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i love her much and i dont want to loose her,i cried a lot in front of her.tried her to tell me to help.Now i cannot think any thing else. i am totally helpless even my family members are not helping me out of this sitution. i cannot work in my office. i am uncomfortable with people. the things i like to most now i dont see any interest in them. I am in search for some who will help me in sitution and give me perfect solution. Now she is pregrenant and after preganancy i dont want condition to be very worst. so before preganancy i want a solution. i dont want to give divorce to her . i just want to live a normal life like other people. i want to convience and change her mind from cheating me. i am totally helpless and i think i need a good friend or adviser in this sitution other wisse i am going to be mad. I hope some one will definitly think on my sitution and will give a good solution for my happy married life. i dont belive in second marrige as it could happen once again so please

2006-08-19 23:47:17 · 25 answers · asked by Rutuja S 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

25 answers

in the story u r depressed she is not a cheater

2006-08-19 23:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0 2

u want a solution for your happy married life. You don't sound so happily married? What is it you need help with. Is she still cheating? Or she she asking for forgiveness?. If she is still cheating then you either accept it and say nothing more. If she is asking for you to forgive then you need to do just that. To do that you must find a understanding of why and listen to her with out to much judgment ( find peace.) When that is done then begin to fall in love all over again. But the Peace with in your self must be found and accepted before you can move on. But in the end "You both must want this MARRIAGE!!!!!

2006-08-20 00:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0 0

You can not make her love you or be faithful to you. The best advice I can give is to get out now and divorce. You may not want a divorce but it is the only solution. How do you know that the baby is yours? You will never be able to convince her to love you or be with you. Do yourself a favor and start taking care of yourself, get back to the things that you loved to do and take time for yourself. Do not date for at least a year and rediscover yourself. Good luck.

2006-08-20 00:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0 0

to be honest with you. I did not believe second marriage and I had divorce my first wife who we don't get along and I can't take anymore and she treated me so bad like a kid and threat divorce and my feelings stops so fast and I end it 8 months of marriage.

I remarried again it was the best thing in the world to me and will be 9 years in oct 06. I have 2 kids age between 3 and 2 and 3rd on the way. It was the happiest thing in the world. You know my first marriage she want tohave kids and I told no becasue we never worked out anything.

Seem she cheating on you and she not willing to work it out and wow, she having your baby. Your family won't help you out? Yeah my family didn't want me to married second. I turn them down and have them out of my life and i was happy. and you have plm at work and stuff. Dude you need to foucus on you self asap if you don't you will lose more than just your wife. house, cars, job, everything. You need to start looking after yourself. if you don't it will be so bad can lead you killing yourself. pls, go get help and if you get help then you will know where to start and take step by step.

Your wife not do anything or understand when you talk to her and crying infront of her... so i learn first marriage to make the second marriage best. and Remember just be there for your kid and not being there for your wife. Really sorry to hear about this. But you have to make the choice to look after yoruself asap.

2006-08-20 01:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0 0

First find out the reason, what she wants and u r not able to give her, it could be money or sexual satisfaction or both and nothing else. Whom she is dating with? If you are not able to satisfy her sexually then it can be a problem. but if she is desirous of money then she is wrong as wife must stand by her husband in all times and vice-versa. Ask her straight away and for God sake don't cry in front of her. She is taking advantage of your leniency. Ask her now or never whether she is willing to mend her ways or not for ever (in a stern voice). Don't get emotionally blackmailed about the would be child of yours. Clear ur life of any filth now or never...

2006-08-20 01:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It happened to me. i found out on new years eve 1999. i totally went to pieces. i lost my job, my house, my confidence. i no longer feel comfortable in others' company. i'm on medication. i am in my second relationship since. my partner understands me. she s very patient.

i can't say what will happen for you. my ex-wife has had one night stands galore. she won't change. it made me realise that for 8yrs my life was not real. when i met her i was a jack the lad. i learned to stay in and get permanent work. it privided us with a home/nice car . in her eyes i became a total bore.
it will play on your mind all day long every day. imagine a merry go round (pardon the merry bit) ,and your wife is on one ride. you will keep waiting for her as the merry go round goes quite fast at the beginning. but after a while , as with all kinds of grief, the merry go round will slow, or it will make bigger circles enabling your mind to eventually get some peace. as with the grief of death, you will never forget, but it will become something that gets less painful.
i hope this answer hasn't ruined your dreams, and good luck we'll be thinking of you.

2006-08-20 00:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You sound very hurt Im sorry for that but you have to ask yourself this question why would you want to be with someone who is cheating on you once you have been cheated on the trust is gone and that puts a strain on your marriage and once a cheat always a cheat.....

2006-08-20 01:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by cassiday g 2 · 0 0

You must need professional help there

And well.. if it helps you at all: WOMEN seem to apprciate men crying in fron of them (brave enough to show his feelings.. blah blah blah) but in fact they search for STRONG men to provide comfort and a shoulder to cry on when necessary.

SO your dignity as a man is your only treasure and don't you ever lose it for any woman in this world

2006-08-19 23:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Roland 6 · 0 0

as some answers the manly manner is the tresure for men
and wemon like men cring is tresure for wemon never show your feeling like that if you have child the condition is more complicated if not you can stay befor here if she wants leave you let her do. if you cry one more time it means the woman is rigth not you .
and at last dont wory gather more mony find one more beutifule yonger and enjoy more if men find better case soon they forget this issues

2006-08-20 02:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by mohammad g 2 · 0 0

think that you're not the only one that has that kind of problem. you're just worsening your problem by thinking that to much. be optimistic enough to see the things that can help you enough to solve your problem. continue your life, be strong because you're a man. if you are beleiving to God, pray to Him and ask for enlightenment. i know you'll see the difference after you had approached God. that is very effective because He really works at me everyday. learn to think about the solution yourself and be positive enough. good luck!

2006-08-20 00:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Dude, I have walked in your shoes and it feels like the end of the world but trust me. It will take time to heal, you will smile again and you will love again. Pray if you have to but leave that woman alone. You will loose your dignity if you do get her back.

2006-08-20 00:43:38 · answer #11 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0 0

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