please not rude comments, I can't get over my ex. I know I should meet new people and forget about him, BUt my job keeps me too busy from meeting new people and I am so heartbroken, do you have any suggestions? Mature people only please, I am not a kid, I am a woman and have a child with this man.
2006-08-20 03:18:49 · 25 answers · asked by venus11224 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
citizen, sarcasm won't help. Please no sarcasm, I did say mature people only. I have a 17year relationship with him, during that time, he left for someone else, married her stayed with her 9 years and then came back to me, I fell for him all over again, and then he left me for another woman, he wanted to go back to his ex-wife but she won't take him back so he went back to his other girlfriend instead. It's just so hard to get over him
2006-08-20 03:32:42 · update #1
there is no possibility for us to get back together,he's in love with his ex
2006-08-20 03:36:31 · update #2
thanks everybody, I really appreciate that you're trying to help. And no, I can't go out with my child, you know how teenagers are, they don't want to be anywhere near their parents outside the house
2006-08-20 03:52:20 · update #3
Time is the only friend you will have. I will be the first to tell you it will not be easy. I went through that about 22 years ago. It just takes time. About the time you think you have beat it a song will come on the radio and...Well....You start over. It just takes time.
2006-08-20 14:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
True Luv always prevails. Is there any chance you two may get back together. Time heals all wounds and you cant just shut off your feelings for someone. If you truly luv this man then there is nothing you can do about it but time. Think about it this way. You have a child so you will see him. That isnt going to make those feelings disapear any faster. If you met someone else and went out, all you'd probably be doing is thinking of your ex. Is that fair to the new person? No because they dont even have a fighting chance to begin w/. When people tell you to move on, they arent thinking that whoever you date while your still in luv is bein cheated of happiness as well because what can you offer them when someone else has your heart. I'm going thro the same thing.
Kandi
2006-08-20 10:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kandi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest to focus on yourself right now instead of meeting new people. Try to figure out what would make you happy and your child happy and make that your focus. When the time is right to meet new people you will feel ready. There is no exact answer for this question pertaining to you because obviously no two people are the same. I went through a similar situation and doing this was my saving grace. Eventually you realize that time has helped heal you and you just go day by day making positive choices and know that what is meant to be will be. Good luck.
2006-08-20 10:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Btieti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been? maybe you haven't given yourself enough time to get over him. If you have a child with someone you have a deeper connection than if you just dated for a while. Take your time. You can't rush yourself or your feelings. When you are ready to meet new people you will. Since you are at work a lot do you have a trusted friend there that you can talk with on lunch breaks or what not? If not try just getting to know some people from work. When you are ready to move on you will.
2006-08-20 10:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say not to go and meet someone right away. It wouldn't be fair to start another relationship when you feel this strongly about your ex. Instead, try putting your focus into your child and your work. Try hanging out with friends at work if you really need to hang out with someone. Let yourself focus on something other than your ended relationship and hopefully the pain will ease up with time.
If it's too much, too hard, try seeing a professional to help get you through it. You deserve to not have your happiness depend on someone else.
Good luck. I wish I could help more.
2006-08-20 10:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. Try going out with your son \ daughter to new places together,I'm sure your child would like the ideal of spending more time with you.Sometimes if you make yourself available love will find you,you don't always have to go looking for it.So why not kill two birds with one stone? Make time for your first love- your child.That will put you in a better position to meet others,cause you won't be to busy.Getting out will help you get over your past,and into your future. Good luck.
2006-08-20 10:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard to say without knowing the circumstances of the break up. Did you hurt him? Did he hurt you? What I would probably do is think of everything annoying, or irritating that he has ever said or done, or if he has hurt you in any way and focus on that and try to convince yourself you are better off without him. I know this is probably not the most healthy way to move on but it is probably what I would do. Also time tends to heal all wounds. Concentrate on you and your child and maybe join one adult activity that would get you out of the house once a week. Hope this helps.
2006-08-20 10:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Venus, you need to get yourself balanced. You are putting your priorities all over the map. You are working yourself to death with no clear plan. You are erasing all the bad memories and mooning over something that never could be or should be. It is time to grow up, girl. Get your life in order. Think clearly like an adult woman now. Get more education. Get a better job. Cultivate the inner you. Be confident. You can do it and you are going to be ok!
2006-08-20 10:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time to change your habbits. If u cant seem to get the time to go out an meet ppl then its time u should make time. set aside and hour or so everyday and allow u to make eye contact and smile with ppl in general, eventually u will b able to make the neccesary adjustments in ur life to allow for a more meaningful and enjoyable relationship, good luck and all the best
2006-08-20 10:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by mark d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i know what you mean myself i work alot too and dont have time to date much and i too just got out of a bad one too.but the best i can offer is to keep ur self occupied with something and try some casual dating or just go out and a little crazy,or try one of these dating sites ok. thats what im doing but it isnt working all to well for me but you would have better luck than i .make you a profile on yahoos dating and i bet you will find someone who will make you happy again
2006-08-20 10:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by rob l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋