I have two friends "M" and "K". I love both of them very much. I am very close to M and K has shown when we were kids that she was untrustworthy. I forgave her because she told me she has changed and she didn't know any better when we were kids . K now goes out with M's brother and she always profess her love to him in front of everbody which makes M very happy. I was so proud of K because I thought she left her coniving ways in the past.. One day she got drunk and confessed to me that she cheated on M's brother several times and she is also trying to hook up with M's cousin! I was so shocked and now I have kept my distance from K. What would you do? Everytime M comes around me, I feel so bad that I know what K is doing to her brother and M is now questioning me on why don't I hang out with K anymore. Sometimes when you tell the truth, people can turn it around to make you into the bad person but I am not a good liar.
2006-08-20 03:27:49 · 24 answers · asked by sam 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
for your info blond doctor, if you read the question correctlly, I am keeping my distance and away from thier business. I just don't know how to respond to M asking me why I don't hang out with K! Get your facts straight next time before answering!
2006-08-20 03:37:40 · update #1
I forgot to add this, the cousin is married to another close friend of mine. By hiding it I feel just as sneeky as K.
2006-08-20 05:21:38 · update #2
If I were you, I'd definitely tell the sister, then it's up to her to break it to her bro or no, it stops being your problem. If M let's K turn this back on you, then you are better off without both of them. I don't know if I'd want to be friends with anybody who would let their brother take the fall rather than ditching an untrustworthy friend.
I once told a slight friend when my best friend was messing around with his wife. In the end I lost all three of them as friends, but to this day it's still one of my proudest moments becuase I know in my heart that I did the right thing even if it turned out poorly for me. Best of luck sweetheart.
2006-08-20 03:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously,if I were you,
I am sure M would know how you felt about K since you gals are so close. I'd tell M I have discovered that K is still her oldself and I don't feel comfortable being around her. Leave it as that and let them go find out themselves. Later in life,you will find out that not everything should go in the right way to acheive the maximum result. Read about Sun Tzu Art of War? :)
On the other hand, I feel that K is opening up to you. Some says people speaks the truth after intoxicated. If I were you,I'd feel relieve that I know K's secret.I'd probe her when she's still sober and try to make sense with her. Only if she persist,then I'll keep away from her. Sometimes,people make mistakes in life not only once.
2006-08-20 03:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Geo C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If "M" is truly your friend then she should believe what you tell her unless she is closer to "K"; however, you must also look at your relationship w/ "K". Have you been a more faithful friend to her? Did she trust you in telling you and use bein drunk as an excuse to get it off her chest? Maybe you should talk to "K" about it and see what she says. Tell her to grow up and tell her man that she isnt interested. Maybe while she's doing that then you should tell "M" to make sure that,that relationship isnt ruined if "K" tells everyone that you new. And as for the cousin. He has lost his mind if he dates her and thinks that somehow he's different and cant be cheated on. People change but not over nite and he will go thro hardship if thats who she's serious about and he wants to deal w/ it.
Kandi
2006-08-20 03:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kandi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Homestly, even as your boyfriend dealt with it, no remember in case you're taking a seat next to him, you need to have left it at that. through you going behind him and affirming sorry, you allowed this newborn some pity and now he feels that you want some type of friendship with him. decrease it now. tell him the apology became purely purely that and in no way something extra, you at the on the spot are not searching for a courting yet did not desire issues to develop into difficult for him in college. tell him you at the on the spot are not searching for a chum as you've a boyfriend and it may be disrespectful to him. leave it at that and ignore about it from there. he receives the image.
2016-11-30 21:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm u are in a difficult situation there... i think u need to tell M the truth about K...its better this way... tell her that in a very gentle way... and tell her how u got to know the truth about K, it is better if M knows the truth so that she can talk to her brother before anything serious happens, i mean her brother could really be hurt by K if he falls in love with her...so its better if he learns it from his sister rather from someone else... be honest with M, she will end up thanking u even if she might jave trouble believing u at first... this is something u must do for your friend....
anyways good luck
2006-08-20 03:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by vedz666 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If ur friends, lay it to her like a friend would?
Sounds like shes about to screw a life time of work all up. Ya Know? The thing is, if u some how dont do ur duty w/ this friend you B will part of the whole thing that is to come. In a bad way? Think about it!?
2006-08-20 03:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by J.M. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is such a tough position for you to be in.
I think if you are good friends with "M" and her brother is the one being cheated on you should tell "M".
Get her alone and tell her you don't know how to say it but this is what's going on and I felt you should know.Or if you are friends with the one being cheated on go to him and tell him and leave his sister out of it.
This is such a dilemma but I feel he has a right to know and you are the one the cheater put in the middle not you.I hope they all remember that when the dust settles.
2006-08-20 03:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by cmeand3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay out of it. either way, someone is gonna be mad at you. if the drama gets heated and you are confronted on the topic, tell the truth. otherwise, stay out of it!! you telling what you know may seem like a good idea at the time but it may come back and bite you in the a#*. the truth doesn't set everyone free!!
2006-08-20 03:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to keep this to yourself, even though you have loyalty to your friend. It's hard not to think you're doing the right thing when you tell on someone that you think would hurt someone you like, but you're right, you'll end up looking like the bad guy, until it's proven she cheated. Give her enough rope, and she'll do herself in.
2006-08-20 03:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my experience honesty is the best. If anyone gets mad at you for telling the truth, then so be it. If I were M then i'd want you to be honest, tell her what you know and let her decide on what to do with the info. Good luck.
2006-08-20 03:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by NeuroRN 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋