I like orgasms, but why do I feel guilty after ejaculation?

Answer 1

I felt the same way the first few years I started doing it--it's a very strong guilty feeling, right? I never could figure it out.

Now that I've been going to meditation class for several months as an adult, I've learned about saving sexual energy. We are not supposed to jerk off because to do so wastes our sexual energy, draining us tremendously. The guilty feeling we get as guys when we first start masturbating is our body's interpretation of the waste of energy. Do you also feel drained immediately after doing it? I felt it very strongly, followed by that guilty feeling. My meditation instructor says it's because we are not supposed to waste our sperm without a partner--without a wife, actually.

They give the example of Gandhi. He had four children with his wife--of all the times he had sex with his wife, can you guess how many times Gandhi ejaculated? Yes, four. The other times he had sex with his wife, he would stop right before coming. That supposedly saves the sexual energy for when both sex partners are spiritually ready to create a life. It's very complicated; I don't know if I could even do that--I mean, you are at the point of climax, right before you open the floodgates...and then you have to stop. And you can kum only when the energies of both partners are at a maximum--which is supposedly very rare, because it's a complicated process of visualizing white energy going up both sex partners' spines--it's called sexual alchemy. That's crazy, isn't it? So when you are doing meditation, they tell you that you definitely should not masturbate because it only drains and wastes your energy. That draining feeling is what our conscience/body interprets as guilt.

The meditation class offers a breathing exercise that supposedly stores your sexual energy whenever you feel horny. So it's supposed to help you avoid the feeling of having to masturbate. That way you keep your energy for when you rilly need it. So when you see a hot girl in a thong with her nipples popping out of her tiny bikini top, instead of going home at night and masturbating to her memory--spilling your seed into your hand or onto your bedsheets--what you should do is that breathing exercise which supposedly transmutes your sexual energy and revitalizes you. After the exercise you feel refreshed, and no urge to masturbate. I haven't rilly tried it on my own--only in the class. But then anyway I haven't had any urge to masturbate for the past...I think it's going on three months now.

Sure, sometimes I see a hot girl or think of one of my meditation friends at night--girl, of course!!! (That place is like a chick magnet!!!)--and I kind of cheat a little bit, and start stroking, but I stop myself short of kumming because I don't want to waste it. The girls aren't supposed to masturbate either, because it "withers" them. Both sexes are supposed to save their respective sexual energies.

I'm starting to think it might be true. I masturbated so much when I was a kid, and I felt so good doing it, that when I finally rilly did it with a girl, it didn't feel as good as when I jerked off--it actually sucked! I slowly had to get used to having sex with a girl before I felt rill pleasure. That's because of the wasted energy of masturbating, I'm almost sure. And there were several times when I was with a girl that I couldn't even perform. I felt like I couldn't even get it up, no matter how much I tried. (It happened only a handful of times--and it didn't help that the girl got angry whenever I couldn't do it; after that I had to "think" about the erection and that was horrible: If you think about it, it won't happen! Those were tough times.)

So I often think, if I had never masturbated, how wonderful would my first time have felt with a girl? I probably would have exploded with pleasure. (Anyway, she was on top because she was "teaching" me--and she wasn't even a g/f, just a friend--so maybe it's because I wasn't in control [not on top] that I didn't feel right and couldn't rilly enjoy it.)

So, regarding the masturbation/guilty feeling, I just put it out there; it's for you to believe or not. But as for me, I'm saving my energy for now. I don't have a girlfriend at the moment, but I imagine when I finally "blow my wad," it'll be a biggie! (I don't think I'll be able to do the Gandhi and stop the floodgates!!!) Who cares if I have to start another beginning meditation class! I'm blowing straight through that stop sign, boy!!! And it'll be worth it!!! (I'm kind of the rebel in my class.)
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And it has nothing to do with spiritual beliefs or religion: It's your own body telling you that you are wasting your energy--which you interpret as a very strong feeling as guilt. So don't listen to me or your preacher. Just listen to what your body is telling you.

Your body knows a lot more than your mind. Your mind can get confused with too much information and conflicting beliefs. But your body never lies to you. You remember the phrase, "your gut feeling"? It comes from the world of meditation. When your mind is confused, in meditation we are taught to listen to what our solar plexus chakra tells us--that's the true center of your spiritual thoughts, your "guts," if you will. And it doesn't lie to you--believe it or not. (You'll have to learn what a chakra is, if you don't know it.) Basically, it's an energy field in your body. We have seven chakras in our physical bodies, running up along our spine: at the base of the spine, between the anus and your sexual organs; then at your sexual organs; then the solar plexus (centered at the bellybutton); then the heart; then the throat; then the "third eye" chakra one inch behind the bridge of your nose--right at the center of your head; and finally there's the crown chakra, at the crown of your head. Those are the ones in our physical bodies, whether you believe in them or not! Your body believes in them, because it's the chakra at your sexual organs that is being drained when you masturbate, making your body feel guilty.

I know this all might sound like mumbo-jumbo to you now--it did to me once, but it's the only thing that ever explained to me why I felt so guilty right after masturbating. And now that I'm doing the meditation exercises--called "internal work," I'm learning more and more about my own spiritual body and physical body, among the many other layers of bodies we have. The difficult thing is to balance all of them, to make you a better being, but that's a whole nother class!

(Phew!) That was a doozy! Now how many guys are gonna go jerk off after this? He he....I know you're going to cut and paste that part about the girl in the thong with her nipples sticking out of her little see-through bikini top--and put it on your desktop, right? He he he... =D
That's why I put it up there, to test you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

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Answer 4

Perhaps your parents or religious establishment filled you with terrible lies, such as the lie about masturbation being wrong. There is NOTHING wrong with masturbating, ejaculation, orgasms, or anything related to them. It's a perfectly normal human function and the vast majority of us do it.

Shed any pointless guilt and enjoy it. You should feel as guilty about masturbating as you would about breathing.

Answer 5

Premature ejaculation is caused by specific things that you do before and during sex. Most of the time without even realizing it. Read here https://tr.im/wSV6F

Premature ejaculation is not some gene you're born with, the result of your penis size or a part of your personality that you can never change.

Answer 6

i think you need to elaborate a bit more here. do you mean ejaculation after sex or masturbation, or do you mean both?? there would be very different reasons why you feel guilty!!

Answer 7

It is new and unfamiliar... and there is a certain deviance cast over the act of masterbation. It is normal though and as you do it more, it will begin to feel more comfortable.

Answer 8

This is because people make it seem like masterbation is bad and you . let yourself feel this way the vast majority of people masterbate so don't feel bad enjoy your orgasm and let the semem flow!

Answer 9

Because there doesn't seem to be anything else to do at that point. You need to discover the possibility that you could be wrong.

Answer 10

I'm guessing your male. Did she get hers? That why. And, it over. It is like chirstmas morning.

Answer 11

never thing after things happen. just blast out at that moment. and stop thinking after it happened and the time has gone. enjoy every bit of it.