someone i wuz once so close to has grown very far apart from me and avoids me as much as possible..esspecially when he's around other ppl. any advice?
btw when i say "close to" i mean friends...not like in "that" way
2006-08-20 02:46:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hershey, I am not as interested in points as trying to help you. Life goes on, with or without friends. If you can talk to this person, confront him?her. If not, try the best you know how just to manage your own life as best you can.
2006-08-20 02:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To me, it sounds as if your friend has a problem. If you were close friends, and now he's avoiding you, something must have happened that made him act like this. If he is around other people and acts as if you aren't even there, I would need to talk to him and get to the bottom of what happened. I think he owes you an explanation. If he cant, then maybe it is time to move on. Good luck
2006-08-20 09:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this recently happen to me with a very special friend whom I have never met in person, only by mail and the internet, but she and I were closer than twins or sisters, and she all of a sudden quit writing and calling and it became very upsetting. I tried NUMEROUS times/ways to contact her and still nothing. Finally, after 9 1/2 months, I got a letter from her last week saying she thought I was mad at her. Her kids had been keeping my mail from her cause they were jealous (these are grown kids living at home, mind you). But, we have things back to normal now and I
just can tell you to perhaps write one letter to this guy and send to him and ask what has happened and ask him to quietly respect your relationship and answer you privately. Explain that you really miss your friendship and that if you were stiffling him in some way, please tell you and you will back off alittle but that you still want the friendship that you had, and if he agrees to this, then back off abit and perhaps one day you will get back the full closeness that you had, and who knows....it may someday lead to something more (if you and he want). But, if he refuses to respond.....let it slide for awhile and see if he doesn't come back to you on his own. Sometimes with guys, they have to see that they aren't "all that" and such before they realize what they have lost or almost lost and they are the ones who then come looking for you.
Hang in there...........remember that saying."if you love something,let it go....if it comes back to you, then it's yours....if it doesn't come back, then it was never meant to be."
This is just as true for Friendships.
Good Luck. Let me know what happens.
2006-08-20 10:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing any more details than you have given, it would be very hard to answer this for you. Apparently you have done something that has caused this problem. Look very close at what has happened in the last few weeks to see if you may have done or said something to turn him against you.
2006-08-20 09:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I think is you should comfort him about the issue if it is bothering you. Call him since you are friends I am sure you have his number, don't do it in front of ppl as he will probably make a scene if you know what I mean. You have a right to know what the deal is and if you want to continue the friendship...
2006-08-20 09:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you've done something wrong that offended him...or maybe he heard bad things about you. the only thing i can think of to sort this problem out is, why don't you try to confront him? you will never know what's wrong if you don't. i mean, do you want to be avoided forever? just try to talk to the person if you have a chance.
2006-08-20 09:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by darlyn_chua13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you have a disagreement? I would confront him and ask him what is on his mind. This is the only way you will know what happened and it may ease your mind. PS--Sometimes people do things for no apparent reason, so try not to worry about it too much.
2006-08-20 09:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he avoids you then that means you're both through. Time to pull the chain, flush him out of your life and find another bf.
2006-08-20 09:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a sit down w/ur friend and ask them what's the deal.. ask why r they igging u when other ppl come around.. ask if they r embarrassed to be around u or something.. if ur friend keeps that up then dump ur friend and go make new ones...
2006-08-20 09:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has he been avoiding you? Maybe you should try to stop him somewhere and talk to him about this. Best of luck!
2006-08-20 09:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋