The relationship between my parents works for them. Which is fine. But, their relationship isn't one I want to reference as a model for my own life. I don't have nearby relatives or adult friends who I can reference to learn how I should behave in a relationship. I'm 26 and it feels like I'm following in the footsteps of my parents.
2006-08-20 00:09:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So tragic. Helplessly sucked into the mistakes of your parents. Are we to believe that? At 26, only you determine what you do. We usually learn more from bad examples, than good. It's silly and counter productive to blame role models for your present actions. That's merely an excuse, to avoid accepting responsibility for yourself. You live your life, and you call the shots. We choose, and gotta live with the consequences of those choices.
2006-08-20 01:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find role models around you that have the type of relationship you want.
Failing that, remember that even bad examples can be good lessons. If nothing else, your parents should have taught you what NOT to do. Just do the opposite.
2006-08-20 00:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Physh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
identify the positives and negatives of their relationship and write it down. Then identify traits that you have picked up from the negative side and reflect how you could change these. Remember relationships are not one sided and your partner will also bring in some learned behaviours that will either compliment yours or unsettle them. this then make your relationship yours and your partners. discuss with him what he feels are your positives and negs and vice versa. Communication is the key. At the end of the day the success of your relationship comes down to you two not your parents
2006-08-20 01:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to follow in your parents footsteps! You are your own person, you know what you want in a relationship, and you also know how you want to treat him/her and him/her treat you! You are 26, you know what is right from wrong! Follow your own mind, heart, & soul! Pray to God, and ask him if he would please help to guide you through!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-23 06:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as learning from other people. Either people are going to grow up to act just like their parents or their not. It's entirely up to them what they do with their life.
2006-08-20 02:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're asking the right questions. That's a pretty good start. Many people do exactly what their parents did and don't realise there is a problem. Good luck.
2006-08-20 17:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont follow the shadow of anyone..looks are deceptive.99.9% of all relations is dysfunctional,,be creative,,re-create urself.and if everyone did this mabey the generation after you might make some sence..how long must i go on saying im a bad parent cuz my parents didnt give me the tools as didnt their parents..nothing changes cuz the blame game continues
2006-08-20 00:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be good to be true...
True to yourself and true to others...
Even if your parents have a bad relationship..
You dont have to be bad to others...
Being 26, you should be determined, disciplined..
Got to have the courage, to be mature enough & GROW UP!
and Be responsible..
2006-08-20 03:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by carmela24ph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents had a very explosive abusive relationship...I did the total opposite from what they had.
2006-08-20 00:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
choose the best parts and throw the rest out.
2006-08-20 00:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋