My girlfriend, who I trust completely, is mostly friends with guys. In fact, all her friends are guys. This doesn't bother me at all, as the guys (though I'm not close friends with any of them) aren't going to try anything, even though I know a few of them fancy her. Anyhow, they're harmless and she wouldn't cheat on me or anything in a million years. I have no problem with that situation and I've never brought it up or shown any signs of jealously. I'm not jealous, in fact.
We've had a bit of an argument over the past few days, and she had already arranged for me and her friends to come to hers to hang last night. Eventually, I brought up the fact I might feel awkward if I come, and she said I didn't have too - of course, I wanted to go really, but I wanted her to say "Come!" but she didn't.
Anyhow, she was over her house with three guys last night and I sat at home alone. I feel jealous, but I know nothing happened - we're so close, but now I just feel unhappy and unsettled.
2006-08-20 01:34:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NOTE: Quite generally, she rarely hangs out with her friends. She's quite a spacious person anyway and we'll only meet up a few times a week - I had to think I smother her. Anyway, this is the first time in months she's met up with her male friends (she doesn't have any female friends). And, like I said, I'm not actually jealous - I just feel it for some reason when I try to imagine what happened. Things such as seating arrangement and what time they went home play on my mind.
I'm IN love with my girlfriend and this is the first time something like this has happened.
I'd never ask her not to be friends with the guys, I've never even thought of saying something like that and I don't wanna, either.
2006-08-20 01:54:34 · update #1
First of all, grow a backbone. If you are so comfortable with her hanging with her guys, then let it go. If you have some reservations about it, then speak your mind. I don't believe in beating around the bush about anything. Voice your opinion because you are the only one who can! She invited you, you chose not to go. If you're so accepting of her lifestyle, then why are you uncomfortable with her guy friends? I believe that you're lying to yourself about not being jealous. Your statements are contradictory.
2006-08-20 03:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Enough 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you are awesome. I am married, and have been with the same guy for a thousand years, and he is still the most jealous person in the world. I have mostly guy frinds simply because chics suck. Anyway, my husband would definitely not be cool with me hangin with my guy friends all the time wether he was there or not. I really don't blame you for feeling awkward. I would feel awkward to hang out with my man and a bunch of his chic friends. Back to your question...If she invited you, then you said no, only hoping that she would say oh c'mon please come...Welll, that's simply a girl thing to do on your part. If you wanted to go, you should have went. Maybe she didn't beg you because she didn't want to make you do something that you didn't really want to do. I would suggest that you gradually buddy up with her male friends. Maybe have get togethers at your place sometimes instead of hers. You will feel alot more comfortable on your own turf.
2006-08-20 01:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok this is so simple. all you gotta do is hang around her even when her guy friends are there..when they'r talking get into the conversation. find things u have in common with them and you may just end up to be friends...if u find out you have nothing in common just spend your time with her wisely and make sure she enjoys her time with you so she doesnt even THINK about going with some other guy. she's loves you very much and i can tell but u cant ban her from getting near her friends. maybe you should also talk to her about ur jelousy...itz ok to admit ur jelous to a girl. it actually makes her love you more and she'll tell you all the stuff you wanna hear. hope i helped
2006-08-20 01:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she did tell u to go to her place that night...
And anyway c'mon guy, u love her, there should be no place for jealousy.
I think u should let her know that u feel uneasy with her guy friends.... Besides dont end up fighting. In a lovely relationship like this no feeling should be hidden from ur partner. Once u say it to her, she will remove a solution. Be understanding...
2006-08-20 01:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lovie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just need a small break from each other.It sounds like you have total trust in her so try to just let it go...most likely she missed you also and was hoping you showed up.Don't let this ruin a good thing cause the kind of trust u hav with her is precious.
2006-08-20 01:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can't expect her to abandon her friends cause ur dating now.. but what u can ask her to do is spend more quality time alone w/u, instead of being w/all her friends... u can let her know that ur uncomfortable, but then u'd just be showing her how insecure u r and that u don't trust her.. instead of u assuming that she was gonna tell u to come u should've just went anyway.. u being home alone wasn'ther fault...
have a sit down w/her.. how is she gonna know how u feel if don't tell her.. but don't try to make her choose between her friends and u...
2006-08-20 01:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get into her group or get her to make girl friends. I personally would hate this situation.
2006-08-20 01:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me, if i where one of her friends, i would understand that she will go out with you because you are most special for her. but in that situation she must say to her friends that she already arranged that night with you.. eventually, they will understand if they want their friends to be happy.. you dont need to be jealous with her friends... sit with her and talk about it... if she will be happy with her friends, so, you need to hang-out with them...
2006-08-20 01:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by skat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three guys!must of been alot of fun for YOUR GIRLFRIEND!each guy getting to bang her all night long.to bad you were alone.are you jealous?
2006-08-20 01:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋