05:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Statistically, yes:
* 41 percent of first marriages end in divorce.
* 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.
* 73 percent of third marriages end in divorce.
In my opinion, a person who marries three or more times has some issues that are contributing to the destruction of the marriage. In your situation, I don't think you should place the blame on yourself and say you "turned into" his 2nd wife. The problem seems to be with him. He is the common link in all of the failed marriages.
2006-08-20 03:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you do something once, it gets even easier to do it a second time, and even easier to do it a third. I think, if you really value your marriage, try to talk out your problems. Maybe you could start with, "I'm sorry for....". And explain to him that you don' want to lose him. What things make you like his ex wives? Maybe somehow, you could both try harder to compromise. Talk more. I just think its wrong to end a marriage, because of personalities issues. And if he doesn't want to work on the marriage, its probably just because he's intolerant of compromise. THere's a reason he's been divorced twice.
2006-08-20 03:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by gravytrain036 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds of getting divorced are greater if it is your third marriage or more. I believe that 90% of third marriages will wind up in divorce. The odds are against you but he might have some unresolved issues that could be worked out if the both of you are willing to go to counseling.
2006-08-20 04:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it does. Personally I don't believe in marriage I think it changes peoples relationships. Remember how great it was before you got married why did it change. I think its because your not his girl friend anymore know your his wife big difference. Example most men can handle there friends comeing up to them and saying hay I saw your girl friend out last night and she was having a really good time. But if they say I saw you wife then that becomes personal your his wife you have the same last name. It a phyc. thing.
2006-08-20 04:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3rd divorce for him? Seems he has a trend and when he gets bored he seeks the easy way out. Perhaps it was a marriage never ment to happen in the first place.
2006-08-20 04:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by legguy2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..the marriage rate increases
2006-08-24 02:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by michael m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋