the biggest loser in the history of the world? He drinks 'til he passes out EVERY night,gambles on horses,dogs...,when she had a late miscarriage 2 yrs ago he pressured her to return to work 3 days later.He shouts at her like she's a dog.She is very well educated and has 2 kids with this as*hole.I worry about her,but he has caused a terrible coldness between us and now we don't talk.So,is he a major as*hole?
2006-08-20 03:14:57 · 25 answers · asked by BellaDonna 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, your sister should buy a dog so the scum bag has to pick up the dog crap. It sounds like that's the only thing he is good for.
2006-08-20 03:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor or film him without him knowing like hidden camera and than later show him that he really needs help.
Make sure u and ur sister plan this well, you have 2 find a way to talk 2 one another.
And tell her to be very innocent and when u show it 2 him tell him that none of them knew whats was going on. LIE!!
Now this is the part where he has 2 choose his wife and children or nothing.
Coz if he chooses nothing and he still angry give ur sister one way ticket out the country or some place with her folcks and he should not know where they are.
if he ask u tell him that he had a choose and u hardly talk u2 eachother coz of his rude attuidute and if he wants them back go see a doctor or he is fully divorced.
2006-08-20 14:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think he's worth the ground he walks on...no one should have to put up with that bullsh*t. Life is way too short to be wasted on someone like that...unless he's willing to change and put an effort into trying to make things between them. Otherwise, as hard as it may be to do, the best choice she could make for herself and the kids in the long run, would be to leave this guy...she deserves much better!
However, she's the only one who can make that kind of decision...all you can hope for, is that she'll see him for what he really is and will realize that she will be a much better person without him.
Everyone deserves the chance to have a happy and fulfilled life...always believe in yourself and think positive. You may be surprised at what you can accomplish...
2006-08-20 10:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by cdngal64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, according to you he sure is. However, what matters is your sister and her kids. She obviously doesn't think he is THAT bad otherwise she would have left him by now. So, the important thing is whether or not you can be civil around him or he may just go and tell your sister she can't have contact with you anymore. And since she seems to like putting up with BS, she may very well take his advice and not talk to you. It's suprising what manipulation can do to a person.
2006-08-20 10:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there forher without talking about him. If he's that bad she knows it and probably doesn't want to hear it, she lives it. I have a friend in a similar situation and we have an unwritten rule, no matter what I think about him I keep it to myself. However;I do not put myself in his company nor do we go out as couples because he is obnoxious and always makes comments to me when she can't hear him.
Support her and do not comment on him and the coldness will go away, eventually she'll tire of his bull and tell him to take a hike.
2006-08-20 10:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely
2006-08-20 10:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by athame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you already answered your own question. You think he is an a*shole, but what matters is that shes with him and for some reason doesn't think he is one. You can't convince her to do anything she doesnt want to so your best bet would have been to let her make her own choices and accept that she loves him and wants to be with him. Determining if he is an a*shole or not will not change the fact that she is with him.
2006-08-20 10:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and i wouldnt let my sister be with a man like that i would tell her how i felt and then if that doesnt help i would treat him like ****. also say if they came to my house for something i would set up a video recorder and when they are finished fighing i would tell him to go home cause i had a personal question to ask my sister and as soon as he leaves i would play it back for her. and make her relize how he is. god men like that shouldnt be allowed to marry and have kids. well good luck and take care.
2006-08-20 10:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a type of mind control and abuse. this enviroment is not good for ur sisteror the kids no matter that the kids belong to him. inform a womans abuse centrethey knowwhat to do in these situations with out any one knowing who sent the tip for abuse. she needs to get out NOW. this is ur only way to get a third party involved and i cannot think of any one better than a womans abuse cantre. u r a good sister
2006-08-20 10:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeps he sounds like the biggest loser ever...i think your sis would be better off without him... but maybe she is scared of leaving him because of the children... does she still love him??? if not then its up to u to take care of your sis... meet her somplace without her husband knowing and tell her that u only want to help her because u dont want her to suffer anymore... u might want to get some counselling for her and help her build up her self confidence enough so that she can stand up to her husband...there are many ways in which u ca help her if shes willing to listen to u...
anyways good luck
2006-08-20 10:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋