i am 9 weeks pregnant age 39, my boyfriend is 30, i am feeling really sickly and very tired. we live together in my house. He has been moaning at me because I have been sick in the evening and says i am making it up. Twice this week he has stormed out to the pub dispite me asking him to stay home and then coming home late drunk. he dosn't think he has done anything wrong as says i cant stop him going out. When he does this it causes me stress and i get upset, i ask him not to stress me out as its no good for the baby, but he just dosn't listen.. what will i do? do i dump him?
2006-08-20 01:57:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let's remember no matter how old he is, he indicates child. I think that he is also stressed out, maybe worried about the future, and cannot handle it well (being a child as men are quite often). I suggest having a talk, maybe go stay w/ ur friends or family a few days (or ask him to). People are only humans, they need breaks even from those they love. During that time suggest that you both relax, and think about your coming expectations, hopes and worries. Then go from there. As for him saying ur making up sickness, next time u feel sick let go on him. If u are faking it then how did he get covered? Remind him ur hormones are hay wire and that it is common for pregnant women to feel sick. Also maybe he could learn that you need to take it fairly easy and that helping out around the house would reduce ur stress, thus reducing stress put on him!
2006-08-20 02:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by girlnoladrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, he's an immature, selfish jerk. You knwo it. Heck, you probably have seen signs of it before and just ignored them. The question is now -- do you want this man to raise this baby? If you do, you need some serious sit down talk time.
Lay it all out -- responsible fathers don't go out getting drunk and they support their mates in every way possible. If he can do that, and he's will to work at making a real home for this baby, then he can stay.
Otherwise you have no choice but to think ahead for the best of your child and get him out of your life.
Hopefully he will come around.
I do wish you the best.
If you have the chance to do this again -- get married and be in a real committed relationship with a mature ma before you get pregnant.
2006-08-20 02:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is this bad now wait until the baby gets here. My ex would not lift a finger to help with the baby. I had it all to do and the more attention I gave the baby the more he went out with his friends. our child was just over a year when he found someone new to party with. be very careful at what you decide to do. remember woman mature faster the men so at 30 he mentally still 21. good luck. and enjoy being pregnant this should be a Happy time and not filled with stress.
2006-08-20 02:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by mechelle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't dump him. It is very hard being pregnant and everything gets on your nerves. I know that I would get sick every time I ate anything with sugar in it. You can try that and see if that helps. I was told that I was very hard to live with when I was pregnant and my bf did the same thing. After looking back I noticed that I was hard to live with. I had a very bad attitude because I didn't feel good and he didn't seem to understand. I think they really don't understand what you are going thru and can't help themselves.
2006-08-20 02:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is scared of responsibility. I believe that's why he's drinking and he's unable to cope with reality. Yes, him stressing you out is not good for your baby's health at all. You have every right to ask him to stay at home, but he sounds to be spoiled rotten and very immature. I would wait until the baby is born, if that doesn't change him.....nothing will. If not, you're going to be raising 2 kids instead of 1. Good luck!
2006-08-20 02:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by KD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is pack up everything he own and put it on the edge of the property and put a note on it that says when you grow up call me. Tell him the stress can cause you to miscarry. Then ask him how would that make you feel?
2006-08-20 02:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by michigan_redneck_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are jerks, but in this case i think u might wanna be more patient with the bf cause he has no idea where u r coming From, and what it is that u r experiencing. try to explain to him how it is that u feel, tell him what it is that u r thinking and let him know in no uncertain terms that u do not appreciate his unruly behavior towards u and Ur unborn child. that ought to set him strait, if it does not , well, kick him to the curb.
2006-08-20 02:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Nthape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to give him a book on the basics of pregnancy.. as he reads then he'll know what to expect from his pregnant gf.. let him know that ur r now responsible for 2 lives and that he needs to be more considerate of ur feelings and the fact that ur carrying his child..
now if he's causing u to much stress then u need to leave him either temporarily or for good.. it's no good for the baby...
2006-08-20 02:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess you are in!!! God!!! Should have kept your legs together, sweetie. This little relationship is not going to last. If I were you, I would make plans for a life with just the baby and you. He is a looser and is a drinker......you don't have a clue and I feel for the baby. You need to go to therapy!
2006-08-20 02:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋