Is it wrong to want a gf/mistress/f-buddy when you're not happily married?

Question

I'm tired of doing all the work and not have help or support except when it's convenient to the other person!

Answer 1

It's not uncommon even for the HAPPILY married to want something on the side, yet people are more apt to look outside the marriage when they're not getting support from within. Not sure how long you've been married, but if it's been for a long while perhaps she needs to know how dissatisfied you are. If she knows and still seems selfish and indifferent, then she also needs to know that as a man you have needs that must be met. I'm a woman, but if I WAS an man and in your situation, I'd be either having an affair or getting a divorce.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with that thought because no one can tell you how to think. People have that line of thought every day. If you are that unhappy you would be best to go to marriage counseling or get divorced. All a mistress will do is to help you tolerate the marriage for the time being but it will all blow up in your face in the end. They all do!!! Is it worth is?

Answer 3

It is not wrong to think about it (you're only human), but, it is wrong to have an affair (from God's word). If you are tired of it all and just getting laid out of sympathy, then talk to the wife, if that doesn't work, maybe counselling, maybe sex toys. Then if it all fails, you'll either have to keep taking matters into your own hands or the extreme would be go separate ways for a while. Think about it, if you get busted with a mistress, that could be trouble. Sex enhancers for women are definately out there. Toys, pills, nighties, lotions,do I have to go on.... ;-))

Answer 4

It is wrong.

Those marriage vows are more than just mere words and marriage is more than just the sex.

I haven't had sex with my wife for 15 years, but at no time did I feel the need to have an "f-buddy". You have got to work it out before you throw in the towel and move on.

Answer 5

Not wrong to "want", is just a symptom of your current situation. Instead, try to work out your current situation and resolve it in some positive way. doing that will only make the current problems worse while making you feel better in the short term. kind of like drugs or alchol would.resolve the currnet problem, and keep you honesty and integrety.

Answer 6

You need to really sit down with your wife & talk about this. A marriage is not something to take so lightly. If you are so unhappy do not stay married to someone when your heart & soul is not in it. It takes two people to make a good marriage work.

Answer 7

If you are not happily married -- Talk to the wife..
IF the 2 of you can not work things out, try counseling..... Or just plain get out--------Do not make each other miserable. And don't bring another person into the mix..........

Answer 8

Talk with your spouse., or get a leagal seperation, or get a divorce, if you want a gf/mistress/f-buddy. Sometimes marriage isn't always fair. Good luck!

Answer 9

Dear Sir
Sure it is wrong and you know what, it is a sin too, you need to work hard and if u say i do then work harder coz no body says that life will be easy,so dear see where are the problems in your relation and step by step solve the problems.
Best of luck
♥

Answer 10

well here we go again sometimes another person gives you signal to change yourself what it means you have to looked deep down in your heart what bothers you it will take a lot writing to show you a way to life youu have to accept yourself as you are the first thing is to apply universal law love yourself ans that is the key ;sit down and talk with your partner what's the probem sometimes women abuse their authority in their marriage becsuse their ego wear on the sleeve.sometimes we give power to other people to run their show and me is poor victim.sometimes divorce takes place and breaks old pattern and of we go to a new adventure.but i wouldn't rush firs t get search what's bothering you and do some home work to polish things to your life .sometimes change is good for your soul god bless you my e-mail [e-mail]