Would you stay in a bad marriage or leave and find true love
2006-08-20 03:34:44 · 23 answers · asked by trxr4kdz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not in a bad marriage. it was just a question.....I'm not even married
2006-08-20 03:48:49 · update #1
I would leave but, I would also wait untill the divorce was completely final. Lifes too short to suffer in the name of marriage. But, then again I think marriage is a pointless contract . Hardly anyone really knows and practices its true definition as it was intended.
2006-08-20 03:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by jack_black_91 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe true love is only imagined. In a marriage you grow as a person with your spouse through the good and bad. If you perceive that you have a true love outside of your marriage, you are thinking too much about it and need to focus on things that will help you grow as a person. Get involved in new activities that you enjoy.
Before I was married my gf left me for what she said was her true love. About 18 months later she left him and wanted me back because she realized that I was her true love, so she said. My suggestion is you stay the course, unless your problem is an abusive husband. Then you should run run run.
2006-08-20 03:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Nefarious Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely. I have had the bad marriage and went through a divorce and now I have true love. The way is not always easy, but it easier to go through life with someone you love instead of wondering what is going to happen today.
Also where children are concerned I was the child when my mom went through a bad marriage and then when she divorced and married for love Man What A Difference. My mom was happy and loved and that made the world great. It is really hard on kids to see parents fight and then to have a calm home it is like heaven. Kids also feel the pressure of a bad marriage.
2006-08-20 03:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by bonita_cooper2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave a bad marriage for the sake of it being a bad marriage, not for a search for true love.
2006-08-20 03:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by spdbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances of finding "TRUE LOVE" are slim to nil. The fact is that every relationship has issues to deal with. You chose to marry the man your with now. Marriages don't just go bad without any reason. Find the reason and fix it. Life is real not Hollywood fantasy. Deal with what you've got.
2006-08-20 03:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by RedC. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never stay in a bad marriage if i had decided it was indeed bad. I would rather be alone than with someone would did not envoke a passion inside me. Really, when you think about it, if youre not in love with them youre just trading sex for security and not being companionship. If its a bad marriage youre probably not getting anything out of it. Why would you put yourself throught that. A table for one can be fun. Cheers
2006-08-20 03:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by ipoddironeus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is a very hard thing to find.....one that lasts that is....
very possible you could be going from the frying pan into the fire...
the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence until you get there and find out it looks as if the side you were on was alot greener.....
Oh what the hell....go for the true love.
2006-08-20 04:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by moonlite1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True Love is forever a bad marriage means DIVORCE.
2006-08-20 03:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by michigan_redneck_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define bad marriage. Is it past the honeymoon mark and now it's the everydayness that's getting to you?
Bad marriage is someone who beats me, calls me names, and tries to make me feel worthless. But no one can make you feel worthless without your consent. So if someone is beating on me, it only takes one time for me to kick him to the curb, baby or no baby involved, marriage vow revoked.
You get married because you believe and professed to the public if not the world that you loved this person you married and choose to be true to this person only for the rest of your lives until one of you dies. I would suggest revisiting those vows and examining what you feel is missing from your life. If you're feeling humdrum, I suggest getting a hobby that won't hurt anybody.
2006-08-20 03:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're in bad marriage and want someone to tell you to leave.
*--if you have children you owe it to them to do EVERYTHING in your power to save your marriage...counseling, weekend retreats, etc. when you had children you gave up your right to put yourself first.
*--if you don't have any children you need to ask yourself why you want to leave..REALLY ask yourself. abviously you had feelings for your husband when you married him...those fluttery feelings do pass after time, no matter who you're with...even your "true love"....a marriage is not only based on love but friendship and respect. the grass is NOT greener on the other side. it's the thrill of something new that seems so appealing.
good luck
2006-08-20 03:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋