I need HELP from anyone! "please" someone.?

Question

I was child abused as a kid. Ive been called extremely hurtfull names and i have been physically abused bye verious object. Long story short ive have been extremely effected bye the things that happend in my past. Its hard moving on with my life. I dont talk to many people. I dont have many friend. And the friends that i do have stab me in the back all the time because i they know im vonerable and i want do any thing back. I come across to people as wierd or dumb. when its my personal problems that wont allow me to be myself. Im depressed and have thought about suicide. I just want to know in your opionion what i should do. And im 18.

Answer 1

Get new friends, pray for healing and get away from the abusers in your life.
You can heal, you can be happy and free.
Make the decision today to take the steps.

Answer 2

Hi Jamie L,
How are you today? I would suggest that you get some counselling for the abuse that you went through and also about your suicidal thoughts. Please see a doc regarding the depression. Also, do not live your life by other peoples standards. Set morals for yourself and live by them. Find a mentor, someone who is older than you are and who has achieved in life. Look in the mirror. You are unique and beautiful. You can achieve whatever you want by believing in yourself. Tell yourself that you are as good as anyone and do not sit by and take crap from people. I do not mean that you should take revenge for the ills that others have done to you but try to be brave and set standards for yourself. Anything that falls below your standards, reject it. Friends must be chosen wisely. Those who stab you in the back are not friends. Know the kind of friends that you want and seek them. Finally find books that tells you how to lift your self esteem. There is only one you in this world. Your future is in your hands. Seek the best help possible (doctors, counsellors, mentors) and talk through your problems. I have no doubt that you will shine because I have have suffered some forms of abuse too and I am now confident and shining. All The best.
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Answer 3

Find a good counsellor and a group of friends, what you have described as friends really are bullies. Stay away from them. I don't know what else to suggest, but I do think that you should go to a doctor and/or counsellor. Have you pressed charges against those who have abused you? This might help to bring you some closure, and show the world that you can stand up to those who wrong you. You have my deepest sympathy, honey. I know that what I have suggested is hard to do, but you have been strong enough to put up with the abuse, so I think that you can be strong enough to do what you need to do now.
Congratulations on seeking support now. I know that asking for help is the hardest thing to do, and you've done it. Take that strength and use it to find those who can help you face to face.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Sweetheart, u have been through a really hard time, there is help out there u just have to ask for it. U need counselling to help you deal with the abuse u suffered. U need to get ur self esteem back so u can stop letting people be abusive to u. But u need help to do this. Dont let anyone put u down, try local phone books for help or you local library, they are a great source of information. You are a great human being and dont let anyone tell u otherwise. I hope u get the help u so badly need. God bless u

Answer 5

Move out of your parents house. And get some new friends. You might try a support group, but personally, I would tell my parents to piss up a rope. Try to remember that not all people suck. Take an adult education class that you might enjoy, like cooking or flower arranging,

Take a class on self defense. Nothing will help like letting loose that anger. And you can't hurt the heavy bag, you can pound on it forever and never leave a bruise.

Also, do something to help someone else. It is such a moral boost to teach someone something they want to know. Go to your library or park and volunteer some time.

Keep your chin up, life gets better as you get older and the pain gets farther behind you.

Answer 6

You HAVE To put the past behind you. You need to be the best person you can be physically, mentally,spiritually& emotionally. You do not have to engage in the phases of life that make you uncomfortable until you come to terms with them. Not everyone is out to hurt you but they took something precious away from you. Pull yourself up by your boot straps and conquer this fight or THEY win and you can not allow that....Seek out a counselor and dont settle for the 1st one if you are not comfortable.....find some one you feel at ease with....Good luck to you and pray to your higher power whom or what ever you believe that is..e-mail me if you would like to talk.....

Answer 7

I was in your shoes once, and I almost killed myself. I put my trust in Jesus Christ. He died for our sins, and if we believe in him, and ask him for forgiveness, he will cleanse us, come into our heart, and we will be saved. That is the first step to freedom. The second step is to find something you enjoy, and focus on it and pursue a career in it. Other things will fall into place. What other people say about you or do to you doesn't matter. Give life all you have and you can turn this around. You may also want to see a doctor about getting onto an anti-depressant, and seeing a counselor you can talk to about this.

Answer 8

Stay away from people who abuse or take advantage of you. You do not need them. Find a good church (if you do not have one) and talk to the pastor about your problems, they can frequently help. If you are seriously thinking about suicide it might be necessary to see a psychologist, it is nothing to be ashamed of. Most important thing you can do is read the Bible and pray to God for emotional healing (He is the ultimate healer.)

Answer 9

Sounds like social phobia to me. Visit this forum: www.socialphobiaworld.com and get a shrink help if you can afford it. Never give up and look for a happy future. If you can afford moving out of the place you live in and start a new life in a whole different place, then do it ASAP.

Good luck.

Answer 10

First thing you need to do is get help to deal with the child abuse you suffered! After that everything else takes time and I wouldn't worry about that to much, but I would get help for the child abuse, you need to deal with that before you can move on!